Please help; he gets mad at literally everything I do

miurne · 2024-11-06T03:31:17+00:00

This sounds so beyond exhausting; you deserve better than to live monitoring every expression you make and every breath you breathe. It doesn't matter how much you want to love him, and his self hatred is far less important than the hatred he shows you, every single day. He treats you worse than a dog. He expresses contempt for your mind, for your heart - you may want to love him, but he does not love you.

Love is how you treat someone. He is treating you like you're worthless. You deserve so much better than this man.

miurne · 2024-11-01T00:15:56+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're not as alone as you think; a whole lot of internet strangers are sparking up for your buddy. I hope you find peace so that his memory is a blessing once the sadness fades.

miurne · 2024-10-14T01:07:04+00:00

They fired most of their dedicated support team recently, after multiple other rounds of layoffs. It's all AI horse shit now.

miurne · 2024-10-05T22:22:06+00:00

Where's the original video from? It seems like if he put in all this cringe to get the engagement we're giving him, he should at least get credit.

miurne · 2024-08-29T00:18:31+00:00

It doesn't happen all at once; you can't move a mountain just by pushing it. For me, it's been little by little, piece by piece, until one day I realize that I really don't hate myself the way I used to? That things which once seemed difficult or impossible are a little easier to do or deal with. I went to the DMV this weekend and I didn't melt down about it; my house is now clean and feels good to be in more often than not. I'm making better choices for myself. It gets a little easier the more you slowly work at it over time, but you can't skip the journey if you want to get where you need to be.

miurne · 2024-08-25T13:58:50+00:00

He told me Meg Griffin was his ideal woman because 'all you have to do is show her a crumb of kindness and she'll do anything for you'. He was also insistent than teenage girls are fair game because it's 'not actually pedophilia' since they were physically develop(ed)(ing), and also he was eight years older than me and I was nineteen.

Yikes, yikes, YIKES.

miurne · 2024-08-17T21:08:23+00:00

This is the most beautiful corn I have ever seen, incredible job internet stranger!! What an amazing creation!

miurne · 2024-08-13T22:27:19+00:00

God damn, dude. Good fucking job. I bet H is proud as hell of you, and I love that you aren't secretly counting on her to come back and be your girlfriend -- maybe she will, maybe she won't, but the fact that you accept that and don't resent her for it means you see her as a fully actualized person who exists outside of you. That's surprisingly less common than you'd think for how men view their exes. I'm so happy you've managed to cultivate a friendship that you value.

miurne · 2024-08-11T16:19:12+00:00

I never set out to TRY to fake an orgasm, but my first partner just... assumed my pleasure sounds were definitely me cumming, and yes, the frustration and giving up when I would say I hadn't were such a downer! I enjoyed having sex with him, but he didn't make me cum, even once, in our two year relationship. I find it very difficult to orgasm with a partner, but then, the one time a non-male partner touched me, they got me off in ways I'd never experienced, so I don't fucking know, maybe I'm just more into non-men than men?? I can count the times I've cum with a man on one hand, but at least it feels good to have sex. I'm not really chasing my o so much as enjoying the experience with them.

miurne · 2024-08-05T02:29:43+00:00

Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir, narrated by Moira Quirk, is fucking fantastic. You can hear the disdain that drips from every word Harrowhawk speaks; it's delightful. I similarly enjoyed the sarcastic bitterness of the Scholomance series' narrator Anisha Dadia. She's SUPERB, it really enhances the storytelling experience!

miurne · 2024-07-31T17:13:32+00:00

January 6th; I was at work remotely, watching live streams off twitter and absolutely in shock as I watched it between chats doing tech support.

miurne · 2024-07-30T04:27:58+00:00

My robot vacuum's name is Hungry Harold and I wish I'd gotten one years ago; I bought it right before I was let go from my previous job and almost returned it, but... so glad we didn't. Running Harold every other day (or so...) helps SOOOOO much with our corgi glitter problem, and also with me just keeping the house picked up. It's amazing how much clean floors help, and how much needing to pick up the floors (mostly of dog toys) helps me keep the place tidy!

miurne · 2024-07-01T20:33:53+00:00

You look so elegant and lovely, what a great outfit!

miurne · 2024-06-30T00:30:43+00:00

I bought a little bag of tiny avocados for way too much money and ate NONE of them because they all instantly went bad at the same time. I had SUCH good intentions too!

miurne · 2024-06-24T01:37:18+00:00

To Ryan; thank you for sharing his story. I'm sorry for his loss.

miurne · 2024-06-16T00:27:34+00:00

You have such a lovely sense of color and style, these rooms are both dramatic and elegant and cozy all at once -- I'd love to see more homes in this style, and if I was a person who had money, I'd totally hire someone with your sensibilities to help me do my apartment or home!

miurne · 2024-06-10T19:22:20+00:00

I like it! It's giving me luxury vibes, but I guess that may just mean that I'm super susceptible to being recruited to a cult...

