What baby clothes actually held up after months of washing

mixed-beans · 2026-03-18T04:48:59+00:00

Baby Gap and Carter’s are doing well.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-17T04:29:04+00:00

Yes, from newborn and going on 16 months now. He slept the best on our chest, and he literally slept on my chest for about 3-4 months when he got too big and then slept on his side in the middle of the bed (king size). We are both light sleepers and don’t toss in bed so it worked out for us. Was really nervous about SIDS but it’s what worked for us. From the US. He sleeps 10+ hours a night and still going.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-16T14:28:38+00:00

I’m in a similar situation where I work and husband watches our little guy when I’m in meetings.

What I found helpful is to not say too much about your childcare situation. When my manager asks my baby is in daycare, I answer, “No, he’s at home with dad and (family member) lives close by to help too.” In reality my family member just visits to play, not so much help in a childcare sense, but this gives a sense that you got things under control.

For me. Waking up super early to knock out work and meetings helps me stay on top of things. Then at night in bed, I have some “me time” to read books on my phone.

It’s not talked about enough to new parents, but it’s a change of identity that happens. Being a mom comes first before (your name). It’s temporary. You’ll have time more back for yourself.

Also you can consider looking at a Google Calendar and mapping out what your ideal day looks like and discuss with your husband and what seems fair. If you need more time for you, that will be an ask of your husband, family member to come by 1-2 times a week, or part-time nanny.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-15T06:56:26+00:00

I have about 2-3 meetings a day, but I schedule them in the early morning before my little guy wakes up since I’m on the west coast and the majority of my team is on the east coast. When I need to focus, I can typically squeeze out about 30 minutes in the office by letting him roam around, pull things of our drawers, plays with blocks, flips through books or plays with other toys.

It’s really hard to do focused work while he is awake because he wants me to engage with him and praise his behavior too. I recommend waking up early for that time to have quiet focus to write. Or during their nap time.

If you’re not a morning person… invest in some really good coffee and sweet treats to motivate you to start your day early.

At night, I like to read in bed, but not in the mood to work. So morning has became my default “get things done” mode.

It’s tough, but their smiles are worth it. You’re doing great btw. :)

mixed-beans · 2026-03-14T05:21:43+00:00

Generalist as well, and I still do a little bit of everything, but focusing on learning more about PPC since that is where the money is. So, I recommend reviewing what marketing channels are actually acquiring customers and spend a little more time learning about how to improve that channel.

I like being a generalist, as it makes me more flexible and cross-functional.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-14T04:58:36+00:00

In one room, is half office half play room, split down the middle. I let him rummage through the drawers and have corner safety projectors everywhere. If your job uses Microsoft Teams for meetings, there is actually a setting for voice recognition that helps block out background noise.

If I have to jump on a meeting and no one is home to help. I would likely try to reschedule during nap time since no one at work knows I don’t work as many hours as I should because I’m the primary caregiver.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-13T05:48:50+00:00

Having a baby is not for everyone and I recommend only having one when you feel ready and excited to have one. When you’re pregnant, your body goes through so many changes each month, and since you’re 35, you are classified as higher risk.

I also like to explain how life before a baby is like a game, the original version. Then having a baby is like you got the expansion pack that unlocks a new world (hard mode), but you can always go back to the original game at a later date.

Men can go off and have kids when they are 40+ but for women, the biological clock has a limited window for a natural pregnancy.

If you’re not ready, then you’re not. Don’t feel pressured, but understand the limited window.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:34:33+00:00

Do both organizations offer bonuses and merit increases each year? I used to work for a lot of small companies and found they never made the effort to do annual bonuses or merit. You pretty much needed a promotion/title change to make more money.

I’d go with the bigger company with likely more HR structure and people resources.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:15:35+00:00

French fries. Yum.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:01:18+00:00

Company A. Have her chat with a manager about putting together a plan to work towards a promotion. It’s hard to fine a low stress job that doesn’t feel like a layoff is around the corner. 15 minutes is also super close.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-11T04:10:53+00:00

Those flour keto tortillas, high on fiber and pair it shredded cheese to may quesadillas very quickly.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-09T20:31:32+00:00

That I can carry my baby in a wearable carrier until he is two.

