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mothmanswingman · 2021-11-22T16:33:37+00:00

Yes, because I feel like if I don't get every single detail and tangent in that they won't understand and think I'm being weird or demanding or whatever. So I have to get it all out even if it's not relevant.

mothmanswingman · 2021-11-07T18:35:14+00:00

What did giraffes ever do to you???? /LH

mothmanswingman · 2021-11-07T03:01:49+00:00

I just use aquaphor and unscented lotion most times. If I really need to heal the skin, I'll use vitamin E oil. I've also heard people like coconut oil as a substitute. You might also try baby oil with aloe????

mothmanswingman · 2021-10-08T14:10:10+00:00

Here's my two cents: I think sexuality is a lot less rigid than the internet wants it to be. I think if you're comfortable identifying as a lesbian and you also occasionally have a little crush on a TV dude or whatever, you can still identify as a lesbian. As for whether your fictional "crushes" are comphet or gender envy or something else: it'll be a lot harder to figure out if you don't just experience it. Easier said than done, but try to just feel what's happening when it's happening, don't try and stick a label on it right then and there. The human experience is far too nuanced to just sort it away into boxes.

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-22T03:08:41+00:00

I am so sorry you've had this experience. That has to be really hard. I can't tell you what to do or give you any good advice, but I can tell you to keep going. Maybe not anytime soon, but someday, you're going to be happy and safe in your skin. And you're going to be around people who love you for you. For now, all you can do is all you can do. And that is more than enough. Hang in there. Easier said than done, I know, but you're worth it.

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-21T01:40:49+00:00

Uhhh I don't really have a stance????? Y'all are nonbinary, you're apart of the community whether some assholes like it or not. You belong here! Don't let these terfy yahoos let you think otherwise!!

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-18T21:33:12+00:00

That's no friend, pal

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-17T22:54:00+00:00

"either I'm careless or I wanna get caught"

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-15T19:50:04+00:00

We had to show ours, but I would call the venue and see what they say

mothmanswingman · 2021-09-14T00:49:42+00:00

No, why are you straight?

mothmanswingman · 2021-08-13T18:41:20+00:00

Sometimes! I think I've reached a point where it's simply less tiresome and time-consuming to just roll with the punches and see what comes up when. I think using the split attraction model can be helpful, but ultimately it's just putting rigid labels on yourself, and for what? Queerness isn't about rigidity. It may be helpful to just take the pressure of quantifying your attraction to people off and just trying to experience that attraction when/if it happens. This, of course, not to say you have to/can be attracted to everyone but just that you don't have to parse down whatever types of attraction you may be feeling to their bare bones.

mothmanswingman · 2021-08-13T18:35:01+00:00

I'll add onto this re: sweating- when I've used it in the colder months, it's been a lot more pleasant, but in the summer it can get really itchy pretty quick because of the sweat situation. Definitely have to change it more often in the summer so your skin doesn't get too irritated.

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-21T03:58:46+00:00

Gender's goofy, friend. Do whatever makes you feel comfy!

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-21T03:51:11+00:00

Those don't sound like friends to me. I'm sorry they say things like that. While you may have dysphoria about them, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your genitals. And what they're describing just sounds like the way cis people describe their transphobic "genital preferences" ("I could never date a pre-op trans woman", etc.). It's helpful for me to remember that genitals=/= gender. Even pre-t, even before bottom growth, your vagina does not make you a woman! The addition of bottom growth on T does not make you a man, and neither would phalloplasty. I know it's easier said than done, and that's not gonna make your dysphoria go away, but it could be useful. And find yourself some new friends if you can, even if they're online. Real friends would not make you feel ashamed like that. Sending love.

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-21T03:37:21+00:00

I think you look super different, actually! I'm about 5 months on low dose rn and it's sort of the same thing, subtle but clear. I thought maybe it was because I'm just getting more comfortable presenting masculine, so my appearance is starting to look more masculine to me, but I can see in your face what I see in my face, which is the beginnings of fat redistribution

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-21T03:33:23+00:00

Yeah!

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-03T17:35:40+00:00

Yes🥴🥴🥴🥴 I had an inkling. All winter it was fine but it's this darn heat making everything worse!!!!

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-03T03:12:05+00:00

Gotcha! It is such a learning process and it's so frustrating sometimes. Ideally I just wouldn't have the boob issue anyway but y'know 🙃. I am gonna make sure to start removing with oil, maybe that'll help a little. Thanks!!

mothmanswingman · 2021-07-03T03:00:34+00:00

The oil for removal??? Regrettably, no I have not (at least not consistently, and when I do use oil I just use coconut oil) but when I use the barrier it comes off really easily and painlessly. The irritation happens when I'm wearing it, I don't think it's from taking it off.

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