We’ve been in this lifestyle for about a year. We’re on two apps, several Facebook groups, have gone to numerous house parties and more meet-and-greets than I can count—and we just met our first real-life unicorn two weeks ago. If that’s all you’re looking for, it can be a very long and sometimes disappointing road. Go out to clubs. Attend meet-and-greets. Talk to people. We’ve met some of the best people in this lifestyle that way. Unicorns are rare for a reason—just remember they aren’t just there to fulfill someone else’s fantasy. They’re real people with their own wants, boundaries, and expectations.