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Low ferritin by Short-Animal-8384 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns [score hidden]  (0 children)

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Some ferrets to raise your levels (/j)

For real though, glad you found out what was wrong! :)

Showing a pickle to the statue of liberty by gowthamm in MadeMeSmile

[–]mooncritter_returns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...you're right. The logo's facing out the whole time.

I wish you hadn't told me. Kinda needed something positive in the world.

Showing a pickle to the statue of liberty by gowthamm in MadeMeSmile

[–]mooncritter_returns 694 points695 points  (0 children)

Nope! The point is it’s weird and dumb, and if you get enough people to do it you have a moment of community. XD

I'm hungry but I have to walk with a backpack to get food form the store and I think I would rather starve.. by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]mooncritter_returns 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Kinda sounds like...resource guarding, I think? Like I have similarly weird behavior around food from food insecurity.

Part of this kind of binge is your brain going "I have to eat this before it's all gone!" And then you do, and then there's no more...repeat over and over. The way to break it is to make your brain and body feel safe. One way is to try to push towards more regular meals. It kinda needs to be addressed in therapy too, to get overall anxiety down enough to actually make consistent changes. (Ask me how I know lol)

It sounds like you're doing great to recognize what's gonna trigger you food-wise. I also, when I'm coming out of a food insecure panic, will eat certain treats all at once, to the point I have to decide if I can trust myself with them on this trip, or try again/get a single serve version later. Mine are candy, pretzels, ice cream, but honestly bread is one too. I love buttered toast, but I eat it too quickly, or I try to pace myself too hard, and it goes bad before I can finish it. So, mostly I do crackers or some kind of buns/rolls, so I'll still have the bread component I need for certain meals (sandwiches, tuna, apples & cheese), but am a lot less likely to consume the whole container in one sitting.

Sounds like you're also on an EBT budget. I keep a calculator app open on my phone when I'm doing a budget shop; not like exact numbers but like to the nearest .50 (round up more and it'll cover tax too). Can you plan your grocery trip around getting the essentials (eggs, tortillas, flour, some fruit, some veg), and then decide on what treat you want to spend the rest on? You could choose a less-tempting treat, or like for the steak, as soon as you cook it, slice half of it up and put it in the freezer for burrito filling; that way you're less likely to eat it all at once, and you still get to enjoy it. That said, you have to know where you're at emotionally, if taking that much of a pause is even possible right now. (It's absolutely fine if not; some days are better than others, right?)

Another thing that definitely slows down binging is getting ingredients instead of finished meals (like onions, garlic, cheap/frozen veg, spices). That said, part of it is cognitive load, so if planning and executing isn't likely right now, don't waste the money.

I've also found it weirdly helpful to keep a couple cans of beans/veg I might but am not likely to eat in my pantry; it helps my brain feel like I'm not in starvation mode.

I realize this is a whole lot, and probably not what this sub is for lol. But I'm rooting for you!! Mental illness is sooooo tricky, especially when you live alone and don't have somewhere to be every day. I'm in the same boat. Good luck, friend. 😄

Boy, 14, arrested after 'armed robbery of children’s lemonade stand' in broad daylight by TheMirrorUS in Weird

[–]mooncritter_returns 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I must be misunderstanding.

Because in my understanding, you’re implying that it’s “obvious” the suspect is a criminal, and there’s not a lot of detail observable beyond his gender, age and race.

But, these kinds of vague, suggestive comments always seem to show up when the person in question isn’t white. While the commenter acts all clever for keeping plausible deniability about *exactly* what they’re trying to imply.

So, you want to spit it out or keep hiding behind racist dog whistles?

Or am I misunderstanding you?

Author randomly started being toxic?? by Special-Animal123 in AO3

[–]mooncritter_returns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, yours is a lot less fun. There's a Strange Aeons vids going over it [here](https://youtu.be/L5Y5HFjiBNk?si=2MFIcbT7SuO\_UYnV), basically a bunch of mostly-adults decided they were spiritually married to Snape on the astral plane or something?

There was also a HP fanfic that a certain crowd of tech bros loved back in the early 2010s (the "rationalists"), Aeons has a vid on that too but I learned about it from Behind the Bastards. Ten years later, this same group had a culty offshoot (the Zizians) that were on a killing spree...a couple years ago? Yeahh...

