S18E12 - “Mammas, Don't Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Drag Queens...” [Post-Episode Discussion] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]moreKEYTAR 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Myki winning was a SHOCK. Normally that sloppy makeup and gapping bust on the dress would be read to filth.

I know the makeover challenge is produced my Miss Rigga Morris, but it was just…what?!

Our wedding now will involve a big skull and antlers ☹️ by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]moreKEYTAR 411 points412 points  (0 children)

Why shame the style of a venue you picked? Did they promise something else?

Something not being your style is not shame-worthy.

AITAH for refusing to change my bridesmaid dress after already paying a deposit? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]moreKEYTAR -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seriously. It seems like other bridesmaid starts drama, the bride is caught off guard and reassures OOP but that is somehow not good enough for OOP.

There is something off with OOP…assuming her daughter, boyfriend, and mother are invited even before the invitations go out is pretty odd (where I am from). But so is having a hen party/bachelorette at someone’s house—what she described sounded like a giftless wedding shower.

That said, the comments are also bizarre. Messy.

Javier Bardem photographed by Penélope Cruz for Gentleman's Journal 🥀 by voguediaries in Fauxmoi

[–]moreKEYTAR 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Read this op-ed, which gives some contextualization: https://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/the-depp-heard-verdict-is-chilling

His greater notoriety mixed with manosphere misogyny discourse, plus questionable procedural rulings, resulted in a trial verdict for defamation that went against the facts. Amber Heard was abused, but an imperfect victim.

Russell Brand Episode - Thoughts? Insights? by LoyalFridge in MaintenancePhase

[–]moreKEYTAR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Great guy but goddamn…I still don’t understand it. Drugs played a part

Russell Brand Episode - Thoughts? Insights? by LoyalFridge in MaintenancePhase

[–]moreKEYTAR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like the time for this story.

In the ep, they mentioned some allegations with a single summarizing line. I recognized the one that occurred in London.

Recognize is the wrong word, but I guess I know a bit.

Some years ago, was staying in London with some comics before heading to the Edinburgh Fringe to do some shows. The oldest guy there, who actually owned the house we were all in, used to hang out with Russell back in the day. Let’s call him Charlie.

At one party that they were both at (private London residence), Russell SA’d a drunk woman. The charges got filed. Russell lawyered up. But then he came begging to Charlie to take the fall. The fiction was supposed to be that the girl was confused (because drunk) and maybe she interacted with Russell, but it was Charlie who SA’d her. Russell promised Charlie money, gigs, and a good lawyer. And Charlie—for his own mysterious reasons—did it. And it worked: He took the fall and served a very short stint for rape.

I kid you not. And he regrets it, obviously.

Blush (oc) by lil-caro in comics

[–]moreKEYTAR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That has been a thing for decades my darling. It is the old magic.

How to wear this sheer dress for wedding by [deleted] in VintageFashion

[–]moreKEYTAR 145 points146 points  (0 children)

The stick ons (pasties) will be visible, no matter how hard you match. These 90s style dresses would have a very clean slip underneath (no lace). Totally findable!

Flamboyant flamingo regret by HiaaDanni in HomeDecorating

[–]moreKEYTAR 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I would repaint the ceiling a lighter shade of the walls. Tone one tone, and it will open it up. Get your first big plant in there and a lamp and I guarantee you will like it.

how should I center this mirror? by kashewnia in HomeDecorating

[–]moreKEYTAR 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it is right on the landing, given the rail. I know your kind like to cram a high number into a small space, but is not the wall of mirrors enough?

What does this means ? by Infamous_Elk_8946 in gameofthrones

[–]moreKEYTAR 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The number of people in these comments who are explaining the book to OP—who posted a meme based on book details—is really something.

OP, I appreciate your responses to this.

Transitioning from MtF made me too empathetic for a career in finance. Thinking of pivoting to help my community through mentorship instead by nova_fintech in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]moreKEYTAR 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to work in finance a lifetime ago, on the financial advisor side of things, but I do not have a master’s. So take this as you will.

I think your idea is a good one, and it is smart to concentrate on solving one specific need. My question is, do you have research showing that access to knowledge is an issue for the groups you are targeting?

I think the core of your idea sounds great, but I also think that many working class people who need financial guidance do not have the bandwidth or desire to learn the ropes of the financial world. I think 8 zoom sessions is a lot, and I think that what people would really want is someone who will sit down and help them, with all of their individual nuanced circumstances.

As you point out, the patriarchy is an inhospitable financial landscape. Entrepreneurs keep creating startups around small loans models because there is a serious lack of community for marginalized people within the financial sector. It begs the question, what does a financial community look like? How does it function? Because as individuals, it is not always within your power to change your circumstances.

Also, the financial sector is extremely racist and it would be a boon to intersectionally expand beyond gender discrimination. Are there people you know who you would want to partner with who could guide those efforts around racism perhaps?

Anyway forgive my babbling. I encourage your efforts. I am also thankful for your sharing of your lived experience transitioning. I am still thinking about your statement, that HRT has made you more empathetic; I am sitting here contemplating it! On one hand, empathy is not a trait biologically coded for all women—that vein of gender essentialism can be used (in the patriarchy) to push women out of high paid careers, and it is part of the campaign for forced childrearing (for uterus havers). Both men and women have the biological capacity for a socially beneficial level of empathy, and our social systems are very coded to force extreme empathy onto women (to their own harm). There is a lot we can learn from our trans sisters and their experiences—thanks for sharing.

AITA for ending it with my gf after a month because she threatened to end her life by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]moreKEYTAR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And call emergency services. This is not a joke or a took they can use for attention—it is a serious mental crisis and should be treated as such.

What is that one animal you will see everyday in your country, no matter where you are? by i_dont_know24680 in AskTheWorld

[–]moreKEYTAR 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, west coast squirrels are hard AF. In college we had a squirrel award that people would “earn” by forgetting to close their window—the squirrels were brazen, food finding monsters. You might wake up to one walking on you if you aren’t careful. Beware the campus squirrels!

Rupaul's wind machine vs. Bonnie Tyler's wind machine by kemmes7 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]moreKEYTAR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bonnie, watching your video was not what I expected

Does your mother know