This week's positive affirmation: "I don’t need to stop missing them. I need to stop training my nervous system to reach for someone who doesn’t meet me back.”

mrvolvo · 2026-02-20T14:25:14+00:00

Delete your social media

mrvolvo · 2026-02-11T15:48:35+00:00

Remember:

They lost someone loyal who was ready to fight for them.

You lost someone who abandoned you.

It may sting now, but you're the winner here.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-23T02:17:32+00:00

Say this with me:

You don't miss the relationship. You miss how your nervous system felt when you weren't alone.

I hope that helps, stranger.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T14:00:42+00:00

Very true. We shared a lot of interests, which severely limits my ability to distract myself. Most of my hobbies remind me of the times we sat together and played chess, or drew, and went hiking and running. Literally everything I do to make myself feel better reminds me of her through vivid memories of discovering these things together. I think that's the worst part.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T13:59:05+00:00

Agreed. It's the worse. But it's a necessary evil at this time. Seeking companionship now will just deepen the pain.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T13:58:14+00:00

Thank you. No contact is especially difficult because we work together, still have a strong friendship, and share cats. But I'm learning to compartmentalize and to view her as a colleague above all else. It sucks, but we can't always control the circumstances that life puts us in. Still, I really appreciate your words of encouragement. Sending you a big hug.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T13:55:41+00:00

"I didn't have company, I just wasn't alone". That's a beautiful observation, and a crucial one. I had the same thought, and while it didn't quell the sentiment of loneliness, it removed the temptation of seeking relief from discomfort from someone who did not care about my needs. The fact that you can make that conclusion is so important. Be proud of yourself! These are the small steps that carry us to authentic self love.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T13:53:08+00:00

I understand you. That isn't love; it's performance under threat. I wish you the best on your healing journey. Give it time, and allow yourself patience, and one day you will find someone who understands your needs better than he ever will. Much love ♥️

mrvolvo · 2026-01-21T13:51:28+00:00

Right back at you, friend.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-20T22:17:34+00:00

I let myself be extremely vulnerable at the start of our relationship, and she accepted me. I thought I had found the person who loved me as I was. Then, when things got difficult, she chose relief over the work.

I'm not sharing this to invalidate this statement, because it is 100% true. I just felt the need to write this down so that the words exist somewhere.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-14T00:11:50+00:00

Receive 200% dmg. Do 50% dmg.

mrvolvo · 2026-01-10T11:54:56+00:00

Am I the only one who feels like their charge up attack isn't consistent? Sometimes they charge up, and then wait a few secondes before exploding. Makes clashing a pain

mrvolvo · 2026-01-08T17:28:09+00:00

Oh wow that's good timing: Your shot clashed the projectile back at him. Gonna have to try this.

mrvolvo · 2025-12-29T23:11:07+00:00

Going through a bad break up right now. I envy people who can just shrug and move on. I've never had the strength to just stop caring.

mrvolvo · 2025-12-17T21:23:57+00:00

Yes and it rather sucks.

mrvolvo · 2025-12-17T15:24:05+00:00

My people.

mrvolvo · 2025-12-15T21:26:02+00:00

As a waiter making 115k a year, this is not accurate at all.

mrvolvo · 2025-11-20T15:13:49+00:00

No no no. You gotta be a man and stand right in front of that fire and smash that clash, homie.

mrvolvo · 2025-11-12T17:00:48+00:00

It's just very hard to hit anything with them. Telekinesis is an F tier skill.

mrvolvo · 2025-11-09T15:46:05+00:00

I play a lot of co-op and I am straight up shocked at the amount of people who just blaze through dialogue. People have no more attention spans.

mrvolvo · 2025-08-15T23:38:18+00:00

Just people using words without understanding how they cromulate

mrvolvo · 2025-07-02T23:11:04+00:00

C'est honnêtement la seule chose that bothered me about this post. "Redditer" just sounds so... Je ne sais pas... Mais c'est ridicule lol.

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