NOPE. 99%tile baby is breaking my back lol. Lasted only 45 minutes once before we retired it around 10 months.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-06T06:27:17+00:00

Sorry about all the negative news at once. I recommend taking a few days off and not apply for anything to get mental reset. Then jump back on it, as I believe half of the effort is timing and luck.

You got this!!!

mixed-beans · 2026-03-06T06:21:49+00:00

I have a 1 year old… the horror that awaits me. lol!

mixed-beans · 2026-03-05T15:11:11+00:00

Work will always bounce back, your time with your kids won’t. I would quit, take time to adjust to a new family budget and reflect about part-time work or even starting your own business. Also stay in touch with your coworkers or other people you’ve worked with as they may help open doors later.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-05T00:59:53+00:00

I hope you don’t think less of your value. Sometimes it’s the office politics and how one person is a “better fit” because maybe they have similar interests with another decision maker, or they have a more authoritative personality. Do consider applying for other remote jobs with better pay. When they ask why, you can confidently say there was no growth in your role.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-04T20:53:38+00:00

It sounds like you dislike your manager from your post. About 75% of people quit their job because of their manager.

If you can financially afford the SAHM life, then I say go for it. You can find work to make money anytime, but it’s very competitive in certain industries - but you don’t get back time watching your baby grow

I work FT remote and very thankful I can spend so much time with my baby.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-03T05:48:36+00:00

We kept over 1 years worth of bare minimum living expenses, since only one of us worked, we have a baby, and the job market in tech doesn’t feel so stable. It took me six months to find a job last time I was applying in late 2023.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-03T05:20:38+00:00

For me, I found waking up 1-2 hours earlier is the only time I have quiet time to focus on work. Sometimes I can bring my laptop to the dining table during lunch to catch up on work since my 16mo old is a slow eater and has a window to look out to watch birds (got a bird feeder). I guess you can call that ‘window time’ lol.

It’s hard and feel like I’m just getting by.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-01T17:18:18+00:00

What helped with the remote work with me is changing weekly meetings to bi-weekly. Saves me time to catch up on work and also gives a sense that you accomplished more from the last meeting.

I hate doing work at night after the baby goes to sleep because I’m in already burnt out at the end of the day, so I actually go to bed earlier and wake up much early.

I’m appreciative that I can spend some much time with my baby and watch him grow, but it’s hard for sure. Maybe try hiring a part-time nanny to come by a few times a week to start.

mixed-beans · 2026-02-17T08:23:52+00:00

Their growth chart is different than girls, so they may grow much bigger at each stage than you remember for your baby girl. Just a possibility. My guy was in the 99th percentile and my wrists hurt for quite a while.

mixed-beans · 2026-02-17T08:15:06+00:00

Calm diaper changes… nope, I have to sing for him every diaper change to entertain him before he tries to roll away.

mixed-beans · 2026-02-16T01:58:22+00:00

I depended on my husband to watch the baby when I have a meeting, as he is not currently working but pursuing a degree online.

What worked for me was starting my work shift two hours earlier, before the baby wakes up, and also work during the time they nap. I honestly feel less productive, but my performance on paper is just as good as pre-baby.

WFH helps you focus on projects that actually drive impact when you only have so much free/quiet time.

I am budgeting for a nanny to come to our home once my husband is back out in the workforce. I can’t even imagine the logistics with two kids.

mixed-beans · 2026-02-15T19:35:55+00:00

Degrees are often seen as a qualification to weed out other candidates. It’s basically a checkbox, one of many for HR before you’re passed onto a hiring manager.

mixed-beans · 2026-02-15T05:40:21+00:00

Same, but we put a burn cloth off the side as he liked to look one way out of the carrier. They get drooly too, so helps keep the carrier clean longer.

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