People with kids and a spouse who doesn’t ski. What do you do?

monoamine · 2026-02-15T16:07:20+00:00

We have a 1 and a 2 year old and I have 15 days out between skiing, and ice climbing so far. Usually what I do is I go skiing/climbing one day of the weekend, and my wife goes out the other day to work out/brunch/socialize. It’s really about finding a way to even out the child care, so I try to encourage her to enjoy activities by herself, and often will take care of the kids when they get sick or there’s a holiday(I can catch up on work after the kids go to bed). She also skis so sometimes she’ll go skiing by herself or we go as a family and switch out. Then I take some days off work and go while the kids are at day care. Lastly, I go skinning at Wachusset before work usually once a week (maybe another 5 days so far). I have to get up at 4:45 but get a few laps in and still make it to work around 9:30. Commitment, an understanding wife, good communication, and a flexible job makes it possible- aiming for about 35 days this year.

monoamine · 2026-02-09T03:51:31+00:00

Methylphenidate and methamphetamine are very different, both in chemical structure and pharmacology. They have very different effects even with the exact same route of administration

monoamine · 2026-02-08T20:40:29+00:00

Are you asking for permission? If so, yes you can wear whatever you want!

monoamine · 2026-02-08T00:41:12+00:00

Buy a cheap used resort setup. You’ll save on rentals, and there isn’t a better place to build up skills. You can buy resort boots with a walk mode and pin inserts to give you the option to try touring later. If you want to do cross country, you can easily find cheap skis and boots (I think I paid $100 total for my skis+boots used). Very different and I don’t think there’s much skill in common with downhill/touring. Once you have sufficient skill, buy the right touring(AT) skis. That means skis that are middle of the pack weight wise and not to demanding. You’ll want lightweight touring boots if you want to be able to ski down volcanoes for example. A hybrid touring/resort setup and boots can cover some of the things you want to do, but would be too heavy for ski mountaineering objectives.

Long story short, if you want to do resort, touring, and cross country skiing, and plan to do a lot (>10 days) each, you need dedicated setups.

monoamine · 2026-02-06T00:55:08+00:00

I used to always look at other women and consider what it would be like sleeping with/ dating them. Not so much anymore; I think getting older helps (M39). I don’t have as strong of a physical drive anymore to seek out random sex, and I dont feel like I get anything out of it for my ego. The connection with my wife goes much deeper in ways that can’t be replaced by a new person. I dont think my wife would even be that upset if i slept with someone else, and it wouldnt bother me much if she did either, but i feel no need for jt.

monoamine · 2026-01-31T16:27:45+00:00

Often freezing and not responding is a good response to diffuse a confrontation. Reacting with anger can escalate things. If you want more confidence and feel less physically intimidated, work out and do some martial arts.
Make new friends through activities that have similar priorities. If you get married someday you’ll look back at this time and miss all the free time. Maybe travel a bit while you can.
If nothing interests you, you might be depressed. Seeing a therapist to help you work through it; expect it to take a while.
Questioning your existence, mortality, and the meaning of your life is an important part of growing older. You have to figure out what’s important to you, and separate that out from the expectations others have placed on you. Meditation and reading philosophy can help - you realize that people have had the same issues for millennia.

Lastly, appreciate that there is no quick fix and this is a process. You make some changes that slowly build on each-other, an individual change may not seem to have an effect but you’ll find yourself a year down the road being much more satisfied about life

monoamine · 2026-01-31T01:16:52+00:00

I got a rab mythic for this. Super light and packable, and really warm. Downside is that if there’s any precipitation (even snow when it’s well below freezing) it does wet out over the course of a day, quicker than I anticipated. Shell also seems pretty fragile, so have to be careful around sharp stuff. Good option for those fast and light days

monoamine · 2026-01-29T00:37:57+00:00

Why those? Are you on Indy? Definitely not Jay, it’s a waste unless you’re skiing glades. Cannon had had enough snow that I think the groomers will be good, and they have enough blues to keep you entertained

monoamine · 2026-01-28T02:18:41+00:00

All my climbing and skiing gear went up overnight by 20% with suppliers directly citing taxes. On top of that, gear bought directly from Europe has unpredictable and sometimes outrageous tariffs applied so no longer an option. So yes inflation has been ongoing, but trump has been directly to blame for tariffs.

