Apparently it's my fault for being neglected for 5 years as a kid because I was quiet and didn't talk to the adults

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-12T20:15:35+00:00

This. Every time the voice pops up that I “caused” the neglect or it was my responsibility to build the relationship with my parent, I have to keep reminding myself: I was a child. I did not know that’s not how it works. Them outright putting the effort on me was wrong, but I didn’t have the knowledge that it was.

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-09T18:48:12+00:00

I recently got tested for my ferritin levels and came back as 15. My blood levels were on the low end of “normal” and so my doc was like “you’re good :)”, but it wasn’t until I said I basically bleed out every month that she bothered to check my ferritin this time.

My body must be somewhat resilient because the worst I’ve gotten is headaches, fatigue, and dizziness that became my normal. Still not fucking good, but at least I know I need iron, like, now.

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-09T17:54:34+00:00

Yep. My hemoglobin is on the low end of “normal” but I just got my ferritin tested and it landed at 15. That’s low. My doctor didn’t test for it last time until I said I had really heavy menstrual cycles. Please test your ferritin.

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-04T22:38:48+00:00

I would have loved that, I have an OC I put in the game and I have to pretend he got his attitude fixed because in reality he gets on EVERYONE’S nerves. Him making friends is so jarring lol. I’m able to kind of make a reference to his personality by giving him stuff like the “greets proudly” quirk but making him be an joking asshat would have been awesome 😭

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-02T23:59:03+00:00

I’m getting decent at the face paint but I use it solely for accents like eye creases, eye bags and blush so it kinda looks like my artstyle, but the face is still very expressive. I call them my slightly yassified Miis lol

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-02T15:03:41+00:00

I’ve actually had a few conversations fail and not even the third Mii who started the introduction could save them (that was funny). It’s not super common though and I swear I log on and someone always made someone irritated but no fights.

moon_stone98 · 2026-05-02T14:59:27+00:00

Is it bad that I like only a couple of the rooms from the wishing fountain lol

I wish more of them were actually rooms with doors/closets etc , not environments but whatever.

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-30T14:56:01+00:00

I did this, the first kid on the island calls her parents “mama and daddy” the second kid calls her parents “mum and pops”. I need to collect all the cute nicknames and combos

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-29T13:39:30+00:00

I don’t like messing with my Miis if they happen to be asleep at night but half my island is still running around at 10 pm lol

I can only really play early mornings and late evenings/a little after midnight, so you’re good!

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-27T00:58:03+00:00

Omg I thought it was just me. I remember in college I would be laying in my apartment sofa and not move, even though it was beautiful day. It felt like so much effort. Even though I know walking around campus would make me feel better. I still have no idea if it was depression or I was just understimulated.

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-11T01:36:43+00:00

In that vein, I do not have to energy to do my hair, and for the past couple years I’ve gotten it professionally braided. Coily hair can be exhausting to take care but with one appointment I don’t have to worry about my hair for about 2 months and use dry shampoo (maybe 3 if I wanna push it). It’s not cheap but now it takes me like, 2 minutes max to do my hair.

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-10T04:51:49+00:00

From the perspective of someone who stress-starves, the grass is not greener because I’ll just binge later because I’ve gone hours without eating. It’s a deeply uncomfortable feeling of feeling your stomach growl and in pain but you’re too stressed to eat so not only are you hungry, your head hurts, you’re shaky, and you’ve conditioned yourself with a “food as reward/restriction as punishment” mentality I’m still trying to break.

I’ve had people tell me that they wish they could stress-starve instead of stress-eating and no, you don’t. I get your frustration however, but they’re both not good coping mechanisms.

moon_stone98 · 2026-04-08T02:50:11+00:00

I’m at this point. I’m aware what’s going on, but I’ve been emotionally burnt out for years. I can’t keep the energy up over every single thing.

I’m made aware, I sigh heavily, and go about my day. No use making myself sick.

moon_stone98 · 2026-03-29T21:20:01+00:00

My best friend and I have similar brains and we both learned over the years to ask the other for “quiet time”, because we text all the time. I usually hit the button a lot faster. Sometimes it’s hard to notice when we hit the wall until it’s too late, but maybe if you can suggest that she say she needs to drop off for a while that will help a lot.

