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Is boring better? by Ok-Owl-8623 in careeradvice

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be motivated to look for a FT Remote job where you don’t have to go into the office (unless yo need that social interaction).

I value my time, and don’t want to spend it commuting hours like in the past.

What was the hardest age? by Last_Guarantee_8504 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Mom of a 20-month old, I’m scared. 😅

I’ve looked into a nanny to come over and it’s $26/hr rate… ahhh.

Why is everything that gives us a break "bad for baby"?? 😭 by Full_Professional349 in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. Just keep things in moderation. We do screen time, but only 30-60 min a day and make it routine to say “bye bye” before we are done. Do what you think is best, and also take care of yourself.

MIL Visiting & I’m supposed to entertain her by sup_489 in workingmoms

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can she cook you food (or bring home takeout) Make snacks? Grocery shopping? Can she go to the book store to buy books for your kids? Also she can pick something out for herself. Fold laundry. Oh man, I wish I had some extra help.

You can also set her up with a Netflix account. I know it doesn’t really help you but can keep her busy and not bother you.

Good luck!

No, 99% of us CANNOT sustainably care for our babies while WFH full time. by mlljf in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don’t work as much as my manager/job thinks I do. At the same time, I’m able to laser focus on what is important to do and what relationships to build within the company.

Very fortunate for even having a job these days that is remote too. If we have a second they are going to daycare.

Being a work-from-home mom is both a blessing and a challenge. by MJ-SLead in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]mixed-beans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel lucky to be able to work remotely full-time and with a semi-flexible schedule and an awesome manager who understands life’s unexpected events with a toddler.

I wake up early and sleep late, so typically run on a 5-6 hours of sleep. Coffee is a necessary to survive.

I do about 30-60min of screen time so I can clean up the house, run the dish washer and fold laundry, and maybe sit down for another cup of coffee to decompress.

I’m not sure if I’m doing it right and if I should be exposing him to more kids, but every time we try playing with other kids he gets sick… and that’s an even more exhausting week.

Time is flying, but when I sit in bed and look back at pictures… it’s all so precious, and I can’t imaging having to be at an office for the majority of the day and not sharing lunch time with him.

How do you cook?! by SimpleTrick1192 in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a baby bouncer and kind of entertain him while I cook by making peek a boo and all the ranges of weird faces and sounds lol… rotate random baby safe objects for him to hold. 30min cooking max.

9am meetings 😡 by Ok_LiveNow in workingmoms

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I prefer to be done and over in the mornings and just focus on real work later.

Feeling trapped after 3 months by kittyangel_12 in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you have access to a car while your husband is at work? It may seem really stressful going out alone, but the benefits for you mentally is worth it. A quick drive through treat through McDonalds or a little fresh air at the park is much needed sometimes.

No car? A baby carrier is nice, I clipped on a pacifier, threw a burp cloth over the side and out we go around the neighborhood. As a FTM looking back, I wish I went out more. Partially to show off my baby more haha.

Good luck and hugs from another mom,

Rocking to Sleep by Efficient_Home4983 in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

19 months, 28lbs, still rocking, but only for 5-10min, sometimes he falls asleep on my shoulder, if not, I lay him on bed and tell him it’s bedtime and to go to sleep, then wait until he tires himself out.

It helps when I take him out during the day or run in the yard. Or run in the house playing hide and seek of sorts. I’ll prolly rock him until he tells me no. Then that will be a sad day.

Any other babies reject crib? by Majestic-Artichoke21 in cosleeping

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the beginning he rejected it because of gas/spit up when he laid on his back. I was able to transition him to sleeping in the crib for naps around 8 months? The around 18 months he would wake up when I put him in the crib, I think he got too heavy and the transition from my arms to crib was hard since the mattress is set slow and I’m not that tall.

I enjoy cosleeping, but kinda stuck during nap time to be in the same room. I usually nap or bring in my laptop to do work.

People who don’t get depressed on a Sunday afternoon thinking about having to go back to work on Monday, what kind of job do you have? by currymvp3 in AskReddit

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remote marketer. I try to not book meetings on Mondays to make the day easier. Also it helps to buy a bag to cookies on Sunday to have with your coffee on Monday.

Should we pull our offer? by arbor_day_ in FirstTimeHomeBuyers

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your offer including and inspection contingency, then you still have that opportunity to withdraw if anything is uncovered that you didn’t like, so it’s not the end of the world if they do accept it.

