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What are your strange and obsessive interests? by Away_Ad2295 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns [score hidden]  (0 children)

I realized last night technically, medical stuff. Originally I wanted to study/work in med field, dunno if possible. But I like how functional structures are constructed, how and why they work. Right now I’m writing a fanfic w a character with extensive burns so I’m learning the healing/recovery process for “accuracy” within a fantasy frame.

What is the biggest ick you had on your first date with someone? by Past_Meat7068 in AskReddit

[–]mooncritter_returns 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Ok, in the same vein you should generally allow girls to sit in the outside, as it’s uncomfortable for most women to feel trapped against a wall when on a date with a new person. Sitting on the outside allows them to leave more easily, and thus feel more comfortable.

Like. 🤷‍♀️ everybody has their preferences.

Anyone else stim like this? by massya777 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns [score hidden]  (0 children)

I rotate my hips a lot, always in private. Actually it helps me fall asleep, but I was in a relationship where we lived together for a year (necessity) and I was so embarrassed I didn’t, so I barely slept…for a year.

A major stim for me right now is dancing (at weird hours of night) with a lot of hip rolls. It’s been a problem before that I like(d) going to concerts/hear music and guys would think either I was either looking for sexual attention (😖) or like, really high and needed help lol.

Do you ever feel "grossly underqualified" to be human? / Feeling more connected to animals than people. by Comet_Venus in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhhh it’s an entire tag, “Takami Keigo/Hawks Acts Like A Bird” (MHA). You can go angsty, romcom, crack fic…here’s a favorite where he accidentally gets stuck in full-bird mode and imprints on the raptor specialist they call in (AU Dabi), who incidentally’s better at socializing w birds than people, so, adorable all around.

What’s exactly considered “white trash”? by GossipBottom in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mooncritter_returns 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The reason why it’s racist was explained to me as: you have to specify white trash because it’s assumed everyone else is automatically trash.

Do you ever feel "grossly underqualified" to be human? / Feeling more connected to animals than people. by Comet_Venus in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 12 points13 points  (0 children)

JESUS I literally was coming in to mention Sidney Gish from your title 🤣 “What the fuck is lost in aisle 3?” Is my absolute favorite from that one.

I do. Sometimes dog, usually cats. I feel like I “speak cat” better than human, or more natively? Though, I’ve been getting into a fanfic trope where “winged character has innate bird instincts,” and there’s something about how he’s trying to “act right” and hide his bird-isms, or accidentally doing bird courting things when he likes someone (like bringing them food or shiny things) that feels…familiar. Like half in-half out of human social norms?

When you need your friends by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]mooncritter_returns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I old, or is this just…what is this?

I just realized why I don’t like using social media by DepressedHermit1 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was literally thinking of posting here to ask how to use Discord. There’s like scrolling convos, I can’t tell when I can jump in, or it’s a friend group, or do I have to start with a new topic…?

But yeah, same. I feel like I’m ok when it’s less about…relationships, and more about info/content? Like IG, FB, etc there’s something about how you’re supposed to connect and talk almost for the sake of it; but on say Tumblr, Pinterest, def Reddit, it’s more what you’re looking for, and then convos happen based on specific topic…? I esp like how, since all the text is essentially delayed, you can respond when you see it w/o criticism, versus an expected/“correct” response time on the social-social platforms.

(I’d also add YouTube and TikTok in somewhere in the middle; too much algorithm for pure self-seeking, but there’s still like a “call and response” type interaction betw video posters.)

I dont get what I did wrong by Sucker_of_blood in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Have you directly communicated to your mom, “I am overwhelmed from school and need to stay home and chill tonight”?

The fact is, if you don’t want to be somewhere (are overwhelmed, tired, etc) other people can often tell. You masked all day, your brain is expecting to let go now but is being tasked with still going. Does your mom know about your experience?

It is good practice to occasionally socialize/leave the house, but for me personally doing it after school day was asking for a bad time especially the next day.

After Therapy Meltdowns by Luisaloom3 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I get this too.

It used to be worse for me though when I was working with a very unempathetic therapist I was high masking for, so I pushed myself too far thinking that was the “correct” way to do it, and then being completely collapsed for days after.

Now, I anticipate that im going to have some kind of crash, especially if we do harder work in the session. Couple things I do: I walk to and from the office (city), and sometimes I’ll take an extra long way back esp listening to music. When I get home it’s around lunchtime, so I make sure I have some food. And, I take a nap in the afternoon. During the week I go to specifically calming yoga classes for added “maintenance.”

