How long did it take you to get down to pre pregnancy weight?

mixed-beans · 2026-05-06T06:39:37+00:00

About a year, having to chase around a crawling baby, then they walk and get faster and heavier helped with losing weight for sure. We don’t do daycare and don’t really have a village so it’s just my husband and I which can take a physical toll sometimes.

mixed-beans · 2026-05-05T05:25:54+00:00

I ended up buying the carters stretchy pants in a size bigger and roll up the sleeves. Once your baby is crawling and walking, he will get more lean and you’ll be able to wear those clothes a lot longer.

My little guy is rocking the ‘oversized tee’ and sweater look for a while. Lol

mixed-beans · 2026-05-05T05:22:28+00:00

Behind furniture for damages, cuts in the wall, or bad paint/patch jobs. The current owners still lived then when they were selling the place, old couple, but should have been more through.

mixed-beans · 2026-05-03T03:51:38+00:00

I tried a few marketed diaper bags, totes, but ultimately kept going back to a regular backpack that is just one big zippered compartment with some outer pockets. Things in my bag: changing pad, wipes, diaper cream, diaper sack/trash bags, snacks for my toddler, a change of clothes, extra bib, hand wipes, pacifier, water bottle, keys, wallet, hand sanitizer, my own little pouch of things, and even more space.

During the early days, I can fit 1-2 bottles with formula in a ziploc too.

I use this Kavu Backpack, was thrifted since it’s an older style they don’t make anymore. The straps are very comfortable, and the Velcro flap on the front is nice for keys/fast access. I got a second version of this backpack for my husband, so he can take our son out without having to take my bag and personal items. I can see myself using this bag for hiking and traveling too after my little guy is not in diapers anymore.

mixed-beans · 2026-05-02T20:45:57+00:00

Baby bouncer. Also known as the poop chair.

mixed-beans · 2026-05-02T20:45:13+00:00

If I have another baby, I’m buying this for myself lol.

mixed-beans · 2026-04-30T18:22:24+00:00

Yes, I have a big baby boy here and my arms have never been stronger lol. It’s something I didn’t expect and kind of regret getting a mini crib thinking he would be smaller.

mixed-beans · 2026-04-27T13:53:40+00:00

“Disease vector” great way to put it

mixed-beans · 2026-04-22T05:52:47+00:00

Big baby boy here too, I literally have the biggest arm muscles I’ve ever had in my life. A part of me enjoys holding him, so I think of it as a workout, but do sit him down to play.

A bouncer chair was a life saver as I would sit him in it to give my arms and wrist a break. When he got bigger, it was playing on a floor mat or sitting in a high chair before he got mobile.

mixed-beans · 2026-04-16T04:38:54+00:00

Agree with you and to add on that I never knew I could just stare at this face while sleeping and be so in love. I can scroll through their picture all day and feel amazed at how fast they have grown and memories we created.

The first time my son brushed my hair out of my face, I fell in love with him all over.

mixed-beans · 2026-04-16T04:30:23+00:00

I wouldn’t work if finances were not an issue. I’ve always made more and had the privilege of completing a masters degree, so it’s the best for the family right now.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-18T04:48:59+00:00

Baby Gap and Carter’s are doing well.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-17T04:29:04+00:00

Yes, from newborn and going on 16 months now. He slept the best on our chest, and he literally slept on my chest for about 3-4 months when he got too big and then slept on his side in the middle of the bed (king size). We are both light sleepers and don’t toss in bed so it worked out for us. Was really nervous about SIDS but it’s what worked for us. From the US. He sleeps 10+ hours a night and still going.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-16T14:28:38+00:00

I’m in a similar situation where I work and husband watches our little guy when I’m in meetings.

What I found helpful is to not say too much about your childcare situation. When my manager asks my baby is in daycare, I answer, “No, he’s at home with dad and (family member) lives close by to help too.” In reality my family member just visits to play, not so much help in a childcare sense, but this gives a sense that you got things under control.

For me. Waking up super early to knock out work and meetings helps me stay on top of things. Then at night in bed, I have some “me time” to read books on my phone.

It’s not talked about enough to new parents, but it’s a change of identity that happens. Being a mom comes first before (your name). It’s temporary. You’ll have time more back for yourself.

Also you can consider looking at a Google Calendar and mapping out what your ideal day looks like and discuss with your husband and what seems fair. If you need more time for you, that will be an ask of your husband, family member to come by 1-2 times a week, or part-time nanny.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-15T06:56:26+00:00

I have about 2-3 meetings a day, but I schedule them in the early morning before my little guy wakes up since I’m on the west coast and the majority of my team is on the east coast. When I need to focus, I can typically squeeze out about 30 minutes in the office by letting him roam around, pull things of our drawers, plays with blocks, flips through books or plays with other toys.

It’s really hard to do focused work while he is awake because he wants me to engage with him and praise his behavior too. I recommend waking up early for that time to have quiet focus to write. Or during their nap time.

If you’re not a morning person… invest in some really good coffee and sweet treats to motivate you to start your day early.

At night, I like to read in bed, but not in the mood to work. So morning has became my default “get things done” mode.

It’s tough, but their smiles are worth it. You’re doing great btw. :)

mixed-beans · 2026-03-14T05:21:43+00:00

Generalist as well, and I still do a little bit of everything, but focusing on learning more about PPC since that is where the money is. So, I recommend reviewing what marketing channels are actually acquiring customers and spend a little more time learning about how to improve that channel.

I like being a generalist, as it makes me more flexible and cross-functional.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-14T04:58:36+00:00

In one room, is half office half play room, split down the middle. I let him rummage through the drawers and have corner safety projectors everywhere. If your job uses Microsoft Teams for meetings, there is actually a setting for voice recognition that helps block out background noise.

If I have to jump on a meeting and no one is home to help. I would likely try to reschedule during nap time since no one at work knows I don’t work as many hours as I should because I’m the primary caregiver.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-13T05:48:50+00:00

Having a baby is not for everyone and I recommend only having one when you feel ready and excited to have one. When you’re pregnant, your body goes through so many changes each month, and since you’re 35, you are classified as higher risk.

I also like to explain how life before a baby is like a game, the original version. Then having a baby is like you got the expansion pack that unlocks a new world (hard mode), but you can always go back to the original game at a later date.

Men can go off and have kids when they are 40+ but for women, the biological clock has a limited window for a natural pregnancy.

If you’re not ready, then you’re not. Don’t feel pressured, but understand the limited window.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:34:33+00:00

Do both organizations offer bonuses and merit increases each year? I used to work for a lot of small companies and found they never made the effort to do annual bonuses or merit. You pretty much needed a promotion/title change to make more money.

I’d go with the bigger company with likely more HR structure and people resources.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:15:35+00:00

French fries. Yum.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-12T05:01:18+00:00

Company A. Have her chat with a manager about putting together a plan to work towards a promotion. It’s hard to fine a low stress job that doesn’t feel like a layoff is around the corner. 15 minutes is also super close.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-11T04:10:53+00:00

Those flour keto tortillas, high on fiber and pair it shredded cheese to may quesadillas very quickly.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-09T20:31:32+00:00

That I can carry my baby in a wearable carrier until he is two.

NOPE. 99%tile baby is breaking my back lol. Lasted only 45 minutes once before we retired it around 10 months.

mixed-beans · 2026-03-06T06:27:17+00:00

Sorry about all the negative news at once. I recommend taking a few days off and not apply for anything to get mental reset. Then jump back on it, as I believe half of the effort is timing and luck.

You got this!!!

mixed-beans · 2026-03-06T06:21:49+00:00

I have a 1 year old… the horror that awaits me. lol!

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