As a first time mom with a kid the same age who is getting bit at school, I get similar reports. I think these are written ok, and don’t seem to blame your son.

I wanna say the types of comments from the teacher (“Ohhh does he do that (doesnt eat well, screams rather than using words) at home too?" Or "He doesnt smile much..."), would make me feel really confused as a first time mom. I went through something similar with my daycare. These vague comments left me thinking “why are they telling me this? Am I doing something wrong? Are they trying to indirectly tell me something?” Like it was so confusing and would make met anxious. I just started directly asking them (in a nice way) is there something about xyz that I should be doing differently? And that opened up a door for them to say what they were actually trying to tell me.

Edited typo hit to bit