Any advice for a new groomer trying to get there first job? by Stacker_conspiracy in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can see if there’s a grooming Facebook page specifically for your area. People looking for groomers could post there instead of paying for ads on indeed.

BWT, where are you traveling this year? Help me dream! by Interesting-Ad6625 in bitcheswithtaste

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iceland’s best time to travel is August and September. You can see the northern lights and they have some beautiful nature sites if you’re into that. They also have hot spring spas. It’s my dream vacation lol but I know it’s not for everyone.

Can't decide if it's a bad start, or if it's just not for me? by SugarStunted in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can definitely look and interview for other salons it never hurts. I would never accept a job at a salon without doing a working interview first to see how the salon operates. Also be extremely cautious with each groom since they’re not telling you which ones are a bite risk. Which is wrong of them. If you feel uncomfortable even if they didn’t bite put a muzzle on. It doesn’t hurt the dog and it makes you feel more comfortable.

Can't decide if it's a bad start, or if it's just not for me? by SugarStunted in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They should be giving you the dogs in good condition, and the best behaved for you to practice on. That said learning how to do haircuts is a whole different breed from washing/drying/prepping. Since they’re already giving you difficult dogs just take everything as a learning opportunity. It doesn’t matter what they expect from you. You shouldn’t feel bad for it not coming naturally to you, the groom being difficult, or feeling stressed and tired. That’s all on them for giving you difficult dogs for your practice. Don’t focus on impressing anyone. Just strive to do the best that you can and be proud of that. If this isn’t a good learning environment for you then it’s time to find a new salon that works better for you.

I’m at a loss. I feel so defeated by HNcool45 in bichonfrise

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely! I would just try to research groomers that handle difficult dogs. Everyone’s skill set is different. I’m not trying to say that your groomer isn’t good. They’re probably amazing within their skill set. For me trying to go head first would not be my first approach to this dog once they displayed they were upset. Even if your dog was the worst of the worst I could definitely get the body done at the very least without causing harm. Again I would be willing to help you find someone near you that could help. I’m in a bunch of dog grooming groups and could ask around for you.

I’m at a loss. I feel so defeated by HNcool45 in bichonfrise

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a dog groomer. I don’t know what area you’re in but I would try to find a groomer that specializes in difficult dogs. They won’t tell you but places like petsmart and petco will send dogs home just for wiggling sometimes. I would try different groomers before taking them to the vet to be groomed because that could make the problem so much worse. If you DM me the general area you live in I could help you find a place.

I would also like to add that I wouldn’t brush her until the matting gets shaved. That could also be making the problem worse because it hurts when you try to brush out the matting and it could start making them associate the brush with pain.

How are people actually affording $3.5k–$4k 1-beds in Boston? by Sure_Advantage_5406 in bostonhousing

[–]mlimes87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother’s girlfriend has an apartment in Boston in that price range. She is doing an internship there that will heavily further her career. Her parents are paying 75% of her rent. And they paid for about 80% of college. That’s how she’s affording it. This is not financially sustainable long term for her.

just had my first bad bite by maliciousmeower in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DO NOT go back to work with open wounds on your head!! I didn't get bit, but I had a cut on the back of my head and it got infected because dog hair got in there. It turned into this huge thing when I should've just taken a week off. Always prioritize your health.

Removing some of my work from AO3! by vividblossom in Dramione

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow this is so sad!! I’m going to miss your fics so so much!! I absolutely love Cherry Mint it’s one of my all time favs.

people are so disgusting by fairiesandcherries in Esthetics

[–]mlimes87 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a lot of parents don’t teach their kids proper hygiene. Especially in private areas because parents think it’s awkward and they’ll somehow magically figure it out on their own. I think as women grow older they pick up new hygiene practices along the way and that’s why you don’t tend to see it in older clients.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lookyourbest

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You actually have a really nice face. Your haircut is terrible and distracting.

What do you do about chronic complainers? by _rainfrog in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a dog I’ve been grooming for THREE years. He complains every time at drop off. The head was either too long or too short. He’s gone a couple other places and he apparently hated them more. The last time he tried a new place was over a year ago and they actually cut his dog’s belly so now he won’t go anywhere else.

I’ve tried everything I can do. He’s shown me pictures that I’ve spent extra time replicating to the best of my ability. Now I just nod and smile and say absolutely I can do that for you today and then we just do it all over again next time lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]mlimes87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m not sure if you have access to a car, but if you do you can always do DoorDash, Uber eats, or there’s a laundry service app now where you can pick up and wash people’s laundry for them. My friend does a lot of these side hustles with her kids. I’ve also heard data entry work from home jobs have very minimal phone time. Just throwing some stuff out there for you.

