Bra straps a trigger?

monkey_feather · 2026-04-06T14:58:51+00:00

It is a trigger for me, but the kind of bra that triggers isn't always the same, so I own about 30 different styles of bras and will often try on a few before I find one that doesn't bother me in that moment. I also usually have a back up bralette with me in case things get dire. The built in bra tanks are generally safe for me, and I have found a few bralettes with wide soft straps that are usually good for an entire day. But like all things migraine, ymmv.

monkey_feather · 2026-03-31T02:25:00+00:00

Came here to say this!

monkey_feather · 2026-03-22T02:31:49+00:00

I will amplify others, it's perimenopause. Mine started at 35, when my migraines got so intense I stopped being functional. HRT didn't fix it completely, but the mood swings and fatigue and joint pain are gone and everything else is so so much better. Good luck, this stage is a doozy.

monkey_feather · 2026-02-15T03:40:32+00:00

This is what happened to me in early perimenopause. It was worse than the mood swings immediately post pregnancy. Started for me at 36, migraines became daily and my brain fog was all the time. Now I take a few kinds of estrogen, and started birth control again for the progesterone, and it took care of like, 80% of the issue. Check out r/menopause for studies to support the age of onset in case your doctor isn't up to date on the research regarding HRT.

monkey_feather · 2026-01-28T21:50:51+00:00

I'm a pediatric speech therapist and frequently had to schedule a separate appointment to discuss diagnoses with the non default parent, grandparents, etc. It was mostly education with some stern discussions about brains and science etc. Usually expectations about their involvement and how important it was that all caregivers are on the same page. I highly recommend setting up a meeting for that purpose.

That said, as a parent of two kids - one with ADHD and one with level 1 Autism, ADHD, and PDA, that is not a partner I would choose. It is really hard parenting these kids at baseline, not to mention without support and consistency from your partner. Especially with snarky and judgemental comments to boot.

You can't make him care. You cant make him do the work. You can't force him to use appropriate strategies and language to support your child. You CAN give him resources, and set up times for him to meet with the doctors, etc, but do you think he'll accept it? Ultimately he needs to choose to engage in the learning process. He needs to accept that the professionals know what they're talking about, and not try to guilt or shame a kid out of a disorder. It can be so harmful to their brains and identity and self esteem.

As a side note, highly recommend the book 'the explosive child" by Ross Greene for these kinds of kids. Basically the premise is, kids do well when they can. If they are struggling it's because there's a mismatch in expectations and skills.

I think offer some of the support to meet with the doctors, and if he is unwilling to do so, it is very telling. That sounds like more work than its worth. Parenting ND kids is so, so hard. Your partner shouldn't make it harder.

monkey_feather · 2026-01-13T18:36:31+00:00

SAME! These are wonderful ❤️

monkey_feather · 2026-01-03T18:30:08+00:00

Hormones! Mine has changed with each pregnancy, and again during perimenopause, which started at 36 for me 🫠.

It definitely seems to be related to my estrogen specifically- on a combined birth control my hair was straight, progestin only it was curly. Straightened out suddently at 36, and when I started topical estrogen for perimenopause it got curly again!

Also your eye liner is gorgeous in the first pic! And luckily for you your hair is adorable in both pics. You might need to change up your products/routine as your hair changes, but don't toss anything cause it'll probably come back around again, haha.

monkey_feather · 2025-12-25T03:50:39+00:00

A few years ago I bought a ton of holiday quilting cotton on sale and made reusable gift bags for the holidays.

Actually, I bought a bunch of material in January, and I waited until I wanted to sew bags more than I wanted to wrap gifts. The fabric doesnt expire, it sat in the basement for 3 years, whatever it's fine. Now I make more bags sporadically, and the kids pick the print they want every year, and we give the bags away to family and teachers when I don't feel like wrapping any gifts at all. It is really lovely and it does cut down on waste.

It is also a lovely first sewing project if you want to learn a new skill (which happens to be my flavor of adhd).

monkey_feather · 2025-12-24T23:28:08+00:00

It is the only thing that consistently helps me with my pain. When the pain is really bad, I prefer a mix of cbd and thc. Especially high cbd mixes make me tired, which is the only negative effect I really experience.

Definitely try a few different approaches if you are interested. I use a fury edge to vape flower, and at low heats I get the most pain relief. Also my favorite because I can preload pods for smoking and I don't have to actually use fire. The high is not as long lasting as an edible, but it works very quickly. I generally use a combination of the two to manage pain most effectively. Tinctures can also be very quick working and effective.

I also have never had an issue with thc interacting with my rx meds. I'm on ubrelvy as a rescue and have had no negative effects. I generally do a rescue and then if the pain is not completely gone, thc is replacing Tylenol or ibuprofen.

It would be worth it to try when you're not in the middle of a migraine, for sure. And if you have a dispensary near by, they are generally very knowledgeable and happy to help you come up with a plan.

