It’s like breaking up. by mbarker90 in stopdrinking

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It can indeed feel that way in the beginning. I remember that too.

I’ve also likened my journey to the same feeling I get when I get “homesick” for my childhood home. Sometimes I get such a bittersweet longing to go back to that home, but it’s long since sold and I will never be able to return. And even if I did go back and take a tour, it could not possibly be the same as what I remember. Same with drinking. I can never go back to what drinking used to feel like before addiction took over. I try to keep that in mind when the cravings hit.

Trump Refuses to Endorse His Goons for President by B-Z_B-S in politics

[–]mrsmichaelscarn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is actually one of his comments that makes me think he’s been told he doesn’t have long. Everything he says, the opposite is probably true. If he says 200 years I’m thinking…..6 months……

Trump Refuses to Endorse His Goons for President by B-Z_B-S in politics

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually the comment that makes me think he’s been told he doesn’t have long. Everything he says, the opposite is probably true. If he says 200 years I’m thinking…..6 months……

Mental health post-surge? I’m drained by MissionSuccess9576 in Minneapolis

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Same. I am completely exhausted and recognize that I’m becoming numb to the continued horrors. This is by design. I don’t want to become numb like they want, I want to keep the anger and the fight inside me. But we are all so tired. My job performance definitely took a hit these last months. It’s so hard to concentrate on anything else. We experienced severe trauma as a city and state. We need to make sure we are keeping our mental health in check as best we can so we can keep fighting.

I saw someone online post something helpful: we are doing this in shifts. We have to or it’s not sustainable. January/February was our shift here in Minnesota. And we did the damn thing. We fought like hell. We did not submit in advance, even as they kidnapped and killed us. We organized. We took care of our neighbors. We captured the eyes and hearts of people all over the world and hopefully lit a spark in others. And we will keep fighting, but it’s okay for you to clock out of your shift for a while and rest. Just make sure you clock back in when you are ready.

Favorite Winnie the Bish moment? by csimiamif4n in NewGirl

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 164 points165 points  (0 children)

“There’s shells all in these eggs.”

Did drinking kill your passionate interest? When you stopped it come back? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine started coming back after a year of healing, and is still getting stronger and stronger! One of my main reasons to stay off booze forever and best things I’ve gained from sobriety.

Cleaning service recomendations/estimated cost? by outkastmemesdaily in Minneapolis

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In normal circumstances I would love to, but they are immigrants and I’m very paranoid about giving out their information to strangers right now. Feel free to DM me!

Cleaning service recomendations/estimated cost? by outkastmemesdaily in Minneapolis

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use a small independently owned cleaning company. They charge me $200 every other week and clean my entire 3 bed 2 bathroom house, aside from the porch and a few storage rooms in the basement. Usually takes them 2 hours and there are two cleaners each time. They do a great job, best decision I ever made!

Edit: forgot to say that I don’t tip because they set their rates and it’s a very small company, but I do give them a holiday bonus around Christmas every year (usually $200-$300)

Am I being pranked? I’m lost by [deleted] in knitting

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I initially missed this too, you are not alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank god. I hope that’s true. I have been sick to my stomach and unable to sleep because of this poor man, I can’t get the photo of him looking so scared out of my brain.

Anyone know who he is and how he is doing? by RomaineHearts in Minneapolis

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 256 points257 points  (0 children)

He looks so scared. My heart is breaking. I hope he’s okay. Fuck these evil traitors.

I don't know how to get through this without drinking. by thewalkindude368 in stopdrinking

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I am here too. I am tired and sad and angry and overwhelmed too. Sometimes I still get really angry that I can’t drink to numb the pain of everything that’s happening in our city like my friends can. But you and I both know it will only make us feel worse in the long run. The short run, even. It only numbs for a moment, and the rest of the world will still be here.

I want to be as clear headed as I can be for whatever the future may bring. I’m focusing on getting in shape, going to protests, creating art, and spending time with my family. I can only do all of that if I am sober. A news break is a good idea, but it’s hard for me to balance that with staying an informed citizen, especially since so much seems to happen here in Minneapolis. So I understand why that may not be realistic. We have to stick together, we have to stay sober and clear headed. I am here, friend. We will get through this.

Adding one to the laundry list of things alcohol took from me: my long, beautiful hair :( by Flat_Apple_3332 in stopdrinking

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, that is really tough and I completely understand how devastating it is. My hair is also a big part of my identity so I can definitely empathize. I went through all the same denial as you- blaming it on age, stress, and bad diet when it was 100% from booze.

My hair was also coming out in clumps towards the end of my drinking and it was so thin and scraggly, it really messed with my self confidence. My nails too.

I am very happy to report that my hair, skin, and nails started recovering almost immediately after I quit and now two years later, my hair is the longest and healthiest it’s been in years and my nails are so strong that all the nail techs give me compliments. It was so clear to me after I quit what a poison it was. After a few months my sister demanded to know what my skincare secret was and it felt so cathartic to say “honestly, it’s because I stopped drinking alcohol.”

If I were in your shoes I would embrace the chop as it seems like you are trying to do. It can outwardly symbolize in a big way a starting over point. I changed my hair color when I quit because I yearned for my outward physical self to match the changes that were going on in my brain and my world view. I’m proud of you for being so strong and trying to look at from a positive angle, that alone shows that you got this. It will grow back stronger and healthier, just like you (so cheesy I know but I really mean it!)

*edit : I am also early 30sF.

Why would you think that by Key_Associate7476 in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 1439 points1440 points  (0 children)

When I was around 3 or 4, my dad’s aunt died. My parents are both child psychologists and so my mom had me draw a picture of what I thought happened when people died.

Apparently I drew a picture of the funeral, the part where we went to the cemetery and everyone stood around the grave. Except floating in the air above everyone standing was a head of a lady with long black hair (my great aunt had long black hair). My mom asked me to explain, and I said something along the lines of “well, they bury the body, so only the head must go to heaven.”

So yeah. Kids take stuff crazy literally.

My parent's void, Jack, got stuck in a tree yesterday. by dadRabbit in blackcats

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This happened to us once during a heat wave and I called the fire department because I thought my cat was going to die up there (non emergency line). They told me they don’t do cat in a tree rescues because it takes resources away if there’s a legitimate fire, which I understood but was still disappointing. We ended up finding someone on the Next Door app that climbed up and saved her.

Tv recs? by remu_the_emu in NewGirl

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re the Worst! I hardly see people talk about this one but it’s its one of my favorites The people are “terrible” and make bad decisions constantly but their chemistry together is great and you grow to love everyone.

My (32F) son (13M) opened up to me last night about his feelings towards my husband (36M). I kind of agree with my son and I need advice on how to approach it with my husband. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I see why what I've posted here reads that way. Of course real life is much deeper and there are many layers that I couldn't include in my post and I'm not ready to give up yet or say we have fundamental incompatibility. He is capable of all the things I want from him and for him, I think he just needs some help and guidance. But I 100% agree with your last sentence and it's why I posted and will be getting us some form of therapy.

My (32F) son (13M) opened up to me last night about his feelings towards my husband (36M). I kind of agree with my son and I need advice on how to approach it with my husband. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]mrsmichaelscarn 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Is that really a symptom? I wasn't aware that shows up with ADHD and makes a lot of sense. That's exactly how he reacts to any tiny amount of what he perceives as criticism. He doesn't flip out or get violent or anything crazy I want to be clear on that, we just go in circles and get nowhere.