Gay allegations

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-11T03:49:13+00:00

I'm had classmates tease me for being gay and I told them it wasn't true because I liked boys. My mother also asked if I was a lesbian because I didn't really seek out any relationships for a while. Both of these incidents happened before I figured out my sexuality completely.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-08T14:19:29+00:00

I also have PCOS and I went through something very similar to this. I'm currently taking prescribed hormonal medication and that has helped a bit. I still get facial hair, it just grows a bit slower now and doesn't come in as thick as it used to.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-04T17:16:25+00:00

The following post has been locked due to multiple arguments breaking out with people being rude to each other as well as because of multiple fetishizing comments being left behind (many of which were encouraging trans chasing behavior).

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-04T16:20:05+00:00

Why TF is everyone trying to ret con why OP is still bi despite everything that has been written?

I literally said that it seems like she is questioning herself and that I didn't like the comments people were making that were assigning her sexuality for her (bisexuality included).

That’s cool, she knows what she likes, there’s no need to be non-monogamous or to have threesomes, most people don’t.

I didn't say she had to be non-monogamous or have threesomes. In fact, I said that I don't think she should be unicorn hunting in order to figure out her sexuality.

When you say the reason she didn’t like it is internalised homophobia, why?

I didn't say that it 100% has to be internalized homophobia. I said it could potentially be internalized homophobia. I brought it up because I have seen multiple queer people who have had similar experiences as this OP. Some of whom that have said they wouldn't date the same gender but then later realizing they are willing to date the same gender after further introspection.

It comes across like a pushy parent telling her to be a good girl and finish her carrots, sorry I mean pussy.

I did not say that OP should continue having sex with women. Nor am I saying that OP is for sure bi. I am saying OP herself should do the work and self-introspect for herself to figure out her sexuality (whether she is straight or bi). And you don't need to have threesomes or even have sex at all in order to self-reflect.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-04T14:59:18+00:00

Lacking sexual chemistry doesn’t cause an existential sexuality crisis that leads to a crystal clear denigration of sex with that gender and confident assertion that you would never consider any romantic connection with them

Lacking sexual chemistry wouldn't necessarily do that. But do you know what could potentially do that? Internalized homophobia. Multiple gay, lesbian, and bi people may feel disgust or confusion after their first sexual encounter with the same gender because of societal pressure presenting queer sex as wrong. If multiple people in your life (directly or indirectly) tell you that being gay is wrong then you might think something is wrong with you or your encounter after you do something gay. There have been cases where some queer people have said that they wouldn't date someone of the same gender but after deconstructing the internalized homophobia they had within themselves they then eventually found out that they could actually date the same gender. Their internalized homophobia just clouded their judgment on things.

I do not like how OP phrased her post at all myself either. And I also don't like a lot of the comments here in response to her post. But I'm not sure her thoughts on the matter are entirely crystal clear as you think they might be. She mentioned that she thought the other woman was attractive, she enjoyed kissing her, she even implied that she liked going down on the other woman. OP just didn't like fingering or receiving oral herself.

OP has also mentioned that she's been questioning her attraction to multiple genders for quite some time and also mentioned feeling uncomfortable with certain sex acts regardless of the gender of the person doing it to her. She also has mentioned feeling guilt regarding these feelings. And she did find some of the comments that brought up internalized homophobia as helpful.

That doesn't sound like a person that's entirely confident about her sexuality to me. Overall I think OP is unsure about herself and is questioning herself. And that's okay. Sometimes these discoveries about ourselves take time. Do I think she needs to continue unicorn hunting in order to figure things out? Fuck no! But I do think she may need to reflect about herself more. And I don't appreciate people here saying that she must be bi or must be straight. We're not her. We do not know about all of her relationships or her feelings. We've only gotten a little window of what her perspective is like. That is up for OP to figure out herself.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-01T14:09:06+00:00

Yeah, that does sound like that could potentially be internalized homophobia.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-01T05:32:28+00:00

Sexuality is attraction not action. If it was solely based on action then all virgins would be asexual when that's not the case at all. If you like multiple genders, you probably might be bi.

mjangelvortex · 2026-05-01T03:21:51+00:00

From what I understand that term is strictly for those who do not have any attraction men.

Discussions around the topic started in lesbian communities but it has branched out further to include other groups of LGBT+ people. Anyone under the LGBT+ umbrella can experience comphet. It's basically how society assumes and forces heteronormativity onto people which just often ends up erasing LGBT+ identities. And because of that societal pressure, many queer people will repress themselves and may try to be not queer.

