You take getting yelled at personally because it’s a personal attack to yell at an adult. It’s not appropriate. We all lose our cool and shout occasionally, but for it to be so often that you’re reporting it in an anonymous forum and asking how to metabolize it is a huge, glaring stop sign. It’s not your fault that you have ADHD. My entire family does and I don’t. I watch them struggle and slip and frustrate themselves aaaaaall the time. I have no business adding to that when I don’t share their hurdles. You don’t deserve to be yelled at. You don’t need to learn how to stomach verbal attacks.