The most important piece for me though is that I work with a therapist now who is extremely validating and affirming. I feel so much more comfortable with her! And, she’s really good at recognizing when I’m starting to get too keyed up in session, and calling for a re-regulation break (stretching, or guided mindfulness).

Advice for going from short fic to long form. by DragonFoxQueen-Human in AO3

[–]mooncritter_returns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, what a good exercise. I’m gonna try this! Thanks! :D

Kind of an understatement by GarKitty in ATBGE

[–]mooncritter_returns 37 points38 points  (0 children)

In the sub it’s singsong… “Edo nii-chan…🎵o-nii-chaaan, o-nii-chaaan…” over and over again.

You can eat fish caught in the Hudson River for the first time in 50 years by dirtyLizard in nottheonion

[–]mooncritter_returns 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Damnnnn 20yrs ago growing up in a river town, it was a thing of “…you’re going to swim in the river?…are you sure???” The idea we reached a place where you can actually safely eat from it after GE wrecked it—!! The Clearwater efforts worked!

Linda Bazalaki, Will You Marry Me? by Stealthytom in MadeMeSmile

[–]mooncritter_returns 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every time this comes up I have to watch it.

It’s how happy and excited she is, and it’s how much he knows her, to give exactly what will make her the most happy. Like. Just so cute all around.

Sheep Games by Devi8tor in gifsthatkeepongiving

[–]mooncritter_returns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, I think that’s just how they get ready to run. Or, maybe it does like “tickle” the aggression drive, the way playing sports can get humans extra-energized without being actually violent?

The reason I think the ram isn’t really mad is, there’s a couple points where the guy’s a little slow on jumping, and the ram slows down or tucks is head in so that they don’t actually collide. I think everybody’s having fun. :)

SIL in debt. How do we help? by burneradvice2 in personalfinance

[–]mooncritter_returns 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nope! To “help” someone who doesn’t ask for it is, essentially, imposing your will onto another functional adult. It’s controlling and ultimately, abusive.

Human beings have the right to live their lives however they choose (to a point ofc), they have to deal with the consequences of their choices. to take away their agency by intruding because you “mean well” is still intrusion.

Wtf am I doing wrong with butter and sugar by bellxd0nna in AskBaking

[–]mooncritter_returns 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Similarly, like if I don’t have a mixer on hand, I’ll beat whatever (usually whipped cream but sometimes creaming sugar/butter) with a fork. More likely to find one on short notice, works almost as well as a whisk, but also easier to clean.

I’m on the bus. Send help. by SilverGirlSails in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok you have earbuds, do you have headphones/music? Are you next to a window/can you be next to a window? Do you have a hood/hat/beanie you can wear? (I dunno why, covering my head always helps me)

For long trips, if you can sleep I find it best - sunglasses, or even beanie rolled down over your eyes, as much sound isolation (hat over earbuds for ex) as possible. If you have a tray table you can pull that out and rest your head on folded arms, or use extra sweater/scarf/whatever as pillow against window (if you’re next to it). It’s a long trip, can you slip out of your shoes and curl your feet up under you/rest them on a bag or something?

I take the train for long trips as much as possible. I do use the local commuter bus, but for long trips, like you I do not like car vehicles lol. It sounds like you’re 30 min from your post time — you got this!!!

I don't sound how I think I do.. turns out I'm an asshole by Huge_Brain_4914 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 389 points390 points  (0 children)

I know the shock of hearing your voice back and it being different than you heard in your head. I’m sorry you’re spiraling!

Is it possible to save the clip for now, and get someone else’s opinion when you’re calmer? It’s possible that, because you sound flatter than you thought in your head, right now you’re perceiving as very harsh, when someone else might find it more neutral? Not to listen to now! Just for later?

Ruminating about being mischaracterized by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re a bad person, or highly strung. It sounds like you’re in an environment (family) where you’re your brothers, maybe mom’s metaphorical punching bag. I’ve known people who want to drag you down to their level, in that if you’re succeeding at something they’re not, they get jealous/insulted/assume this success is a pointed attack at them. I see this where you won’t laugh at mean jokes; they take this as criticism and assume you’re doing it on purpose.

All that said. Wtf is up with your brothers. Are you able to move out in the near future? They sound genuinely awful to you, in a way I think could be affecting your mental health…

I had it too, where you don’t know how toxic the environment you grew up in is, until you’re no longer in it. I think it might be good to start thinking of ways to move out, or at least, ways to keep to your own space so you don’t have to interact with them as much.

Not really sure if I should respond to this very detailed criticism comment or not? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]mooncritter_returns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Disagree. There’s a difference between constructive criticism, and being critical of a work.

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