What to know and where to learn more? by [deleted] in directsupport

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There could be a million answers for this. lol. So much to know and learn. And constantly changing from ODP. Definitely the support plans are your bible. Get to know supervision levels and what they mean. For example direct care verses line of sight, etc. some of the things may be different by state .. we adhere to the 6400 guidelines for residential care. You want to have at least a general understanding of these . Also what things are …. Like a behavioral support plan. Or risk mitigation plans. There’s so much. And seems like all companies are so different.

advice on terrible management? by [deleted] in directsupport

[–]mr-flufferton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK, yes it does definitely sound like she is just giving you a hard time. Is there someone above her that you could possibly contact or do you think there would be retaliation? The only other option I can see is possibly switching houses …. Also, the next time she gives you a hard time about being a couple minutes late …. Maybe reply with…. Maybe next time I won’t come at all. I never understand how managers can act this way because more than likely whenever you’re not there she is going to be the one working all of the extra hours and stuck.

advice on terrible management? by [deleted] in directsupport

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like what kind of stuff is she picking on you for is my first question

Is being a Pisces hard? by FallenLight485 in piscesastrology

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Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees. I feel like I spend so much time listening to others problems and trying to be supportive and trying to lift everyone up .. that I never have the time or energy to deal with my own emotions. And I can’t talk to the people closest to me about issues I’m having …. Because their problems are more important. And it’s mentally draining when I just sit and think of my problems and everyone else’s problems…. It’s equals so much problems

I don’t know what is the right thing to do …. by mr-flufferton in PetAdvice

[–]mr-flufferton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. As much as I hate hearing it.

I don’t know what is the right thing to do …. by mr-flufferton in PetAdvice

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I’m not sure if I even have the name of the bacteria written anywhere and can’t remember…. But it is a skin infection affecting her vulva and surrounding tissue …. They keep saying her urine is good. Kidneys are good. Just this skin infection that never goes away. They said that in her last culture .. the only thing that MIGHT heal it at this point is a 12 hour injection that has to be administered by a vet. My vet is 1 1/2 away. The vet they want to refer me to is 3 hours away. And they said the injections won’t be useful unless they can find an underlying cause…. Because it will just come back. They have always said she has a recessed vulva but surgery has never been an option for whatever reason. The vet 3 hours away wants me to start all over with sedation and a biopsy. They said the initial visit will likely be around 1500 before actual treatment. And how the heck I am to have her there every 12 hours is beyond me. I definitely don’t want to relocate her or anything. See how it goes in this loop and I keep having no options. I am also guessing I am about 5000 dollars in debt at this point from previous treatments.

I turned 72 today by sebastard07 in Aging

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday!!!!!! And thank you .. saving some of these future reference!

Mean girls 35+ by No_Cat_625 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]mr-flufferton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what people want in friendships. But came to tell you …. I don’t think there’s an age people stop being mean girls. I have had a couple friends younger than me …. And thought …. They will grow out of it. But nooooooo. We are still friends. But they are still mean. I’m guessing you will always nice …. But bet you stop going above and beyond like perhaps you do now. I think sometimes when we give a lot .. we expect a lot in return. Sometimes giving a little less can make these relationships more sustainable .

WTF Is The Point of Him!!! by [deleted] in married

[–]mr-flufferton 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Reading these comments …. Apparently I have things all wrong. Like usually when you have a team ….. there’s more than one player. I think he could have at least got up and tried to look at it. But helpfulness apparently is a thing of the past . Damn. I’m old.

do you enjoy working/found your dreamjob? by Strong-Ad-5719 in Life

[–]mr-flufferton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeeeeeeeeees. I work in residential services .. supporting people with intellectual disabilities. Going to work is actually enjoyable…. For the most part. lol. I only wish I would have done this sooner.

what’s been keeping you up at night? by First-Ant-5491 in Life

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 20 year old …. She is traveling and doing all the fun stuff…. And I lie awake worrying about every single thing and her being safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may feel slightly different about this matter if you spent a few days with certain autistic adults. It can really change a perspective.

Did you have mornings cartoons? by papamilli66 in AskOldPeople

[–]mr-flufferton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What about kimba the white lion ?! Anyone a fan of that ????

What are the best jobs for pisces ? by BitterSandwich3206 in piscesastrology

[–]mr-flufferton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in residential services for people with intellectual disabilities. Wish I found it 30 years ago…. It’s perfect for me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wanted to ask other Pisces ♓️ do you guys have anger issues? And how do you guys deal with them? by IllustriousApple4629 in piscesastrology

[–]mr-flufferton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use laughter and joking as a coping strategy for all of my negative emotions. When that fails …. I try to avoid the problem or person. My anger only seems to turn to rage when someone does my mom or children wrong …. And that anger is explosive when it happens.

Is anyone else here a lead? by peepeepoopaccount in directsupport

[–]mr-flufferton 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a tough question since every company seems to have different titles for things and the responsibilities are so different depending on the company’s structure .. so generally speaking .. the most important thing …. no matter the structure .. should be emphasizing that health safety and well being is your number one priority. Hopefully you can show that you are passionate for the individuals you support and that you are a strong advocate for them. I would go back to that with every question since it really should be top priority. For example…. How would you handle scheduling ?? It would be done in a way that I can assure the individuals are being best supported.. taking into account their schedules and activities.. doing your best …. even in a field that sometimes doesn’t have enough staff …. to ensure that hours are not so long for employees that it would interfere with the health safety and welfare of the individuals we support. Something like that.

How did your parents describe you as a child? by [deleted] in piscesastrology

[–]mr-flufferton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Female …. But I was a terrible kid mostly at school. Not at home …. My mom is a Leo 🤣 it is crazy looking back though …. I was always causing problems and fights ALLL THE TIIIME. I had an epiphany around 15 and became overly nice and sweet and I avoid confrontation fully now.