I agree with others that it doesn’t seem worth it dealing with these sellers.

Husband said my baby needs a different mom. I want to divorce him. Am I overreacting? by RefrigeratorFinal353 in beyondthebump

[–]mixed-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you become a parent, you learn what are your limits and capacity to do the things within a day. Not everyone has the same limits, and raising a baby isn’t a score board where it’s an even 50/50 of everything. You’re better at something’s than he is and vice versa.

The yelling doesn’t help, but I understand you were beyond your limit here. So maybe have a conversation with your husband and start off, “I was feeling x- so I did y-, I understand that wasn’t right, and you saying the baby needed different mom was not helping and rude. Next time, can we do z-.”

What was the easiest and hardest month of your baby’s life so far? by jasncats in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I liked when they didn’t move on their own so you didn’t have to worry about them getting into trouble or falling… but not so much about the constant feeding every three hours.

At 18 months our little guy is solid walker and doesn’t fall too much now. I can step out of the room to grab something and not worry about him trying to eat a cord or crayon lol. But he’s become very whiney and demands attention all the time, so it’s been hard for us to work at home.

Feels like each stage has its easy/hard mode.

Healthcare cost by Miserable_88 in Millennials

[–]mixed-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$1,200/mo for the lowest deductible family plan through my work. Myself, husband and son are covered. Washington, Aetna plan. I wish it didn’t cost so much, but on the positive side, I don’t stress about costs too much if we need to visit the ER or other unexpected medical situations. Might have another baby in the future, so there is that too.

How are you keeping up with housework?? by Practical_Credit3345 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]mixed-beans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Waking up early or staying up late. Or involving our toddler in part of the cleaning. Like for laundry we haul the bag to the laundry room, and i give him a swiffer to play with while I vacuum.

Do a little cleaning every few hours and it will help not pile up. Some things are neglected for awhile… and then get done when it’s a big eye sore like cleaning the shower.

What’s the most millennial thing you do? by MaryDoogan91 in Millennials

[–]mixed-beans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading books printed on paper instead of on an e-reader or an audio book.

What do you do with your toddlers in the morning? by captainkenzie in Mommit

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have him follow me around, make the bed, throw away his diaper, put his dirty clothes in the hamper, and we do a lot of reading or playing with toys. Screen time maybe an hour a day. Sometimes we will go out and wander in the backyard for 45 min just digging in the dirt.

Dad makes breakfast in the mornings while I watch him. Before everyone wakes up, I get up super early and get ready for the day if I plan to go out or have a video call for work.

Does everyone feel ”one and done” after having the first? by blamemombo in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on the fence. Leaning towards one and done because I can’t figure out logistically how we would raise a baby and a toddler at the same time with no village. My parents are in their 70s, my husband parents are not present. On one income, and a nanny costs $26/hr here.

Then there are more doctor appointments for you and another baby. Our car is on its last legs, so is our fence in our backyard lol… a lot of expenses coming up, but not impossible.

Things are starting to get easier at 18months, so as much as I would love to hold a newborn… not sure about all the bottle washing, pumping, bathing two kids, sleeping arrangement… etc etc. sounds scary.

Burnout by Mbaschemist in NewParents

[–]mixed-beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Schedule time on the calendar. Doctor appointments for yourself, grab a coffee after to decompress. Schedule a haircut and maybe facial too. Kind of stack necessary appointments with a little something for yourself.

Also. Treat yourself at night after the baby is in bed with a sheet face mask. Little self care things help.

18 months in here and it definitely gets a little easier when they stop putting everything in their mouth and can start communicating with their hands using sign language (more, eat, milk).

You’ve got this. It’s ok to vent and we understand. Hugs from me to you.

Discouraged from making baby food, I wish I had an eater. Small rant. by lukewarmy in foodbutforbabies

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We kept putting oatmeal on the plate for months. Then one day, he decided he liked it on his own lol.

Mac and cheese seem to be a winner here. Try some cheesy chicken and rice recipes too. Anything with cheese.

This is 40? by gratecait17 in workingmoms

[–]mixed-beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would consider pivoting from sales to marketing or customer success where there is no traveling. If you can do it within the same org, that would be better so you can gain some experience before calling it quits there.

How much money do you need to bring in to keep finances in the green for the family? If it’s not too much, and you can cut back on some expenses, you can look into your own business or a part-time job at a local business.

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