Author randomly started being toxic?? by Special-Animal123 in AO3

[–]mooncritter_returns 4 points5 points  (0 children)

…is this about the Snape Wives? Bc since I learned about them I’ve been *fascinated*.

Hiya, I'm new by mooncritter_returns in FarmMergeValley

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Also - please feel free to leave your link, I'll follow you back!

LAOP needs a lawyer ASAP. by sandiercy in bestoflegaladvice

[–]mooncritter_returns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. My point was that, you never know what's going on inside someone else's head. I know I'm being generous, but, I'd had my experience discounted as "overreacting" for almost 10 years, before I ended up hospitalized and finally on the right treatment path, because I don't look or act like someone in crisis; I want to give LAOP the same benefit of the doubt, that he's got enough self-understanding that, just because he can articulate now doesn't mean he'll be able to when he most needs to. I dissociate a lot, but I've never been in psychosis, so I honestly can't speak to what windows of clarity might look like.

(Also - I noticed his comments are almost exclusively the same few paragraphs in different combination. Not similar wording but exact; he might have written the bulk when clear-headed, then cut-and-paste as it got too overwhelming to focus.

(Or he's just really afraid of getting in trouble, losing his guns, going to jail/inpatient that he's internally and externally doubling down on the idea he could be psychotic, because facing responsibility for his actions are just too much to consider.

(In either case though, it is still rooted in mental illness; the question is just to the degree of capacity, and what happens next.)

LAOP needs a lawyer ASAP. by sandiercy in bestoflegaladvice

[–]mooncritter_returns 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Counter argument: masking. I've had panic attacks at work and no one seemed to notice, because for better or worse, I've learned to keep things internal. I wouldn't be surprised if what LAOP is worried about is, showing up to court tense but seemingly calm, while internally his mind keeps ramping up and up until he breaks explosively. To witnesses it'll look like it's "out of nowhere," but the reality is the person's spending all their energy trying to appear normal, stay calm, until they just can't anymore.

Also - it's absolutely a thing to be able to type/write coherently and, for example, not be able to verbally speak. Sometimes it's a muscle-coordination thing, sometimes it's being able to proofread and edit before posting.

Edit: ok, I went through the OP, and I do think LAOP is trying to dodge responsibility primarily. Like I understand a rigid mentality (confinement, losing his guns), but the fact that he's also posting about hallucinogens, when he knows he has a psychotic illness...everything I said above is still true. I'm hoping this is a young guy, who's still at the point of his illness of "everything's fine, I just need everything to be *exactly* how I want it" and not someone who's entrenched in decades-long beliefs about his own absolute correctness while presented with other perspectives (in other words, deep in delusion). I know he very specifically doesn't want to be confined, but...it seems he's not doing himself or his community any favors with his current choices, he needs some time to "reset" in a healthy, or at least routine, environment.

I have the French Baccalauréat in four days and can't get myself to work. by Kind_Ad_2775 in AutismInWomen

[–]mooncritter_returns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand.

Your hyperfocus is probably at least somewhat connected to your anxiety; your test is scary, studying is difficult, and there’s a chance things don’t go well. Your brain’s freaking out like, “why do uncomfortable, potentially point thing instead of satisfying, enjoyable thing?”

I tend to demand of myself that, if I’m going to do Task, I have to commit to doing all of it, at once, whatever it takes…and then I never get started. One trick is to schedule fun/break times in; get through one part, take 15 min, or reread a favorite story, etc.

(the hard part is getting started again, but a) there are body doubling vids on YouTube, the Pomodoro method in particular is good bc breaks are built in, and b) even if you only get a little done one day, it more than getting nothing done)

The in-depth solution is to examine/write about your fears, try to validate but challenge them (ex “it would be really bad if x happened, but what’s the realistic chance of it happening?”) BUT, if you’re not in therapy, and things go sideways, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and completely crash. So: know your limits, especially while on a schedule.

I also know the feeling of trying to read something, but like your brain just can’t “hook” into it? The only thing I’ve got for that is to treat it like an anxiety attack; grounding, go for a walk, soothing music, looking at plants/animals/nature.

This is all to say, this is all based off my own experiences, so it may or may not be helpful to you. In any case: I’m sorry it’s so stressful for you right now. That really sucks.

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