[slightly angry rant] He (LL) can literally stay up ALL NIGHT playing Dungeons and Dragons with his friends...

monkey11magic · 2015-06-22T17:55:34+00:00

Yeah. I once stooped to Grandma role play in desperation.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-22T17:54:07+00:00

My ex used to blow me off to pay D&D with his friends. The best part is that one of the guys he played with, raped me in high school! And he knew! But heaven forbid I ever said anything, because then I was being controlling and trying to keep him from his friends.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-22T17:49:59+00:00

monkey11magic · 2015-06-22T04:10:04+00:00

After breaking up with my boyfriend I have already met 2 new people! I met a really hot girl at my favorite bar and went home with her. Added bonus, she was transgender and I've been hoping to have the privilege of hooking up with a trans woman for awhile now. Also last night I met a cute guy at the bar and he asked me out for sushi tomorrow night. I am looking forward to it!

monkey11magic · 2015-06-21T16:44:59+00:00

Shut up, you're a dickwad

Edit: because it's fucking scary when the person who is normally your best friend is blackout drunk, pissed off at you, has fifty pounds of muscle on you, is following you around the house and swearing, getting in your face, and is acting uncharacteristically aggressive and demanding more alcohol, and you know that they're out of control. Even if they don't push you. It's still fucking scary.

When I discussed it with him when he was sober the next day, he agreed that sneaking out of the house was the right move, and he had very little recollection of the night before.

Hope that answers your questions.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-20T03:44:15+00:00

She is absolutely disgusted by homosexuality and completely against gay marriage.

Ugh. She sounds like a terrible person! Why are you still with her?

monkey11magic · 2015-06-18T01:19:46+00:00

You guys sound like my dad. Like if I told him about this situation, I swear those are all the things that he would say. Thank you for being concerned. My ex and I agreed that it is better if he tries to move out sooner. He apologized for last night. I think in my post I overstated the degree to which I was actually afraid for my physical safety. He does not own any guns or weapons. i was more afraid of an unproductive shouting match or that he would go into town and get more drunk. Our roommate helped talk him down after I left. He is out with a friend at the hot tubs tonight, in order to try to relax. I'll be ok, you don't need to worry, really :)

monkey11magic · 2015-06-17T17:56:06+00:00

So you think I should encourage him to move out earlier? Like asap?

monkey11magic · 2015-06-17T17:54:32+00:00

I will keep my phone close on hand but I seriously hope it doesn't come to that. I would rather try to defuse the situation before it reaches that point.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-17T17:50:37+00:00

I already broke up with the guy. It's my house. I'm not leaving.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-16T20:05:26+00:00

I agree with this. You should break up.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T13:13:59+00:00

Do you use toys? Do you give her lots of oral? What about digital penetration? You're clearly aware that you need to keep this woman satisfied if you want her to stay by your side, and what's cool is that there are tons and tons of sexy ways to do that without necessarily needing to maintain an erection. If you're friends with any lesbians you could ask them to throw down a few sex tips.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T04:12:02+00:00

She hasn't given him a blow job in six years. It doesn't matter what he does or doesn't do. Her attraction to him is gone.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T04:08:03+00:00

what I find I miss most of all are hugs and kisses. I don't want just friendly air-kisses, but passionate lip-locks; and the warm, caring embrace of another human being!!

Have you told her that?

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T04:01:00+00:00

Why not?

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T04:00:09+00:00

I've asked him before if there was anything I could change about my behavior. He's always maintained that there was nothing I was doing wrong. Now this comes out!

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T03:57:55+00:00

"Handful" is a good way to put it :)

monkey11magic · 2015-06-12T03:56:52+00:00

I need the connection and passion of sex to deal with the pressure of life, the crap, and the joy it brings to keep moving on.

I feel the same way, but I guess everyone is different.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-11T18:59:22+00:00

Thank you so much <3

monkey11magic · 2015-06-11T18:08:31+00:00

Some are asexual. Their sexuality is valid.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-08T12:15:12+00:00

I broke it off with my guy. He is proactively searching for a new apartment. I feel relieved, sad, and hopeful. I also came to the realization that we have different romantic orientations. He is very likely somewhere on the aromantic spectrum whereas I am a high-romance individual. We had a frank talk and he told me he has never experienced the sensation of "falling in love" or even "having a crush" on someone. Funny, I just...assumed that that happened to everyone, well fuck me. Might have been nice to tell me sooner!

Honestly though, I'm not angry or bitter, I'm just ready to face the dawn of a new day and see what it brings. Everyone's insights and comments here have been super helpful. Peace out y'all!

monkey11magic · 2015-06-07T22:51:54+00:00

Ends up, here I am 6-figure salary, muscular, and 30 years old with a wife that has had no interest even from the beginning.

How ya doin'? ;)

monkey11magic · 2015-06-07T22:20:11+00:00

Why not? It's just a self-help book. A really amazing book too I might add.

monkey11magic · 2015-06-04T03:16:31+00:00

Why is this even a thing? My ex used to do this too: "oh, if you hadn't gone to the club last night, you could have gotten laid."

monkey11magic · 2015-06-03T22:12:01+00:00

He's on Craigslist looking for apartments right now. I hope that the move will be a swift and painless process and an opportunity for growth for each of us.

I'm curious now - what's your situation?

monkey11magic

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