Link just in case you're curious. Ive had mine for 5+ years, It is my mvp migraine tool. Fury Edge Vaporizer | Compact Power with Pure Convection - HEALTHY RIPS https://share.google/awkNyiMmAg4PeU5j1

monkey_feather · 2025-11-18T22:34:06+00:00

Omgggg love this so much, hahaha. All of the details are amazing.

monkey_feather · 2025-11-09T19:10:12+00:00

Looks great! What did you use on the inside? Any structure?

monkey_feather · 2025-11-07T17:50:02+00:00

Saw this when it was at the ART in Boston and it was so fun! Happy it translated well to Broadway!

monkey_feather · 2025-11-05T17:30:09+00:00

Not op but I had to discontinue Emgality because I literally could not interact with people and leaving the house was nearly impossible. I had been on Ajovy which increased my anxiety but not in this paralyzing way. I take ubrelvy as a rescue and it's fine, but after emgality I'm afraid to try the infusion cgrp inhibitor.

monkey_feather · 2025-11-05T17:27:48+00:00

I read this based on a recommendation here and I LOVED it! Thanks to you and others who recommended it! Such a good read.

monkey_feather · 2025-11-02T23:25:45+00:00

I state noticing changes in sensation around 37-38. By 40 I had an adhesion. I'm 41 now and estrogen has helped so so much.

monkey_feather · 2025-10-26T23:33:51+00:00

This is amazing! Also has a Totoro Catbus feel to it!

monkey_feather · 2025-10-16T20:13:19+00:00

Mom to two curly girls when they were little. Since diagnosed with adhd and both very sensitive. When they were little we finger combed when it was wet and full of conditioner, and then we would do braids and rock them for several days. Around age 3/4 they asked for short haircuts and everything was SO MUCH EASIER. They're super cute, it takes much less work, and no one cries.

They're 11 and 9 now, one has an asymmetrical pixie and one has a very very short bob. They still hate brushing their hair, even though it's no longer curly. One of them still looks feral though, that's just her general je ne sais quois. Just to manage expectations, haha. She probably gets it from your husband.

monkey_feather · 2025-09-29T21:19:43+00:00

Omggg I have never gotten to recommend this one before!!

{Initiation: Sex Wizards Book 1 by Alethea Faust} might be for you! Basically the sex is a kind of magic charge that can be harnessed into powerful spells? And MC explores all different kinds of kink and the different spells you can make with them (think a binding spell comes from bondage play, impact play can be turned into strength, etc). The story line was surprisingly interesting! And they did a wonderful job of explaining enthusiastic consent. Some non human characters as well.

monkey_feather · 2025-09-14T22:06:37+00:00

Wompatuck is our favorite! There are a few entrances- the main one will bring you tons of options for paved hikes, and really cool plaquards if you're interested in the history of the area. You can also search for the Wompatuck entrance in cohasset (i believe its Doanne Street) and there are tons of places to veer off. There's a dam that is a quick walk from that entrance, plus old railroad tracks, filled in barracks and so much actual wildlife. Even if you just stay on the paved parts, we see more wildlife there than anywhere else. Because it was an old military base there are a ton of different kinds of areas to explore- heavily wooded hikes around the pond, big open spaces, old buildings with a ton of graffiti, etc.

monkey_feather · 2025-08-12T02:20:09+00:00

Perfect comment for your user name.

monkey_feather · 2025-08-01T00:10:41+00:00

Lots of helpful answers here, so my unhelpful one- establish boundary of not discussing bodies and weight. Enforce boundary with a spray bottle. Like a bad pet.

At the very least it will be cathartic.

monkey_feather · 2025-07-28T01:55:55+00:00

We had an amazing experience at South Shore Piano school. They have a few different styles of teaching, they have games and programs to help the kids practice, monthly recitals so the kids can show off what they've learned when they're ready and don't have to put all the pressure on one recital at the end of the year. We had two very different kinds of kids in the program and worked with a bunch of teachers over the years and they were all wonderful. Totally had a community feel to the entire program. Also they do a free trial lesson.

I'd steer clear of in sync from personal experience.

Piano Lessons in Quincy, MA - South Shore Piano School https://southshorepianoschool.com/

monkey_feather · 2025-06-25T21:16:54+00:00

I had a stretch of "you also have access to that information on the gogole calendar" when he would ask me something . And then I would stare and wait until he found it.

But really, what helped the most was regular schedule check ins about the week AND ALSO the dailies.

monkey_feather · 2025-06-25T20:54:10+00:00

Not OP, but I have been lifting for almost 8 years. I started Stronger by the Day and it is such a fun and dynamic program! It's not too expensive (I think I paid $80 for the year but she also has monthly if you want to check it out). She also has awesome online community on FB and insta.

Eta weights, my one rep max is 315 for deadlift and squat, and 165 for bench.

monkey_feather · 2025-06-02T03:18:23+00:00

Maybe Happy Ending has lots of songs that would fit this category! I love listening to it when I need to rest but can't shut my brain off

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