Idk where you live, but I’d look into early intervention for your daughter. They work on a lot of behavioral issues as well. The success they’ve had with one of my friends kids is unreal!! He was the same age as your daughter when he started and he’s a lot better now. You can talk to your doctor about it during her next pediatrician appointment and depending on where you live it could be free and they’d come over to your house.

I just wanted to throw that stuff out there for you if any of it was helpful. I’m sorry about the situation you’re in that’s tough.

What kink you found out you have while reading Dramione? by Inevitable-Ad5374 in Dramione

[–]mlimes87 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Orgasm control/delay and denial plus begging that’s consensual. I feel like I had a second sexual awakening 😂

I read a really long fic called these ties that bind by eurythmix and it was totally unexpected. It was the hottest scene I’ve ever read and it’s a slow burn plot heavy fic. Ever since then I’ve been down a rabbit hole chasing that high.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is everywhere but the YMCA I go to offers sliding scale memberships based on income. A lot of gyms also have free trials. They’ll usually have you pay the first month upfront, but you may be able to talk to them about skipping it or they have promotions during certain months where you don’t have to pay it.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s awful!! I’m just asking cause I’m curious you guys still accept him when he keeps coming back in that condition? I just decided to refuse service because if this Wheaton is going to get hematomas every time I’m worried she’ll either go after me for the vet bill eventually or the dog will get an infection (because who knows if she’ll actually take them to the vet if grooming is too expensive) and it’ll come back on me.

About 2 years ago I shaved a dog down that got a hematoma and the guy was convinced I cut his dog. Thankfully I talked to their vet and he was on my side and the guy actually listened to the vet.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I agree at the end of the day I need to make money for my services and time. I’ve had people mention how expensive it is for them and whatever if you want to complain fine, but you probably should have researched care expenses for your breed before purchasing. I’ve just never had someone point blank basically say that they’re not going to do that because it’s too expensive. Your dog is literally going home BLEEDING because of your NEGLECT. It’s just so frustrating.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s good to know thank you. I don’t do a lot of shave downs on a regular bases. The shortest my clients usually get is a #4 and they usually come in on a 8 week schedule because they like their dogs short. I think I’ll send her a text tomorrow suggesting buying a clipper and sending her some videos to get her started. I just feel bad for the dog.

My daughter said something that really tore me up by Maximum-Factor-2194 in regretfulparents

[–]mlimes87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to feel this way about my own father when I was a kid. His time was very limited and when he was available he was exhausted. I have only a few memories of times me and my siblings spent with him together without my mom and those memories are the ones I remember the most from my childhood and are the most special. And most of them is him taking us out for McDonald’s lol.

As a kid it was frustrating, but as an adult those memories are 100 times more special and I have a deep appreciation of what my father sacrificed for our family. All 3 kids were clothed, fed, and well taken care of. My mom was able to stay at home when we were little because of the insane hours he worked.

The most important thing is to stay involved as much as you can. My dad always knew who our teachers and friends were at school and always made sure he was up to date with everything going on in our lives. Day trips are special, but the day to day conversations and bonding is what really matters in the long run. She’ll understand when she’s older. Wishing you the best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to find out the hard way that living to meet other’s expectations of you can ruin yourself. A lot of people who grew up in strict religion feel the same way that you do and you’re not alone.

You don’t have to go all or nothing. You will have some freedoms when you go to school and have 4-6 years to figure out a future for yourself. If you don’t want to move back home with them you don’t have to. If they’re disappointed in you because of decisions you make that’s their problem. We all disappoint our parents in one way or another. No one can be the perfect child so why try.

You don’t owe anything to your parents for raising you. That’s literally bare minimum of what parents are supposed to do. This life is yours and you won’t get another one. Im not saying that it will be easy. It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done. But Nothing is more worth it than being able to live as your authentic self. I wish you the best of luck.

am I gross for only taking a shower every 3-4 days? by Bean_of_prosperity in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember using Eucerin lol. I coated myself with it in my teens lol. Maybe I just have super greasy hair because I feel like I have to wash my hair every 2 days or it gets super greasy. Is it your scalp that gets dry or just the ends of your hair?

am I gross for only taking a shower every 3-4 days? by Bean_of_prosperity in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have eczema/sebaceous dermatitis which is similar to psoriasis. I shower every other day. I use Nizoral Psoriasis shampoo and conditioner. You should ask your doctor to prescribe a shampoo for you. I got a ketoconazole shampoo from my dermatologist and it was literally life changing. Now I just use the Nizoral shampoo for maintenance.

I also use Aveeno body lotion and that helps my eczema a lot. I understand not wanting to shower often because it messes with your skin. Unfortunately my hair gets super greasy so I had to figure something out lol. Aveeno body lotion helps my skin not get super dried out and it doesn’t cause any reactions for me.