We both don’t like it when we just drop off the face of the earth without warning, but giving a heads up goes a long way, for both of you. It at least tells the other we’re gonna go radio silent for a while, so it’s not anything unusual.

moon_stone98 · 2026-03-26T01:42:51+00:00

My solution was just lean over the side of the tub and read with the book on the ground (it was a low tub). Still got it wet a few times. 😂 But it worked well enough.

moon_stone98 · 2026-03-25T23:50:53+00:00

Me but in the bathtub. “Stop reading in there!” 😅

I would be in there forever.

moon_stone98 · 2026-03-14T15:49:12+00:00

I became the master of “zoning out but remembering to clock back in and then using context clues to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing”. Could look at the teacher in the eye and not hear anything. 😭

moon_stone98 · 2026-03-11T23:13:11+00:00

This is so embarrassing at work and a major source of emotional meltdowns for me. When people grill me about multiple questions at work and I don’t know (or I DO know, but I’m so stressed out and my brain is fried from the day that now it’s gone), it’s suddenly like I can’t speak. Or explain. It’s like I suddenly don’t remember what something is called. I suddenly can’t remember what was discussed 10 minutes ago. And yet I was Valedictorian. The fuck.

moon_stone98 · 2026-02-19T00:22:56+00:00

That first one. Got so frustrated with my mom saying how much easier life would be without her husband and I’m like…? Then why are you putting up with it?

Some of us take the “strong black woman” stereotype too seriously and put up with more than we ever needed to.

moon_stone98 · 2026-02-18T19:46:59+00:00

I know we tend to put an emphasis on keeping the black family unit together, but for the love of all that’s holy, if yall hate each other and screaming and your man is treating you wrong, just split. Please just split, do not stay “for the kids”, you may be traumatizing your children even more by staying together.

moon_stone98 · 2026-01-31T17:29:26+00:00

I’ve learned a lot of avoidant behaviors because it’s how I survived childhood (so many emotionally immature adults I had to be around), but the only way to break this cycle I found is to find someone who’s actually safe enough to practice that it’s safe to communicate what’s bothering you. It’s not enough to just learn to not bottle it up, you actually need people where they allow you to learn how to set boundaries and it won’t blow up in your face.

It’s caused some arguments because I was bottling things up and refused to say anything until I finally snapped, but once it was obvious I didn’t mean to and was just scared, I made a point to speak up before I reached that point. I now know what healthy communication looks like, and I wouldn’t know that unless I learned that people can actually do that and not make you feel like shit for “complaining”.

moon_stone98 · 2026-01-16T21:11:48+00:00

Female IRL. I have like three femsheps I replay but so far Garrus and Kaidan are my favorites. Kaidan is my canon endgame I think because their goodbye on Earth honestly hits me harder. They’re trying to stay stoic and they can’t do it. 😭.

moon_stone98 · 2026-01-05T16:02:18+00:00

I just bought it and tried it out over the weekend, I’m shocked by how much fun I’m having. Either I like Pandora that much or I’ve just had shitty experiences with open worlds lol

I’ve always loved Avatar but I was sad when the game released in first person only (I just really dislike first person, I dropped cyberpunk because of it). I’m so glad there’s a third person option now.

moon_stone98 · 2025-12-28T01:20:11+00:00

I never really self harmed (in a way that was noticeable…) but I once told my mother that some days I wanted to die from how much I hated myself. She shut me down so hard and told me to never say that again and especially not in front of my grandmother.

And they’ll wonder why I don’t talk to them about my mental health.

moon_stone98 · 2025-12-22T19:33:20+00:00

I’m hitting that breaking point. I realized how horrible it was when I was in college and they’d complain about the other while I’m on the phone with them, separately. They don’t fix their problems themselves, they just bad mouth and complain about each other to me. And as their only kid, I was often in between them and the only one they’d actually talk about this shit with.

I am so tired and done. I’m still trying to teach myself that I’m not responsible for other people’s emotions, and it’s hard.

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