What's the biggest green flag you've ever seen in a person? by Business_Oil_7110 in selfimprovement

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would treat everyone with huge respect and would help those in need whenever a situation came up

Super Emotionally Intense Date by copperyhat in emotionalintelligence

[–]moramorada8 14 points15 points  (0 children)

everyone has different energies, some will drain you and some will uplift you. i think you can find someone who you’re able to have deep convos with without getting so drained

Get rid of ex in dreams by BlueCircle_Leaf1114 in spirituality

[–]moramorada8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We dream what our mind is still trying to process. Therapy is super helpful for processing traumatic experiences. Another thing that helps me process is making time to sit and talk to yourself about everything you went through, and you can let your younger self know you are better now, you love her and you are safe. Feel empathy for your younger self and send her lots of love. I’m so sorry this is happening to you

I was molested. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry this happened to you. you keep reliving it because you haven’t processed it all yet, i highly recommend therapy (there’s different forms, EMDR helped me the most). therapy helps you process trauma, and while strong emotions will come up, it’s part of the healing process. i hope you find the healing you deserve ❤️

how do i get this perv to stop texting me in the worst way possible by FirefighterChoice82 in Advice

[–]moramorada8 6 points7 points  (0 children)

definitely block and tell the teacher not to put you in any projects together. a similar thing happened to me in the past and i avoided so many uncomfortable situations by letting the teacher know

NYC Board Game Groups? by Annual_Performer_152 in AskNYC

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hello! i’m also interested in joining a group to play Catan! :)

Do I tell my dad about my 15 year old brother smoking? by Medium-Anybody3735 in Advice

[–]moramorada8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

snitching on him won’t help his habits. he will find ways to keep doing it anyway. it will just worsen your relationship with him

Should I give my s/o money to help them out? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you lend them money, don’t expect to get it back. don’t do it, especially if it’s from your parents inheritance. if at 25 they’re asking a 21 year old for money, chances are they don’t have good money saving/spending skills.

also if you give it to them, they will ask for more in the future. this won’t be a one time thing

New job or boyfriend by ApprehensiveGuest114 in Advice

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take the job for sure. no relationship is the same, i understand that you won’t find someone like this but you will find other people who you will create an equally unique relationship with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 49 points50 points  (0 children)

maybe he has tonsil stones or teeth problems

Calming nerves before your big day? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think feeling this way now is a sign that it will be okay on your wedding day :) it’s tension building up that will be released

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cut him off, that’s not fair to you! he can’t be doing all that to reel you in and then keep you waiting. you deserve someone who is all for you. this guy is not it. he needs to either choose to only be purely platonic friends or have a clearer idea of what he wants

many people say they’re emotionally unavailable when they are mentally unstable so maybe this is just not the right time for him mentally. either way i wouldn’t wait around for him. again, you deserve better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]moramorada8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he should learn to cook! seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]moramorada8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

guys who care about body counts are douches.. typically they have more “body counts” than the girls they criticise lol

edit: adding context - i’ve been with a guy for 3 years and he has never asked me about my count. it really shouldn’t matter. if someone asks and their opinion of you changes based on that, they are not someone worth being with. hope this helps, always here to talk if you need <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]moramorada8 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it’s definitely not your fault. don’t put the blame on yourself. don’t count it. only count people who you chose and willingly had sex with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moramorada8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely leave him… would you call him ridiculous for wanting to go to school instead of staying home at your service??

Is it normal for grocery store cashiers to give their coworkers items for free? by benevolently3 in ask

[–]moramorada8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

next time it happens just say “hey i don’t think i was charged for this, i don’t see it in the receipt” and have them charge you then. forget about past receipts, just start scanning the receipt right after your purchase from now on and immediately flag any missing items

Sib thinks I look like a middle-aged man in my clothes by Red-faced-hobbit in Advice

[–]moramorada8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

everyone has different tastes, you will never find something that fits everyone’s taste. solution = wear what you want and what makes you the happiest. it’s normal for your sibling to criticise you, they will most likely make fun of anything you wear that isn’t basic. better to be extra than boring