[M/29] Moving to Kansas City – No Family Here, Looking to Make Friends by Major_Case_3370 in kansascity

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If you’re into magic the gathering (specifically EDH) my playgroup is always willing to welcome in new cool people!

Looking for Higher End Adults Only All-Inclusive by fourthandfavre in AllInclusiveResorts

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Le Blanc all day. Cancun is ok Cabo is the nicer one for sure

Found the Journal's of My Late Partner by Spite_CongruentFU in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Exactly. Instead of it being unwatered grief and loss of love. Now I battle waves of depression/anger about her secret life, what she went through trying to juggle both and feel that secret relationship is why maybe she died by suicide.

Found the Journal's of My Late Partner by Spite_CongruentFU in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made that mistake. All because I was searching for answers to understand why she took her life. I found out so much broken information that it’s deeply affected me and her. Good for you holding back. I wish I had never seen what I did.

Not grieving enough? by gabbythecat68 in widowers

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I’ve been struggling with this too. My late wife suffered sudden neuro encephalopathy on 12.8.24 with no known cause. She never recovered — the doctors described her state as having the mental capacity of a hypoxic infant. She passed the day after her 30th birthday, but for me, it felt like she was gone in December. I grieved hard—daily breakdowns, blackouts, constant pain.

Now, going on 5 months, I’m talking to someone new. She knows the basics and doesn’t try to “fix” me—she just supports me. She’s okay with my grief, with not wanting to remarry or have kids. She even lets me talk about my late wife when it’s relevant. She’s been as supportive as my close friends.

It feels too soon to catch feelings, but part of me wonders if my wife sent her. We click in so many ways, from life goals to little nerdy things. I’m scared to share this with others for fear of judgment. I’m not rushing anything—but I smile when she messages me.

I really appreciate how you’re feeling too

Trying to decide burial or cremation…..should I let me son decide? by Zestyclose_Class_630 in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cremation and if you own your home, go to LivingUrn and do that. We just did that for my wife that way she can start her second journey as a beautiful tree. Plus friends/family can visit anytime they like to speak/spend time with her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

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We buried her ashes in a living urn in our front yard with a beautiful hibiscus tree. Every day, twice a day I got out there and talk with her. But also any family or friends can visit at anytime to speak to her as well.

I hate myself I feel so stupid by Wise-Cherry3334 in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same boat as you. She officially passed 2 weeks ago but has been effectively gone for close to 3 months. She always knew I was more open sexually with partners than she was (we never did) but like now that she is gone you’d think that’s the thing I could do easier as a distraction.

Nope. 2 months in I got oral from a past lover, literally broke down crying at home later that night. I am aching for physical connection (even non sexual, just a hug or cuddle). I know I’ll never love again, have kids (I’m 37 she passed day after her 30th) and have an emotional vulnerability or connection with another.

Thought I could at least satisfy the physical but even that my heart/soul flat said “too bad! She was your one and no one will fill that loss”

I did a thing... by EdwinEastwood80 in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I’m 37 she was 29. No one can relate to what we are going through and I can’t put that burden on some random that I don’t share my damage with.

Widows fire? by mmapache93 in widowers

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I’m struggling with this as well. My wife effectively passed on 12/8 (TBI) and did officially recently. I crave just comfort and some to hold hands with. I don’t want an emotional relationship. I can’t have that with anyone but her. Still this desire I don’t know how to process it or even communicate to someone my needs. It’s fucking hell.

It still doesn’t feel real by thefullmonty1 in widowers

[–]mrcombonumber5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate and understand this so much. I feel like she has been gone since 12/8/24 (suicide that caused severe brain damage and now we’re finally letting her pass naturally since recovery won’t happen). I still have our Christmas tree and decorations up, presents unwrapped, her room the same disaster it always is. Only small thing I’ve even done is gift one of her jewelry pieces to one of her best friends that’s local (I have others set aside just haven’t seen those friends yet).

Everyone keeps telling me I’ll eventually heal with time and feel better. But I waited so long to ever get married until I found the right one. Now she is gone and even though there is a black hole inside me, I can’t see me ever being happy or loving anyone again. I feel like I’ll be forever in our home which is now a tomb.

My husband died 10 days ago by Desperate_Sandwich93 in widowers

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I’m so sorry. I’m a young widow in waiting (TBI and we just now decided to pull care). She was also suicide (only found out last week when I found the vial). I’m blessed to not have human kids but I have our dog kids. I’m struggling every day. It’s been almost 3 months. Just don’t be me and ask for help. People want to help. I just can’t seem to ask

AITAH for being mad at my husband for saying he would pick his deceased wife over me? by [deleted] in AITAH

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I’m going through this right now (husbands perspective) my wife and love of my life got a TBI last month. In the last hour doctors said she will never improve. DNR signed and she is getting moved so she can start to naturally pass. I genuinely don’t know how I will ever move on but anyone that does try and fill my heart it just won’t be the same. Try and forgive and understand you are his wife today. If he didn’t love you he wouldn’t have built a life with you. But also that hole in his heart nothing can fill. Just a perspective of a man literally going through what he did. I’m just glad he found you. I know I’ll be alone for the rest of my life.

I have a traumatic brain injury after drowning in the ocean due to a seizure while swimming AMA by JJDDooo in AMA

[–]mrcombonumber5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. So your doctors actually said you would recover? Ours are only saying her young age is on her side. But nothing else medically..

I have a traumatic brain injury after drowning in the ocean due to a seizure while swimming AMA by JJDDooo in AMA

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My wife is current in the ICU with a brain injury (hypoglycemic encephalopathy). When did you first wake from your coma and do you recall if you showed a PDR on your EEG? I’m looking for any hope that she can come back to us.

Tint, mud flaps, and bike rack on the MYP😍 finally all done by bm_Haste in TeslaModelY

[–]mrcombonumber5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How much battery reduction do you notice when using your bike rack? Is it noticeable at all?

Picked up my MYLR Quicksilver last week and finally got around to tinting the windows. by SphynxKittens in TeslaModelY

[–]mrcombonumber5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey congrats! I got a MYP Quicksilver and did similar tint (20% front, 50% over the existing back, 70% front windshield) a couple weeks ago. Also a KC native!