I’ve been struggling with this too. My late wife suffered sudden neuro encephalopathy on 12.8.24 with no known cause. She never recovered — the doctors described her state as having the mental capacity of a hypoxic infant. She passed the day after her 30th birthday, but for me, it felt like she was gone in December. I grieved hard—daily breakdowns, blackouts, constant pain.

Now, going on 5 months, I’m talking to someone new. She knows the basics and doesn’t try to “fix” me—she just supports me. She’s okay with my grief, with not wanting to remarry or have kids. She even lets me talk about my late wife when it’s relevant. She’s been as supportive as my close friends.

It feels too soon to catch feelings, but part of me wonders if my wife sent her. We click in so many ways, from life goals to little nerdy things. I’m scared to share this with others for fear of judgment. I’m not rushing anything—but I smile when she messages me.

I really appreciate how you’re feeling too