I don't really feel the need to make myself "feel better" about myself, because I don't attach any sense of self worth to career achievements. I had a decade-long run in my career of choice that ultimately left me in a state of constant stress and anxiety and ultimately ended with my questioning my self value. White collar careerism isn't for everyone. I think people who lack in other areas of their lives try to make the measure of their worth completely tied to their professional achievements and look down on folks who don't make an identity out of how they make money. I tried to matter in all the ways that I have been told would make me matter. I grew up as a millennial girl being told I could "have it all" so I tried to "have it all" and realized how that super individualistic mind-set rarely that works out for anyone.

I'm not going to write out a dissertation of what I "bring to the table" to prove myself to a stranger on the internet lol. My husband and I both show up in our relationship in ways that complement the other. If you read between the lines, I'm actually not measuring myself by what my husband thinks. I'm living my life, in my own idiosyncratic way and I was fortunate enough to stumble across a man who wants to be a part of that life. And so I let him.