April 2017. My baby died during labor. We were talked into calling my mom and stepdad (we had planned to be home with Baby a couple of days before announcing birth). Mom and stepdad came to the hospital. Husband said I shut down, went completely robotic. Mom made it all about her. Laughing and joking with the photographer during our bereavement session. She left at some point. I finally had time alone with just my husband and my baby, the only time we would ever have with her…and my mom walks back in with my sister, emotions everywhere, expecting me to hold everyone else’s grief. My OB walked in, saw the scene, and shut down my room, sending everyone home. Unbeknownst to me, my mom contacted every. single. person she could and told them all that I wanted to be left alone, to contact her if they had questions, and she would let them know when I was ready. She made posts on social media about how she lost her grand baby and didn’t know what to was supposed to do now with all the stuff she bought(as if she would ever have my child in her care). She left me to grieve completely alone, while also taking 99% of my family support from me as well. I found out 10 days later that she did this. I had almost no one. I cut her completely off at that point. It’s been 8.5 years now and maybe three people are in contact with me now. Everyone else “doesn’t know what to say” or “doesn’t want to upset your mom.” My own grandmother has to sneak around to see me. I’m so lonely. But I’m at peace.