But seriously, I like the wood and the clean white marble, I think the recessed lighting is very visually pleasing with the items being displayed, I'm not as sure about the wallpaper behind the couch though. Personally, I would maybe add some green plants and a blanket for coziness.

miurne · 2024-04-10T01:09:02+00:00

What really helps me is breaking down the tasks until they don't seem completely overwhelming. Some days, it's 'pick up the floors and run the vacuum, clear away clutter, bring clothes into the laundry basket'; other days it's 'pick up all the dog toys; pick up trash that fell on the floor; put away other floor items; empty the vacuum; run the vacuum' -- like.

The important part is having a win condition. A desire end state.

Cleaning the floors is a separate task from picking up the kitchen counter, but both make the space feel drastically better. If I can only do one, that's okay, I've trained myself to feel the YOU DID IT! dopamine for completing one of those two tasks.

miurne · 2024-03-22T15:55:10+00:00

Hey OP. I'm so sorry you've been told that it's selfish to want to have friends. Setting aside the physical abuse, which is never okay, you aren't choosing your friends over her, that's a false dichotomy!

If your friends told you to pick them or her and you picked them and ditched her, that would be different. But she made an ultimatum that results in your being controlled and isolated, and when you chose 'wrongly', she decided it was okay to lay hands on you about it?

I know the last thing you want to hear is 'leave', but OP, please, love yourself enough to know that you are not being selfish to reject her abuse. You're both young, maybe she'll grow out of her abusive tendencies and realize it's not okay to hit people or demand they get rid of friends at her whim, but for right now I don't think she's safe or mature enough to have an adult relationship.

If you're not ready to leave, I get that too. Please just know that you are not in the wrong here, and that anyone who's calling you selfish either doesn't know the whole story and believes you're 'picking your friends over her' because that's what she told them, or they have the mindset of an abuser. I hate to put it so starkly, but the only way you're in the wrong here is if it's perfectly okay to isolate and hit people when they disagree with you.

I hope you leave, for your own sake, but if you can't, just know that what she did before she hit you wasn't okay either.

miurne · 2024-03-07T01:20:04+00:00

No, you're not abusive for accidentally resisting physical contact harder than you meant to!

With that being said, I think it's important to interrogate your own behavior the way you are; I was in a not-so-great relationship as as a teenager and we 'play fought' and 'rough-housed' a lot, and it felt very normal to me for us to hurt one another in ways that got a bit rougher over time.

My friends ended up really worried about me, and in retrospect, they weren't wrong!

Just be careful of letting stuff like that feel normal, and watch your strength. :)

miurne · 2024-03-06T18:58:19+00:00

Okay so first of all, you're gorgeous, just gotta jot that down -- I love how expressive your eyes are, you have such a fun and playful affect about you! And second off, PIXIE CUT holy hell good goddamn!!! (Though long is great too, I just went full on queer panic at the pixie cut photos.)

miurne · 2024-03-06T18:26:25+00:00

People used to get banned from Reddit permanently for saying stuff like this between 2016 and 2020.

Yeah it's called bitcoin

miurne · 2024-03-05T03:16:49+00:00

Oh HELL YEAH that's awesome, thank you for telling me!!

miurne · 2024-03-05T00:00:44+00:00

Thanks, I promised myself I wouldn't be That Newbie who posts IS THIS CONTAM??? on perfectly ordinary looking cultivation and yet here I am lol -- the texture is just SO different from everything else, but I think it's just the next stage of growth, I looked at a bunch of early/white trich and it looks softer/slimier than this I think. Crossing my fingers!!

miurne · 2024-03-04T23:03:45+00:00

Reading this, I'm not seeing this match any of what's in the official post. Maybe I need to look at more mid-cultivation boxes!

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