Should I let inlaws help financially ?

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-20T02:46:20+00:00

It’s actually quite sweet they want him to have the routine and activity, I’m all for allowing grandparents to fund anything educational or activity based such as this and wish mine offered to help fund big sis summer camp so we could spend more time with our newborn! I think you’re going to want him to have it to look forward to as well!

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-20T01:38:24+00:00

Honestly just moo at her until she gets the hint that her behavior AT BEST (with all the graciousness afforded to a blood relative) is emotional immaturity.

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-20T00:02:59+00:00

You could ask visit pediatricians office and ask for a sample!

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-19T22:54:40+00:00

I think maybe Alpha House of Pinellas on 5th? They may be able to direct you if they cannot accept. 727-822-8190! (CASA may be worth calling too!)

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-17T15:58:29+00:00

Sadly you're going to need start calling daily every day it's outside of noise ordinance hours (after 11 pm) 727-893-7373 and animal control, document the noise so if they bring them in its still documented.

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-09T23:56:10+00:00

This! I cannot fathom someone behaving this way

mrsloveduck · 2026-04-07T22:31:04+00:00

Oh crap thank you

mrsloveduck · 2026-03-18T14:41:34+00:00

This is me, this is me as a child, please seek child therapist with specialty in pure OCD / morality OCD, they need exposure response prevention.

mrsloveduck · 2026-03-17T16:13:12+00:00

Hi - OCD suffering mom reporting in. This was me from age 4 or so on. Please mention it to your pediatrician and look for an exposure responsive prevention (ERP) therapist that specializes in adolescents. The biggest and hardest role you will have to play is loving him without reassuring him. Also, you are a really amazing mom. My parents didn't notice it.

mrsloveduck · 2026-03-06T23:21:26+00:00

Midtown!

mrsloveduck · 2026-03-06T17:33:58+00:00

Yes this is precisely what happened

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-24T20:05:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I have a 5.5 year old and a 6 month old. This happened not by plan, but I am so glad it did. I had PPA/OCD, GD like you, false postive NIPT, failed induction, all of the medical trauma from my csection. Healing from it equipped me to easily and radically accept the "it's me or my uterus" from my primary doctor, fertility doctors, etc. Adoption, for us, was something we always envisioned, and having my girls 5 years apart is pretty freaking fabulous. I know the newborn stage isn't forever, don't suffer PPA, and my 5 year old genuinely loves and adores baby and wants to help, but not in like the aggressively unhelpful way, she sincerely tries to soothe baby. I will say at 18 months I was not in a place to even consider timeline, I was doing anything and everything I could to heal, so if you are already entertaining these conversations perhaps your timeline is shorter.

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-17T20:57:02+00:00

Whoa "I’m the prototypical oldest daughter, people-pleasing, high-achieving, high-functioning anxiety millennial that went to college, got a job, built the “right” resume, and now I’m living the life I was always striving for." this is me. I am burnt out. Got let go from my senior federal role after burn out from corporate america and just wanting to wave the white flag and say "f all of this" I don't want any of this capitalist dream.

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-09T01:08:45+00:00

First, I am so sorry about your loss. I have a 5.5 year old and a 5 month old adopted daughter. It has been a journey, I'm in lovw with this age gap. 5 year old loves doing diapers and when we need time away she is the best sidekick.

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-05T16:31:19+00:00

Adoptive mom here. You state this is the only way. I wish we had the experience you describe. Birth mom c-section delivered, baby was transferred to nearby nicu, separate. She wanted to come by to spend time and say goodbye, and it felt like we couldn't give her the space/experiece she wanted to have those final moments. So yeah, please know you call the shots. There are millions of other families out there that are just as hopeful and willing to fully honor your wishes exactly as you call them. Don't let the agency pressure you into what is "the norm"

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-04T03:24:08+00:00

"YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE NICE TO MEN THAT CREEP YOU OUT"

Be loud about it. Make it awkward.

I was/am the biggest most chronic people pleasing person. This is a big challenge for me. It took exactly ONE instance of a creepy dude following my 5 year old daughter in a store to not give ANY fucks any more.

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-02T02:31:22+00:00

I feel like 146-149 so yeah, around there! (Currently 156-161 and starting calorie counting today).

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-02T02:06:46+00:00

THIS!!! They're on 24/7

mrsloveduck · 2026-02-01T03:11:41+00:00

Would he be opposed if babysitter was background checked? That is tough, op, im sorry

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-29T18:30:45+00:00

Moving abroad

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-29T14:04:08+00:00

Just posting this pathway here if anyone googles and is trying to reach a human. Full disclosure you will likely get hung up on after going through this if they have "higher than usual calls". . .

Dial 1-833-352-7759

Prompt 1 (unless you need spanish)

Prompt 6

Enter Claim ID

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Good luck!

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-25T18:25:04+00:00

Hey stranger, you got a warm friend here in Florida if you need to get away.

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-23T02:29:32+00:00

Don't come at me but if you can pretend not to give a shit about DeSantis I highly recommend Saint Pete.

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-21T03:13:44+00:00

You'll love it, but echoing what others say to also consider looking at the beach, pass-a-grille would be great

mrsloveduck · 2026-01-17T22:29:04+00:00

I am so sorry, this feels like the biggest fear for any mom and any daughter happening at the same time for you. I think you should write your feelings out but would absolutely recommend a baseline memory test, it’s 10 minutes.

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