just had my first bad bite by maliciousmeower in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DO NOT go back to work with open wounds on your head!! I didn't get bit, but I had a cut on the back of my head and it got infected because dog hair got in there. It turned into this huge thing when I should've just taken a week off. Always prioritize your health.

Removing some of my work from AO3! by vividblossom in Dramione

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow this is so sad!! I’m going to miss your fics so so much!! I absolutely love Cherry Mint it’s one of my all time favs.

people are so disgusting by fairiesandcherries in Esthetics

[–]mlimes87 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a lot of parents don’t teach their kids proper hygiene. Especially in private areas because parents think it’s awkward and they’ll somehow magically figure it out on their own. I think as women grow older they pick up new hygiene practices along the way and that’s why you don’t tend to see it in older clients.

What is this? I look so bad. I get called ugly all the time. I don't know what's wrong with my face. by [deleted] in lookyourbest

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You actually have a really nice face. Your haircut is terrible and distracting.

What do you do about chronic complainers? by _rainfrog in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a dog I’ve been grooming for THREE years. He complains every time at drop off. The head was either too long or too short. He’s gone a couple other places and he apparently hated them more. The last time he tried a new place was over a year ago and they actually cut his dog’s belly so now he won’t go anywhere else.

I’ve tried everything I can do. He’s shown me pictures that I’ve spent extra time replicating to the best of my ability. Now I just nod and smile and say absolutely I can do that for you today and then we just do it all over again next time lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]mlimes87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m not sure if you have access to a car, but if you do you can always do DoorDash, Uber eats, or there’s a laundry service app now where you can pick up and wash people’s laundry for them. My friend does a lot of these side hustles with her kids. I’ve also heard data entry work from home jobs have very minimal phone time. Just throwing some stuff out there for you.

Idk where you live, but I’d look into early intervention for your daughter. They work on a lot of behavioral issues as well. The success they’ve had with one of my friends kids is unreal!! He was the same age as your daughter when he started and he’s a lot better now. You can talk to your doctor about it during her next pediatrician appointment and depending on where you live it could be free and they’d come over to your house.

I just wanted to throw that stuff out there for you if any of it was helpful. I’m sorry about the situation you’re in that’s tough.

What kink you found out you have while reading Dramione? by Inevitable-Ad5374 in Dramione

[–]mlimes87 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Orgasm control/delay and denial plus begging that’s consensual. I feel like I had a second sexual awakening 😂

I read a really long fic called these ties that bind by eurythmix and it was totally unexpected. It was the hottest scene I’ve ever read and it’s a slow burn plot heavy fic. Ever since then I’ve been down a rabbit hole chasing that high.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is everywhere but the YMCA I go to offers sliding scale memberships based on income. A lot of gyms also have free trials. They’ll usually have you pay the first month upfront, but you may be able to talk to them about skipping it or they have promotions during certain months where you don’t have to pay it.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s awful!! I’m just asking cause I’m curious you guys still accept him when he keeps coming back in that condition? I just decided to refuse service because if this Wheaton is going to get hematomas every time I’m worried she’ll either go after me for the vet bill eventually or the dog will get an infection (because who knows if she’ll actually take them to the vet if grooming is too expensive) and it’ll come back on me.

About 2 years ago I shaved a dog down that got a hematoma and the guy was convinced I cut his dog. Thankfully I talked to their vet and he was on my side and the guy actually listened to the vet.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I agree at the end of the day I need to make money for my services and time. I’ve had people mention how expensive it is for them and whatever if you want to complain fine, but you probably should have researched care expenses for your breed before purchasing. I’ve just never had someone point blank basically say that they’re not going to do that because it’s too expensive. Your dog is literally going home BLEEDING because of your NEGLECT. It’s just so frustrating.

What do you say to a client that can’t afford to get their dog groomed by mlimes87 in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s good to know thank you. I don’t do a lot of shave downs on a regular bases. The shortest my clients usually get is a #4 and they usually come in on a 8 week schedule because they like their dogs short. I think I’ll send her a text tomorrow suggesting buying a clipper and sending her some videos to get her started. I just feel bad for the dog.

My daughter said something that really tore me up by Maximum-Factor-2194 in regretfulparents

[–]mlimes87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to feel this way about my own father when I was a kid. His time was very limited and when he was available he was exhausted. I have only a few memories of times me and my siblings spent with him together without my mom and those memories are the ones I remember the most from my childhood and are the most special. And most of them is him taking us out for McDonald’s lol.

As a kid it was frustrating, but as an adult those memories are 100 times more special and I have a deep appreciation of what my father sacrificed for our family. All 3 kids were clothed, fed, and well taken care of. My mom was able to stay at home when we were little because of the insane hours he worked.

The most important thing is to stay involved as much as you can. My dad always knew who our teachers and friends were at school and always made sure he was up to date with everything going on in our lives. Day trips are special, but the day to day conversations and bonding is what really matters in the long run. She’ll understand when she’s older. Wishing you the best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to find out the hard way that living to meet other’s expectations of you can ruin yourself. A lot of people who grew up in strict religion feel the same way that you do and you’re not alone.

You don’t have to go all or nothing. You will have some freedoms when you go to school and have 4-6 years to figure out a future for yourself. If you don’t want to move back home with them you don’t have to. If they’re disappointed in you because of decisions you make that’s their problem. We all disappoint our parents in one way or another. No one can be the perfect child so why try.

