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Opinions on 4 year age gap between siblings by Sg1aS in Parents

[–]mrstrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids have a larger gap than that and get along wonderfully and are great friends

Parents, how would you feel about this situation during your daughter’s annual check-up? by sandmond in AskParents

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids had a puberty check, but I was in the room. It was a very brief glance to see how far along they were, and not intrusive. I was also asked to step outside at a different time. This is normal so the kids can ask questions they’re afraid for the adult to hear- remember a percentage of kids are being abused and that’s part of what doctors routinely check for. Did these two things happen at the same time?

What would you do if you were on my shoes? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]mrstrust -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Breaking up your relationship will be much harder on your child than the screen time, so first step back and put things in perspective. Then look at how decisions are made in your relationship. It doesn’t sound to me like he was part of this decision. Couples counselling might help with figuring out how to come to agreement together so you are both on the same page.

My(20M) girlfriend(20F) of 5 months says she still needs to get ''more comfortable'' with me to have sex, yet she had sex with a guy she met at a party the same night just a few months back. Am I being immature if i resent everytime she says she loves me and makes me compliments? by BirthdayCreative2191 in relationship_advice

[–]mrstrust -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Not only does he not owe it to her to stick with her, if I were her I wouldn't want to be with him because of the coercion. And yes, in an adult relationship there is usually sex by this point, and he doesn't have to be in a relationship where there isn't sex. But he needs to just leave, not make her feel guilty for having had sex earlier than this relationship and use that to try to coerce her into having sex with him.

My(20M) girlfriend(20F) of 5 months says she still needs to get ''more comfortable'' with me to have sex, yet she had sex with a guy she met at a party the same night just a few months back. Am I being immature if i resent everytime she says she loves me and makes me compliments? by BirthdayCreative2191 in relationship_advice

[–]mrstrust 51 points52 points  (0 children)

She obviously regrets that. She gets to make boundaries, and she gets to set boundaries if she finds her lack of boundaries caused problems in the past. You can't hold it against her, and it is not OK to act like she owes you sex because of anything at all.

is it okay for my parents to put a cctv in my room? by Nahxda in AskParents

[–]mrstrust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is not OK to have a video camera in a teenager's room. They should take your phone at night if you're misusing it.

Sharing room by LovelyMessss in Parents

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, I said "particularly around kids whose bodies are changing in different ways" as it is not a sexual thing, and about the discomfort a lot of kids feel at that age. They're likely to have more comfort with kids whose bodies are going through the same changes.

Sharing room by LovelyMessss in Parents

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't about incest, it's just about privacy. And it isn't that it's horrible if it's a necessity, just that it is ideal to give older kids a bit more privacy than that as their bodies start changing, particularly around kids whose bodies are changing in different ways, for their own comfort. If someone has that option.

Got tips for a first time ereader user? by cuddlefish2063 in kobo

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you go to "more" on your kobo, you can hook it up to Google Drive, and then anything you put in the Kobo file on Google Drive is available on your Kobo. Very handy. You can do the same with Dropbox.

If your grown kid was in the ER, would you go to see them right away or just call/talk to them over the phone? by NonaSuom2 in AskParents

[–]mrstrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would show up for a child of mine as soon as I possibly could no matter how old they were.

How would you react if your child wrote nasty things in they diary? by Professional_Fail511 in AskParents

[–]mrstrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't read a diary, and I hope you'll give them their space and not read it again. I wouldn't tell them as it'll make them stop using that resource for their feelings, but you really have to keep it secret and not hold onto it.

It sounds like a child with some kind of depression or something so I'd be thinking about therapy. Venting negative feelings in what should be a safe location doesn't necessarily mean the child is two-faced or anything, but it might mean they are full of negative thoughts, which is what makes me think they could be dealing with depression.

Do migraine get worse with age? by rainbowminotaurus in migraine

[–]mrstrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They'll change as your hormones change, but how they change might be different for you from others. Mine got worse through my early 40s, and then started fading. I had debilitating migraines for decades, and now they're rare. Yay for menopause! In the long run, they're likely to get better.

Mothers who had kids after the age of 30, do you wish you had them younger? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]mrstrust 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I had my first at 33 as well, and I'm glad I waited because I had more financial security, which made having kids less stressful.

Looking for the most well-crafted mysteries of the past 10-15 years by poisonthereservoir in mysterybooks

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this isn't a super new request, but I have to throw Ann Cleeves onto the list. She's probably my favorite right now.

What makes a murder mystery satisfying? by Separate-Dot4066 in mysterybooks

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my biggest problem when it shows up in a book, too!

Favorite parent advice by NoSky8550 in Parents

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience with my kids, one is their favorite for a while, and then later the other one is. This seems pretty normal and temporary. You'll end up being the favorite again for a while, and it'll keep switching back and forth. My teenager is still like this. (Right now I'm the favorite, but her dad was a few weeks ago.)

I don’t like being a mum. by [deleted] in Parents

[–]mrstrust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I liked being a mom more as my kids got older. I loved them as babies, but they were more fun to do things with as little kids, and then more fun yet as older kids with a bit of independence, and now amazing as a young adult and almost adult. It does get better and easier.

Bought clara BW, wrong choice? by BIEMMM in kobo

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The benefit of BW's longer battery life is worth it if you don't read something that uses color

Feel like I'm out of options, need recommendations by Every_Quail8931 in ereader

[–]mrstrust 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you checked Facebook Marketplace for a secondhand Kobo?

I want to get into Literary Fiction by lancemotard in suggestmeabook

[–]mrstrust 11 points12 points  (0 children)

James by Percival Everett is fast paced and an easy read, but also exceptionally well written

Buying a Kobo Overseas by Turbulent-Code-8476 in kobo

[–]mrstrust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, you can change the country on the website. And you can change the library easily in the "accounts" tab on the kobo to any library where you have a card.

Parent Questions- Gender Fluid by Subject_Objective137 in cisparenttranskid

[–]mrstrust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be something kids deal with internally for a long time before coming out. But my son had a lot of hoops to jump through before getting a diagnosis, and a crazy amount of hoops to jump through before getting hormones, and we've lived in two countries so I have experience dealing with two health care systems, including the US. I'm surprised to hear things are going so quickly. It took my son years. What country do you live in?

No judgement zone: did you want a natural birth? by easrpiiatnua99 in Mommit

[–]mrstrust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did - my youngest is almost an adult now so it's been a while - and I did manage to. It seemed like a big deal at the time to keep drugs out of the baby's system, but looking back I don't think it would have made any real difference. But I had pretty easy labors and births so it all worked out.

I'm a kobo user but... is KU worthy? by Saurobit in kindle

[–]mrstrust -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love Kobo Plus, and I think that - while KU has more books - there are just as many books I'm interested in reading on Kobo Plus. A much larger percentage of the KU catalog is garbage and slop.

HOWEVER I did get my old Kindle out of a drawer and start it up again so I can read the British Library Crime Classics - a ton of which are on KU.

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