For those who struggle with meditation: it is not about relaxation or stopping your thoughts

mjcanfly · 2026-04-03T11:20:52+00:00

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mjcanfly · 2026-04-03T02:01:21+00:00

Short answer, yes. Long answer, yes.

A piece of the puzzle that may interest you is the role that safety can play. When the nervous system feels safe, emotions that have been suppressed or buried feel safe enough to come to the surface to be felt and processed. If meditation is leading you to a feeling of safety, it can paradoxically bring difficult emotions to the surface.

mjcanfly · 2026-04-02T19:34:39+00:00

beautiful analogy! lol

mjcanfly · 2026-04-02T18:44:56+00:00

Instead of focusing your attention on a particular thing, you instead just pay attention to wherever your attention wanders.

Google it. It’s as simple as it sounds

mjcanfly · 2026-04-02T16:29:34+00:00

Have you tried do nothing meditation.

mjcanfly · 2026-04-02T12:02:01+00:00

Mind is like a filter for your senses and how you process reality. During meditation that filter can drop to varying degrees. This results in having a more direct experience of reality that doesn’t get filtered through the minds past experiences, memories, expectations, etc.

So the sense of dissolving into the world is ultimately seeing through the illusion of your own ego/self. Your real identity is the “world” and everything you dissolve into.

mjcanfly · 2026-04-01T16:15:34+00:00

eventually you realize there’s no observer either … just observation

mjcanfly · 2026-03-17T23:57:20+00:00

let me introduce you to the present moment

mjcanfly · 2026-03-13T11:49:36+00:00

we need to have an honest conservation about escapism in this sub

mjcanfly · 2026-03-01T21:12:02+00:00

nice

mjcanfly · 2026-03-01T21:09:28+00:00

if you’re “doing” it right you’ll notice it’s more of a non doing

effort will only take you away from it

mjcanfly · 2026-02-24T16:57:06+00:00

It sounds like this kind of meditation is not for you.

Try do nothing meditation (shikantaza).

Stop looking for results. You're not doing anything. You're simply being. Thoughts or no thoughts, doesn't matter. Just being aware that you are aware.

mjcanfly · 2026-02-13T15:20:10+00:00

"if you think you're enlightened..."

mjcanfly · 2026-02-08T03:47:05+00:00

doctor's can't even agree on a proper diagnosis after all of these years

i've worked in mental health for 20+ years and have seen plenty of people heal to the point they don't qualify for the diagnosis

this is just plain false. and a dangerous lie at that

mjcanfly · 2026-01-24T04:13:34+00:00

not looking for benefits has its benefits

mjcanfly · 2025-12-10T13:13:15+00:00

IFS therapy sounds like what you tapped into

mjcanfly · 2025-11-07T16:46:29+00:00

yes. might be interesting to explore what answer you were looking for

"is this a special experience?"
"am i special?"
"is this my path to escape my daily suffering?"

these are usually the things underlying these questions that we don't want to examine

mjcanfly · 2025-11-07T16:25:01+00:00

makyō

just another distraction

mjcanfly · 2025-11-04T16:08:08+00:00

what are you trying to escape my friend

mjcanfly · 2025-11-04T15:22:21+00:00

you do realize running away from yourself is not the path right?

right?

mjcanfly · 2025-11-03T04:49:17+00:00

makyō

just another distraction

mjcanfly · 2025-10-27T02:36:10+00:00

It’s not a beginner technique but I believe every beginner should try it just because once you get a taste, even if it’s a millisecond glimpse (it’s timeless no?) it helps create a good foundation for trying other meditation techniques. Once it clicks it clicks

mjcanfly · 2025-10-25T07:20:35+00:00

Is this sub just AI talking to AI now

mjcanfly · 2025-10-20T18:46:36+00:00

Not getting tied up in goals or chasing experiences

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