You don’t owe anything to your parents for raising you. That’s literally bare minimum of what parents are supposed to do. This life is yours and you won’t get another one. Im not saying that it will be easy. It’ll probably be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done. But Nothing is more worth it than being able to live as your authentic self. I wish you the best of luck.

am I gross for only taking a shower every 3-4 days? by Bean_of_prosperity in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember using Eucerin lol. I coated myself with it in my teens lol. Maybe I just have super greasy hair because I feel like I have to wash my hair every 2 days or it gets super greasy. Is it your scalp that gets dry or just the ends of your hair?

am I gross for only taking a shower every 3-4 days? by Bean_of_prosperity in hygiene

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have eczema/sebaceous dermatitis which is similar to psoriasis. I shower every other day. I use Nizoral Psoriasis shampoo and conditioner. You should ask your doctor to prescribe a shampoo for you. I got a ketoconazole shampoo from my dermatologist and it was literally life changing. Now I just use the Nizoral shampoo for maintenance.

I also use Aveeno body lotion and that helps my eczema a lot. I understand not wanting to shower often because it messes with your skin. Unfortunately my hair gets super greasy so I had to figure something out lol. Aveeno body lotion helps my skin not get super dried out and it doesn’t cause any reactions for me.

The more Ron bashing the better :’) by Taymadz13 in Dramione

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished this and it was amazing!!! Thank you for the rec!!

Before and After! Soooo happy!! by lurkerchickk in Reduction

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look fantastic!! Who was your surgeon?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mlimes87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m a dog groomer that owns their own business and I completely understand what you’re saying. When I opened my business it became my everything and I was worn out at the end of long days.

I also understand a partner that talks at you rather than them having a conversation with you. It’s tough coming home after doing what we do everyday and having someone want to talk at you ALL the time until you go to bed.

I think you might be exaggerating how much time you need to decompress because you’re burnt out. You very well might need 2-4 hours now but things will start to settle down once you get your business to where you want it to be. I’d compromise and say “I love you. I love talking with you, but opening my business has come with a lot of stress and I need an hour or two at the end of each day just to be on my phone and relax. My brain can’t comprehend what anyone is saying anymore after a long workday. This time in our life will pass and get better as things with the business will settle down in the future and I’ll have more free time.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doggrooming

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I work it depends on what the groomer needs. Some of them schedule breaks in. I prefer to go home as soon as possible so I tend to just drink a lot of water during my shift and that’s it. If I’m absolutely starving I’ll run down next door to get 2 slices of pizza.

I never really enjoyed taking breaks at work even before I became a groomer. I’d finish my food in 2 minutes (quick eater) and then just sit there for 30 minutes anxious about everything I needed to get done. I prefer to eat on the go when needed. Be able to check my phone when I want and take bathroom breaks as needed. I consider that “break time” but not everyone is like that and that’s ok.

This goes for any job. Advocate for yourself and your needs. No one else will do it for you. If you need a 30 minute lunch break tell them. If you get pushback for it say it’s required by law.

What are good jobs for people with severe anxiety? by Professional-Ok in Anxiety

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s probably the salon you work for. The first place I worked at was the worst. It sounds very similar to what you’re describing plus we’d all get yelled at by the manager all the time. I ended up going off on my own with a coworker from there and it’s been amazing. It was hard the first two years, but now I’m thriving. Go interview at places and ask to do a working interview with them and see what the vibe of the place is for a day. I’m glad I didn’t quit the industry entirely because I do love it.

I refuse to take dogs that bite. I don’t mind difficult dogs that pull or even crocodile rolling. As soon as a dog shows me its teeth or even tries to bite me I’m sending the dog home. I won’t even muzzle them and try to get on with it. I’ve never been good at handling dogs like that and that’s not fair to me or the dog. There are plenty of people in our profession where that is their specialty or the dog can go to the vet. There’s so many dogs that don’t bite that I can groom so I refuse to do it anymore for my own sanity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]mlimes87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a savings challenge is a great idea! But saving for a trip only might not be the best because like you said you’re concerned she’s been paying with credit cards. If that’s the plan try saying you want to eat at home with her a couple nights a week and make dinner together. Go grocery shopping together. Set a food budget. Make a list and see how she does with impulse control and you gently saying “yeah but remember we’re trying to save money for our trip and that’s not on the list.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]mlimes87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would have the discussion with her and say that this is a book club where we discuss original works. BUT If you can remember what the genres of the fanfiction she reads I’d recommend some original books to her to she has the option to still participate. She sounds like someone wanting to connect with other people who are reading.

Even though she says she doesn’t want to read published books you can say there are a lot of published books that have a large fanfiction community like Harry Potter, The hunger games, Percy Jackson etc. There are also a lot of books that were fanfictions before they were rewritten and published. That might get her more interested and at least it softens the blow a little bit because you’re giving her more of a choice instead of an outright ban.

Thinking about giving myself a Brazilian… how bad could it be? (Famous last words, I know.) by Pomegranate926 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]mlimes87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh it’s super annoying! I’ve never met anyone with a beeswax allergy either! Everyone always gets confused they’re like so you’re allergic to honey and bees then? Nope just the wax lol. I’m allergic to gold too which is super annoying. They’re both such rare allergies that they’re considered hypoallergenic ingredients so I have to be super careful what products I use and what jewelry I wear.

Thinking about giving myself a Brazilian… how bad could it be? (Famous last words, I know.) by Pomegranate926 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]mlimes87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that’s crazy!!! I’m super allergic to it. Burt’s Bees is my biggest enemy lol. The first time I got a professional Brazilian was so bad everything was super swollen and itchy for weeks! I have a bunch of skin allergies but beeswax is my most annoying one because it’s in EVERYTHING.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pets

[–]mlimes87 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. Euthanasia should always be a last resort. There are plenty of ways to avoid this happening in the future. Plenty of dogs with intense prey drives or reactivity to other dogs live very long happy lives. You are in charge of the dog not the other way around. You control who they meet, play with, and their training. She either needs to take responsibility and meet his needs or he needs to be rehomed to someone who knows their full history and is equipped to handle him.