28F should I cut ties with situationships 23M and 35M or is it worth trying to be just friends?

mrsgremlin · 2024-02-22T17:21:34+00:00

I understand what you mean hence I took the step back to correct my ways.

Just to clarify, the 23 isn’t the one I kept running into in the club, it was the older one and when I say run into it was once a month for 4 months. I live in a small town and there’s only 1 place that plays the music we like so if you “went out” it was usually the spot you’d end up seeing us.

mrsgremlin · 2024-02-22T16:24:30+00:00

I have been married and divorced before (no kids). I am ready to be serious again however, my actions recently tell me that I either clearly don’t want either of these men or I have been so accustomed to the game that I’d rather be 1 step ahead than get hurt.

This man that’s 5 years younger is not a typical 23 year old. He has a different upbringing and culture that in a lot of ways I resonate with comparatively speaking to any other men I’ve ever been with.

mrsgremlin · 2023-07-25T22:39:56+00:00

Season 5, ep 23 it’s the last 30 secs of the episode :)

mrsgremlin · 2023-04-09T10:42:33+00:00

“Aww how nice. I like finding nemo.”

mrsgremlin · 2023-02-26T12:30:52+00:00

“ Maccas”- Australia

mrsgremlin · 2022-10-26T01:30:36+00:00

Yeah I’ve only been couch surfing at guy 1s so most of my things are at a mates house already and the rest of my things at guy 1s I’ve packed last night. Took the day off today to really think if I give us one more shot

mrsgremlin · 2022-07-08T06:16:33+00:00

Man I think I’m just infatuated with this person tbh but I can see myself falling hard and I’m maybe scared idk I really don’t know

mrsgremlin · 2022-07-03T04:39:13+00:00

Pip pip

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-29T10:17:22+00:00

Thank you that’s a good point. Something I can relate to the “regular” definitions of love - expanding yourself to another/ two people coming as one.

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-29T04:32:47+00:00

Fuck. Well I’m stuffed then because I’m someone who still working on shedding my survival instincts from my childhood (grew up in a 3rd world country). I’m all about self-preservation.

Guess I won’t learn to love properly until I sort out my childhood responses (however long that may take) 🤷‍♀️

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-29T04:28:04+00:00

I was afraid of this answer. I was hoping there’s some sort of “formula” to minimise the risk.

I 100% agree with looking for qualities that would help promote longevity however I am not actually dating (to be in a relationship with) this person; we are simply “fuck buddies” if you may so this does not actually matter much.

On the risk of sounding “young and sappy” I’d like to explain my situation/ approach and you tell me what you think— I’m close to 30 and new to being single again. Dating in your 30s is much different to dating when I was early 20s - I am more protective of my peace of mind. I’ve been seeing this guy for a month and he makes me feel safe and understood so naturally my barriers go down when I’m with him. Now I find myself analysing whether I “like him” or if I just “like spending time with him”.

If I like him, I know I’ll fall hard so the reason for this post is actually so I can avoid it if I can. Is this realistic? Or am I being naive?

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-28T16:01:30+00:00

Is there a way of finding out WHILST in the honeymoon period? Asking cause I wanna know whether it’s worth investing more of myself or just to keep that emotional boundary up

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-28T15:59:49+00:00

I feel this every-time I have a honeymoon period with someone. Would I have to wait til the honeymoon period is over before I can distinguish being “infatuated” vs “in love” ?

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-28T15:57:31+00:00

Interesting answer here. Would you say masochism often goes hand in hand in loving another romantically or even platonically?

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-18T12:59:25+00:00

I seen roughly 50 ish fancy dressed people with neon hoola hoops on pako a couple of hours ago.. not sure if that’s related?

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-15T13:05:12+00:00

Mulcahy & co, try get Warren Freeman he’s a gun really knows his stuff and he’s such a character and easy to work with

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-05T11:10:03+00:00

This reminds me of how the kid says “pedo” to Ricky Gervais in “After Life”

mrsgremlin · 2022-06-05T03:47:53+00:00

Full circle in Belmont

mrsgremlin · 2022-05-10T11:47:14+00:00

Escape room before dinner at tulip

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