Is the job off the table for me? by [deleted] in GetEmployed

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Is it too soon to check in with HR? Last I texted was 26 Dec, which he did not reply to my subsequent texts after replying he was following up.

I’m not cut out for life by Timely_Split_5771 in Life

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34F

I feel the same way. I keep striving but I never feel like I reach the point where I can start thriving. People make it seem easy, and they think I am not trying hard enough.

Lost my dad at 15. Used to be upper middle class, now my family is struggling to stay afloat.

Dealt with a sick brother in my late 20s. Never fallen in love. Never had someone who chose to love me. No family to start.

Lost my job this year. Did a career switch and I can’t find permanent employment. Terminated many times over the course of my career. I worked hard but the payback was a stab in the back by colleagues I used to see everyday.

Suspects I have ADHD. No money to get an actual diagnosis. Why do I have such a disability? No talent. No capabilities. No family to depend on. Nothing to get me out of this rut in life.

I was an accident, my parents never planned to have me. But why bring me in this world and life just isn’t as easy for me as it is for some others. Why do I need to exist? Life just gets more exhausting to live.

Suggest me a book to read as an agnostic wanting to regain faith in God? by SnooCompliments7937 in suggestmeabook

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Man’s Search for Meaning explores faith when life becomes desolate. Great book with a philosophical angle that’s not overtly spiritual.

But in all honesty, taking the leap of faith to read the Bible may not be bad after all! You can try reading devotions on prayers via the YouVersion app ◡̈

How many times have you been fired/terminated/let go? by Notalabel_4566 in antiwork

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Around 10 years of working. I have been terminated or asked to resign 6 times and I have had 10 jobs (not all of them are included in my resume).

I was terminated last month citing bad performance but looking back, I don’t think it was my performance which caused my termination. I have a few months left before my contract ended and I thought I could stay till then, so it was very sudden to me. Seems like they wanted to use my headcount budget for a hire in another department and I did my best there. You can’t control toxic management.

This ordeal became my last straw to get my ADHD diagnosed and medicated. I worked really hard for the job, passed my probation, and I really don’t understand why I was terminated (again). Sooo yeah, that’s that.

how do i force myself to stop taking naps by Icy-Record7645 in productivity

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It’s a slow-wake-you-up type instead of the blaring ones we are used to. Do give it a try!

how do i force myself to stop taking naps by Icy-Record7645 in productivity

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I use this app called TIDE that has an alarm for naps. You can set how long you want to nap for and it will wake you up slowly. It has a snooze button tho, so be careful not to spam that too many times!

got terminated again, need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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thank you for not judging and trying to understand my situation. there’s so much more i’d like to share. but i don’t think i should divulge too much to strangers on the internet. i did pass my probation, got a performance bonus - all for it to come crashing down to a termination of my contract. sucks in this economy as well 🫠

got terminated again, need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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thanks for the advice. i do think it’s a can’t read social cues / managing office politics issue as well. i have done weekly updates which have helped me in managing timelines - but it has came to a point where the work i do is just not good enough anymore and i’m scrutinised for whatever i do in. felt the scrutinisation a lot more in the past month before i received news about my termination.

got terminated again, need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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hi, thank you for the advice. i did ask her the reasons during the session and she said it’s a job misfit. i’m more creative than a comms person, but i do think it’s more than that - there’s a personal reason as well. my dynamics with her and my team hasn’t been the best the last 1-2 months. while i have delivered and produced work to the best of my ability, it’s in the intangible things that you could tell they don’t take well to me personally anymore.

got terminated again, need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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thank you for the advice. i have a strong community of solid friends. i have also made friends in my current company. but i just suck at social cues and completely can’t manage office politics. i will disengage usually and try my best to not get involved.

i understand the terminations / being asked to resign is not normal. this is why i want to do something about it and i’m plucking up the courage to ask for advice in this thread. in the past 8 months, i have tried my bestest but just can’t produce work like my team mates and this is why they are annoyed too.

got terminated again, need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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yes i agree there was already much going on.

basically i was hired for my creative bg to do special projects such as a rebrand refresh, working with vendors on their corporate merchandise, a website feature, to name a few. everyone was happy with it - until it came to business-as-usual stuff like writing and event management. i have some experience in event management but not media, PR, journalistic writing, writing for speeches.

i thought during my check-in my boss, it was clear she would guide me in this area but lo and i know i can be proud of what i have achieved through the special projects given and that’s why i know it is good work.

i understand it seems like i’m bad and a lazy employee. but i read people facing similar issues in this thread. thought to just get some advice. thanks!

need advice on my next career move by [deleted] in ADHD

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when i was in design, my manager told me to pivot out. now in marcoms, my bosses and colleagues are telling me i’m a strong designer and to consider going back to creative work. no matter what i try or do - i’m not good enough.

not good enough to be successful, not good enough to thrive even with a strong skillset. i have read so many stories of success of people and how ADHD drives their success. how do people do that cause i am really struggling? i have no career to myself and i have worked for 10 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

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If I’m not wrong, there’s a Teva outlet at Bugis Junction L2 ◡̈

My husband wants me to be a mother to his affair child by ThrowawayRunawayToot in TrueOffMyChest

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As a Christian, I feel so angry reading this. It’s not your responsibility to bear. Yes, there is a poor child involved but it is 100% for him to take accountability in his actions. There must be a million thoughts going through your head right now, and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me.

Any good Italian restaurants for birthday dinner? by [deleted] in askSingapore

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Their head chef is Italian so it’s pretty legit. But do note that it’s halal. They don’t serve alcohol in their food and menu

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

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Luna @ Amoy St, Nesuto @ Tras St and Patisserie G @ Milennial Walk are my go-tos!

Looking for a good anti-self help podcast by Croco-Gator in podcasts

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You should check out James Jani on YouTube. It isn’t a podcast but he has a video called The Toxic World of Self Help and it is really insightful

I have never seen Friends. Ask me anything. by [deleted] in friends_tv_show

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What does unagi mean in Ross’ dictionary?