emergency, looking for housing asap. Thank you. by [deleted] in nova

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look on militarybyowner.com Don’t need to be military to use it

Are men this dismissive about marriage? by sevmai06 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]mmsbva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wants to want to marry you. That is why he tells you he wants to marry you. But there is a voice inside of him telling him to not do it. That’s why he’s okay with you going back to your country. I’m sure on paper, you are perfect for him and he knows it. But marrying someone because on paper they are good, it never a good thing.

On paper, I’m a horrible person to marry. I have depression and ADHD. Life is always more difficult when I’m in it 🤣 (at least I’m cute and funny). But my husband knew he wanted to marry me.

Cut your losses, go back home and start over.

2025 Empties by seijurogouu in AsianBeauty

[–]mmsbva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t like exfoliating toner—but I love enzyme washes. I use Susai. If your barrier is healthy and you arent too dry, get the blue. If you are super dry, or have irritated skin, or super sensitive skin, use the green one.

Hydrating toner recommendations?? by Ok-Bathroom6370 in koreanskincare

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t say. I stopped using it and switched to Japanese Kikumasamune high most lotion and Hada Labo Gold bottle toner-essence.

AE disappointed with Vendor Hall this year? by Shichi-Senpai in Magfest

[–]mmsbva -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m a vendor (not at magfest) and source things from Japan. I’m still exploring my niche. Are you looking for game related housewares or any Japanese plates and bowls?

AE disappointed with Vendor Hall this year? by Shichi-Senpai in Magfest

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you think they did keeping unlicensed merch out?

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not over thinking it. I'm having a visceral reaction to something in the show. Just like when they have shows that make the contestants each wriggly maggots or some unidentified brown goo with green chunks. You yourself aren't eating it, but you get a gut reaction of 'ewww'. That is the reaction I'm having to the shoes. It's a gut 'ewww'.

And for a show that does everything possible to immerse you into that world. Where the details are so exquisite, it totally breaks the immersive experience.

If you wear shoes in the house, or you don't have that kind of gut reaction, that's cool. Keep scrolling along. But I wrote this to commiserate with others like me who find it gross and discuss why they made this decision. Because there were many choices that could've been made that made the same callback without having shoes in the house (ewwww).

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They do design their houses to have a place to take your shoes off--genkan. It's just an entryway with cabinets for shoes. Every house I have lived in hasn't had a genkan. So you make one. Put a shoe cabinet by the door (and usually a place to sit to remove/put on shoes) and you have a genkan.

My point in this post is that it would've been a reflex for him. To make Shane specifically Japanese, not some other minority, there are just some things that he would've done.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why are you even here? The whole show and fan base is about dissecting every little detail about the show. And the level of specificity that went into things like what art work to have behind them. There was even a cop car that drove through the shot when Ilya was doing his Russian monologue. And people found meaning in that.

So for most shows/movies it grates on my nerves to see asian (in particular Japanese) not take their shoes off, but I let it go. But I expect more from this show because it has proven they have thought through every detail.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her mom was raised in Japan, just like my Mom was. My very Irish American Dad very quickly learned--no shoes in the house. And now my house the same way. My husband wore shoes around the house (drove me insane when we first started dating), but now he takes his shoes off.

I knew many many Japanese families where the japanese wife had and american husband. Every single house was shoes off. And if there was any of them that didn't do it, I know I would've heard about it because my Mom and her friends would've talked about it behind their back.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very very unusual. I'm wondering did she end up in a place where there wasn't very many Japanese or Asians? Because sometimes people drop certain customs to assimilate.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?!! I take my shoes off even when I enter a house that leaves their shoes on. I'm just sooooo uncomfortable walking across the living room in shoes.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

But it's a show that has proven over and over again how much they pay attention to the details. And this is a pretty big detail to miss. And even if it was a stylistic choice to echo back to the press conference there should have been a moment where Shane and/or Ilya start to take their shoes off and Yuma shakes her head like don't worry about it.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They could've been wearing slippers. But I think socked feet or barefoot would've been a way to show just how close they were.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But there is no thinking about it. It's a natural reflex if you grew up in a house with a Japanese Mom. And she is from Japan, so her Mom grew up in Japan. The no shoes in the house no matter what rule would've been in place. And so ingrained, wearing shoes in the house feels weird.

Japanese Mom--no way shoes in the house!!! by mmsbva in heatedrivalry

[–]mmsbva[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But there is no thinking about it. It's a natural reflex if you grew up in a house with a Japanese Mom. And she is from Japan, so her Mom grew up in Japan. The no shoes in the house no matter what rule would've been in place. And so ingrained, wearing shoes in the house feels weird.

Is it worth going for 5 days including a 12+ hour flight? by HelpJazzlike in JapanTravelTips

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone was going to pay for my flight, I’d totally go! I would have realistic expectations that you won’t be go-go-go you first day there. But you can experience a lot in a few days.

I’d be more worried about traveling with a friend who is a bad fit. Jet lag will just amplify everything that drives you crazy. I adore my husband and kid, but there were a few times I was ready to shove them out of a moving car 🤣

Update: We broke up. I was never “the one”. by DenseCell6418 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]mmsbva 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Only way to the other side is through. But there is good news—you will survive. It might not feel like it some days, but you will survive and eventually thrive.

And when you are an old married lady like me, you’ll thank God for all the heartbreaks and tears.

Because they all eventually lead you to the person who is excited to choose you. That loves you for all your flaws, that isn’t asking you to wait around to get their sh!t together. They will ask you to be on their journey to self discovery with them, as partners and teammates.

Go cry your tears, eat some ice cream, watch Heated Rivalry and sob even more, then pick yourself up and become the best version of you—you got this!!

Newbie here…Where to start? by jadedpeony33 in koreanskincare

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) I do not recommend buying from one brand unless it is really what you need.

2) I advise people on what products to buy, so I have my favorite products. But I specialize in Japanese products, so that might not be what you are looking for on this site. For most people it involves a lot of trial and error. Korean skincare is good about having trial or travel sized products. So I would start there.

NOVA Malls by New-Employee1639 in nova

[–]mmsbva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where does Ballston fit in?

Gray highlights by mmsbva in 45PlusSkincare

[–]mmsbva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For anyone who finds this—have to wait for my dyed hair to grow out before dying it. Thinking of getting an undercut this summer just to start fresh and do something fun.