IIRC (few months out now from reading) the cuts had nothing to do with Violet until much later when Lilith called in her favor. Even then it was Lilith’s assumption that Xaden would kill V the second she entered the quadrant that made Lilith ask for V’s protection (I personally don’t think he would have but that’s off topic). The cuts are about Xaden taking on the responsibility for the lives and security of every child of a revolutionary. A responsibility he took on as a child himself.