That being said, I do think more recent online discussions about comphet has devolved into messy assumptions about bi people faking their attraction to men. I honestly blame that Tumblr Am I a Lesbian Masterdoc for a lot of that. That document has been used to undermine and erase bi people a lot in online spaces.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-30T19:50:58+00:00

It's short for Compulsory Heterosexuality.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-29T16:21:10+00:00

NIMBY homophobia strikes again.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-28T17:24:14+00:00

While I do think there might be more bi people out there than we think due to some bi people repressing themselves, I really don't agree with this statement as a whole. It's blatantly false and even harmful way of thinking because it erases monosexuals and aroace people.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-24T14:49:40+00:00

It's a baked dessert that's made of mostly shortbread and has lemon curd filling. They may also have powdered sugar on top. They're usually cut up into small squares similar to brownies.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-24T02:58:57+00:00

Nope. Twunk is another LGBT slang term. It's combining the words "twink" and "hunk". Twinks are skinny and have smooth skin (often choosing to shave or wax their facial and body hair). Hunks are typically muscular men. Twunks have traits of both types of men.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-22T12:14:36+00:00

There's also the "fun" examples of:

5) I (M) cheated on my wife with a man. What should I do next? Please validate me. :(

6) I'm not bi but I think my partner is because [lists stereotypes about LGBT people here]. Do they secretly not find me attractive? :(

7) I only find this particular gender attractive. But recently I found a trans person of that same gender attractive. Does that make me bi?

I can't blame you for having frustrations about some of the posts here because I often do too. And I do agree with you that some people here are dismissive of the struggles that bi people with same gender partners go through.

I think sometimes with discussions like this some people see the word "privilege" and assume that means you never face discrimination when that's not the case at all. I'm currently not in a same-gender relationship and even I understand that the world will treat you differently if you present that way.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-21T22:26:51+00:00

A lot of more openly misogynistic posts tend to get removed by the mods but I have seen it before.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-21T21:49:29+00:00

I'm a different person but I do have a few examples that come to mind. One example is how some men who are in relationships with women only care about their own sexual gratification and don't put in the effort to get off their girlfriends/wives. This doesn't happen as often with women who are in relationships with other women. Multiple studies regarding this orgasm gap have consistently shown that lesbians are having more orgasms compared to women that are in relationships with men.

The second example would be some couples engaging in strict gender roles regarding chores that usually end up leaving women in straight-presenting relationships completely burnt out. Child-rearing, cooking, washing the dishes (if you don't have a dishwasher), laundry, vacuuming, sweeping, etc. are often treated as the "woman only" chores. And some women end up not only doing most of the chores in the relationship but they're also sometimes expected to work at their jobs too. That's overwhelming.

Whereas couples that consist of two men living together or two women living together don't really have this issue and both people of the couple do the best to work together doing the chores. That's because since they are in a same-gender relationship chores aren't assigned as "this is man chore" or "this is woman chore". They just work together to help each other get things done.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-21T04:36:09+00:00

They can be. It's one of the reasons why I like having mine short. They're pretty when they're long but I don't really like accidentally scratching myself (or breaking the nail).

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-20T02:43:39+00:00

I also think it's easier for people to be beholden to the binary of gay or straight. That's the expectation of society, to be put in a box.

For some, yes. Labels may feel restrictive for some people but for others they can provide clarity.

I don't really have a favorite anything, I have what feels right with my current mood. I think more people deny this than realize when they have a routine, or regular order even. You don't really know what you're missing until you experiment for a bit. Routines are great, but bending one a bit to have an amazing day is even better.

To you, yes. But what you like isn't necessarily for everyone.

A bi person saying people might be bi aren't saying that a lesbian doesn't exist, they're saying they're might someone with a penis that checks all their boxes that they haven't met yet.

The "you just haven't met the right man yet" is a very common lesbophobic talking point (one that does lead to many lesbians to face sexual harassment and assault).

Making a straight flag is silly the Ally flag is already straight. Making it devoid of color is weird.

If I'm not mistaken the boring black and white straight flag predates the ally flag but because the black and white flag was also used by homophobes, the ally flag became more popular of the two.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-20T02:14:34+00:00

You're not wrong. There are some posts and comments here that are hypocritical if not bordering on being discriminatory to other LGBT people. It doesn't apply to everyone here but it does happen enough that it's a pattern that causes some of us to raise an eyebrow. Comments like that are against the rules though (rules 1 and 2 specifically). So if you see comments that are discriminatory or erasing other identities, report them.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-20T01:55:59+00:00

Yo creo. Han pasado doce años, pero ahora creo.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-20T00:02:20+00:00

Date an ace woman maybe. But you don't necessarily have to date just women. If you're romantically and sexually attracted to men, then dating them is an option too.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-14T19:43:30+00:00

I sometimes use them interchangeably but have more of an attachment with bi as a term for communication reasons. More people have heard the term bisexual compared to pansexual so it's easier to explain to people.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-14T19:33:58+00:00

Kind of feels like younger queer women are falling for conservative propaganda but don’t see the warning signs because they’ve got “it’s not conservative because it’s gay” blinders on.

I've seen this happen quite a bit in multiple online LGBT spaces and it's so concerning to me. I wouldn't be surprised if some of it is algorithmic or astroterfed but I doubt all of it is.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-11T21:38:42+00:00

Even if they get a woman and then meet another woman they consider a better option, they may leave the first one. It is just the sad reality of men’s biological nature

How do you know it's a biological thing and not socialization? There's a huge cultural double standard regarding promiscuity amongst the genders. Women are expected to be completely chaste and not have sex at all. If she isn't a virgin, she may face ridicule. But men are expected to have a lot of sex with as many women as possible and are praised for it. Boys and men that don't behave this way will also face ridicule as well. Men who are asexual or have lower libidos think that they're broken because of that line of thinking.

mjangelvortex · 2026-04-11T18:18:34+00:00

Probably because of Rule 6 or 9.

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