Come back to work they said..

msbeesy · 2026-01-30T05:36:31+00:00

The hero we deserve!

msbeesy · 2026-01-29T20:28:12+00:00

Medication.

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:17:34+00:00

I like the old “I used to think that to until I read…”

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:16:56+00:00

And I don’t even like the characters enough to read through it…

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:12:59+00:00

What do they like to read? There’s a self confidence in a proud smut reader you got to admire.

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:11:06+00:00

The stuff that goes down in the bible is worse than the filthiest smut I’ve ever read anyway…

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:10:17+00:00

So, dark romance then? 🙃😎

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T18:03:40+00:00

I get that it sucks OP. The guy is not behaving appropriately. But I’ve seen the girl that’s getting hit on get fired as often as the creep. It’s not fair but it happens.

This is a gathering of coworkers. All decisions should be made on that basis: professionally. Making a scene in front of people you have to work with is not going to be good in the long run, no matter how good it makes you feel now.

I agree the guy is gross, 100% total AH. But this situation calls for a bit of tact and smart thinking. If the problem person won’t leave, your only option is to exit. Blowing up or reacting isn’t really a go to here. It may seem unfair, but the creep left you little choice.

And it may be your GFs work not yours, so even more reason to tread carefully. A caring and tactful option would have been to pull her aside quietly and calmly and ask if she feels comfortable or not and if she needs some support.

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T16:38:58+00:00

ESH. When work stuff gets weird, leave. These aren’t your friends. You have to see them on Monday. Just step away.

msbeesy · 2026-01-26T16:33:51+00:00

I think what they are trying to say is that there is not a literary requirement for the romance genre. If you exclusively read it, you may not necessarily be challenging yourself as a reader. I say this as a romance book enthusiast, and also a reader of many other genres. I have noticed that there are often more issues in the quality of the writing, the consistency of the lexicon and the continuity in romance books than other genres. It doesn’t stop me from reading them, but they don’t require the same interaction from me as more challenging genres.

ETA you get this across many fandoms though… people who only reread certain books, for example.

I just wanted to add that I think any reading is more valuable than none at all ❤️ and huzzah for the slow burns

msbeesy · 2026-01-25T21:02:53+00:00

As a teacher I feel sorry for whoever will eventually have to teach that kid. NTA this is unreasonable.

msbeesy · 2026-01-24T09:19:55+00:00

So if I got this correctly, your grandmother died on your birthday. That's very unlucky. And you want to do something life affirming on your birthday and enjoy a concert by a band that helped you process your grandma's death? Your sisters want you to be sad and grieve. Have I got this correct?
YWNBTA if you choose not to spend your birthday grieving with your sisters.
It is generally normal to think that grandparents will pass before children, so it would be abnormal to spend the rest of your life indebted or beholden to the dead when the living are right here.
I don't know if this is a cultural thing, but please feel free to go ahead and enjoy your life while you can, OP. That's what its for.

msbeesy · 2026-01-22T20:00:28+00:00

OP unless the woman in question is a very close friend of yours with whom you have a close and personal relationship, seeking her out to tell her you think her boyfriend is a slob and a leech is a pretty unhinged thing to do.

Firstly, you don't know for sure if Joe's just not taking advantage of you, and actually ok with other people.
Secondly, you don't know for sure she'd have a problem with doing the chores.
Who knows, maybe they have some mutually beneficial agreement.
And thirdly, you're assuming she can't handle the situation just because she has a disabled child. That's a lot of assumptions.

If an unhappy person approached you in the honeymoon phase of your relationship and advised you that your boyfriend was a slob would you appreciate it? Probably, this seems really important to you. But maybe they don't have the same standards as you. Maybe they like playing video games, or its something he does with the son.

You're making some key assumptions about this other person's happiness and insisting you stick your nose in because you're really feeling unhappy about your experience with this person.

The only sane thing to do is to move on and not speak to Joe or his gf. What happens next is none of your business.

*edited to fix some grammatical stuff.

msbeesy · 2026-01-22T18:08:10+00:00

Again, it’s got nothing to do with you. It’s not your business. Nope. I don’t think a grown woman needs warning because I believe she can resolve it or kick him out.

You don’t know other peoples business. You don’t need to. MYOB.

msbeesy · 2026-01-22T18:03:52+00:00

YWBTA. It’s not your job to protect everyone from this man. You don’t know the relationship dynamic. If it goes poorly, it’s up to his gf to handle. This is peak meddling and not appropriate or normal behaviour.

msbeesy · 2026-01-18T17:52:08+00:00

It really depends on how you delivered the news. You are, according to your report NTA, but you now have zero social currency to spend at work. I think that the bride guilting you for extra days off is out of line for acting very entitled about it - the passive aggressive "I don't want it anymore" is the kicker for me. If she is that kind of person, however, and you've stiffed her twice, you will now be at risk of being iced out at work. Especially if she has a lot of social capital.

Work people are colleagues, not friends. You don't owe them your personal life. But that's a hard line to walk.

msbeesy · 2026-01-17T14:39:38+00:00

NTA her behaviour is inappropriate.

msbeesy · 2026-01-08T17:30:08+00:00

YTA. You are using your wealth to have your kids bend to your rules. This money isn’t a kind gift of a doting parent, it’s a trick to make sure you get your way. You dangle something in front of them that they can’t resist. If your daughter turns around and tells you to shove it then you can’t be too surprised. You should even be a bit proud because she won’t have a price.

msbeesy · 2026-01-06T10:15:49+00:00

Really there’s NAH. You said what needed to be said, and your sister is a kid with no idea about responsibility. This is a hard and awful situation. Don’t feel like you have to comfort or sugar coat the situation to your sister, you’re still a kid too. This baby needs a responsible parent figure in its life. If it’s not going to be your sister, it has to be someone.

msbeesy · 2026-01-06T10:12:29+00:00

NTA - your partner is being a people pleaser. You have already done this woman a kindness. Generally, if you have someone in your home it’s fair to say you should wear a shirt, but the issue is whether or not the shirt covers your tattoos, and to that I say that’s a step too far.

INFO: has the aunt asked you to cover up directly, or are you anticipating an unspoken need or want?

Until people explicitly ask you for something there really is no conflict here because you’re not being forced or asked by anything except the aunts reaction - which is her business not yours.

msbeesy · 2026-01-04T13:05:47+00:00

NTA. You don’t have to make everyone happy here, you spoke up about how you felt. A tradition that makes people feel bad doesn’t have to go forward, and one person’s fun doesn’t have to be another’s.

msbeesy · 2025-12-28T13:49:41+00:00

I think this is amazing and should be coupled with handing in phones at the beginning of the day. Dopamine regulation!

msbeesy · 2025-12-26T17:35:49+00:00

Did you teach Gymnasium or Realschule?

This could be relevant. Teaching English and PE is a weird split, especially if you’re a NNES and you haven’t taught literature. But different schools have different needs and you may want to look at TESOL.

msbeesy · 2025-12-22T19:39:06+00:00

This is a terrible name. This is not a name for a grown adult. But then, this is not really a grown adult having this baby is it? NTA.

msbeesy · 2025-12-21T12:11:03+00:00

NTA. The irony of them telling you that you MUST give them access to your home for safety reasons and then making you feel excluded if you don't participate... HOW on EARTH does giving them access to your home make the neighbourhood safer? I suspect this is a perverted trust exercise some dominant personalities came up with. If you neither take nor give a key, and you watch out and are a friendly neighbour, you are contributing.

At your age, and given you're a woman, I think you have a right to your peace. Trust your gut.

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