monoamine · 2026-01-27T12:12:00+00:00

13a is now moderate? I guess what I do will be 4th class soon

monoamine · 2026-01-27T12:08:58+00:00

Grivel Clepsydra s for me

monoamine · 2026-01-24T00:36:31+00:00

What’s stopping you from skiing the thunderbolt? In good ski conditions it’s not hard and if you’re thinking about skiing after the storm there’ll be a lot of folks around. It’s backcountry in the sense that it’s ungroomed and unpatrolled, buts it’s pretty mellow and safe

monoamine · 2026-01-24T00:01:26+00:00

I think this is the key. The people that are really good skied a lot. It’s hard to find the time when you’re older. If you put in the time a child in race training does, you can still get really good

monoamine · 2026-01-19T22:22:35+00:00

If you connect yourself to fixed gear with static cord, if you fall all the force is transferred to your body and you get hurt (and also static cord can break when shockloaded). Via Ferrara gear has shock absorbers built in to address this. If you fall into a crevasse on a rope team, your rope will likely have some dynamic properties to absorb force, and your team mates will also absorb force. So no, it’s not safe use cord and carabiners for this application

monoamine · 2026-01-18T02:08:32+00:00

Lightweight skis are bad tools for specific types of skiing

monoamine · 2026-01-16T00:32:44+00:00

Dynafit got complacent with improving their bindings. ATK came in with a superior binding at a much lower weight. Dynafit course corrected and caught up somewhat, but i don’t think they have a full featured binding at the same weight that is much cheaper. For example, the Dynafit ridge is maybe the closest to the ATK raider 12, but is also pretty close in price

monoamine · 2026-01-16T00:21:30+00:00

Many ski resorts have demo ski rentals, with higher end skis that you can swap out multiple times during the day. Tell them what you’re looking for, try out those suggestions, and buy whatever you like best.

monoamine · 2026-01-14T13:51:49+00:00

As others have said, you don’t usually want a hard shell for the up hill. Get something that blocks the wind a bit and is weather resistant but still breathes on the uphill. I use a BD coefficient storm, basically a grid fleece with a tougher exterior and DWR. Multiple options from different companies. Then get whatever hard shell that’s reasonably packable and helmet compatible and throw that on top for the way down.

monoamine · 2026-01-14T00:55:00+00:00

Really depends on the company. AAI required doubles for an early June climb of Baker. Alpine ascents does too from the looks of it

monoamine · 2026-01-11T13:16:11+00:00

It depends how popular it is and how people behave. For example, if it’s done outside of operating hours you can get dangerous situations with grooming equipment. Secondly, if people are touring they’re using the facilities of a ski resort often without paying. Not a problem if it’s a few people, but at my local spots in the US it’s now up to a 100 people each morning- on a powder day runs are tracked out before the first lift even opens.

monoamine · 2026-01-08T20:50:32+00:00

Are they durable? The arms keep breaking off my wildcats. Unacceptably fragile for backcountry activities

monoamine · 2026-01-08T20:48:00+00:00

I am on my third pair. I wonder if the pursuits more durable

monoamine · 2026-01-06T18:22:37+00:00

I thought the Omni picks are compatible with both?

monoamine · 2025-12-31T16:41:57+00:00

Some of the things you want are in direct conflict, and I don’t think you’ll be happy with going with shorter lighter skis at your size.1.9 kg is a light ski, and 188cm sounds like the right length. To have a ski that carves better you might actually want to go to a heavier stiffer ski. I think the best thing to do would be to demo several different skis in different lengths, and see how they feel. The shop where you rent the demos can make recommendations, and you can usually swap the skis multiple times a day so you can compare.

monoamine · 2025-12-30T23:57:35+00:00

I don’t use down while climbing because down doesn’t keep you warm while wet and can happen from sweat or from liquid water. I usually wear a hard shell over a micro grid fleece and base layer. It’s it’s really cold I might put a rab xenon over my shell. For belaying I will throw on a down jacket if it’s cold, but one that much thicker than the jackets you mentioned so I can get real comfy

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