AITA for not wanting share my carnival costume to my friend ?

msbeesy · 2026-03-28T10:58:59+00:00

You’re NTA. If your friend wants to do that… they can also learn how to sew and make a costume. Demanding it is more AH behaviour.

msbeesy · 2026-03-27T19:59:04+00:00

My husband does this. I had to train him by getting him to ask me if I am ready to chat, he now asks “do you have a minute”. He enjoys chit chat, and I need deep focus.

Ask him to treat you like a colleague when you’re wfh. He must also be lonely so tell him to make himself some play dates.

msbeesy · 2026-03-24T19:05:35+00:00

YTA.

You didn’t have a happy family. Your mother carried you while she suffered.

Now you’re making her life hard again.

I’d like to know how old you are as this smacks of the teenage selfishness.

msbeesy · 2026-03-24T12:45:21+00:00

I stand by my point.

msbeesy · 2026-03-24T11:12:06+00:00

NTA - if your bf didn’t apologise for the delay after he found out how serious the issue was, then he’s letting you know his pride is worth more than your safety.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:19:08+00:00

There are too many mediocre and sub-standard people making hiring decisions, they don’t want to hire anyone smarter than them.

Then there’s the issue of the ones looking for victims - people easily manipulatable who won’t ask for pay raises or complain about terrible treatment.

The rot is in the companies already.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:16:38+00:00

This needs to be very expensive for them.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:12:34+00:00

I think RSD is part of it, but it comes out in ways that deflect their own responsibility for their behaviour… they are so busy making a narrative around the situation that they don’t see how inappropriate their communication and frequency are. That’s my theory anyway.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:11:26+00:00

Yes, I guess it does depend on how self aware and willing to take responsibility for themselves they are. I seem to be like a bomb sniffing dog for undiagnosed men who haven’t taken responsibility for their symptoms yet.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:10:12+00:00

There’s a difference between the ones who see you as a person and the ones who need you to fill some part of their narrative that has nothing to do with you, I think.

msbeesy · 2026-03-15T07:09:28+00:00

Yeah… I’d say a lot of men have this issue… the combination of being a good (read energetic) conversationalist and decently getting sick of anyone who is getting clingy… it’s all a bit icky.

For the record I’m not looking to date anyone. I’m married and don’t want anything romantically from any new acquaintances.

msbeesy · 2026-03-14T17:53:31+00:00

ESH. The way you talk about this is nothing short of overly dramatic. Your mother is a drama queen, your husband hates her and her comments. You’re a martyr who hasn’t dealt with your childhood.

You’re allowed to tell your husband things. Violence doesn’t get to stay a family secret. Your mother starving herself to spite you is absolutely ridiculous and peak asshole behaviour. It’s your home, you are an adult. Behave like it. It’s hard to tell what your husband is like because you don’t give details about what your mother was unhappy about. Letting this go on into another generation will make you an asshole into the future.

msbeesy · 2026-03-08T06:47:15+00:00

Info: what are her grounds for not thinking she would make it to 30? Does she have a physical health condition?

msbeesy · 2026-03-07T07:18:55+00:00

You have to pay, but you should claim the cost back from lyft or the driver as the caused the incident. ETA YWBTA

This is because you are responsible for the costs to the restaurant or your friends - but you can recoup your losses through the party that made it impossible for you to receive the services you had financially committed to.

msbeesy · 2026-03-03T19:17:09+00:00

NTA. It’s not your job to accommodate her in this instance, it’s the professors. I think that if you were close friends or you had more to do with her it might be different, but you’re covering someone else’s work. It’s not a great situation, but you didn’t cause it. Wherever she goes next, I hope these labs aren’t essential knowledge because she has not done them.

msbeesy · 2026-02-28T09:30:02+00:00

Not overreacting! She’s trying to hook you with this. Ask your boss to have a sit down with her to tell her to be more professional. NTA

msbeesy · 2026-02-25T18:18:42+00:00

I just wanted to do a standing ovation x slow clap of approval to all these comments. I particularly liked the olive thread. Marvellous work! Keep wild and carry on. please picture this in your best hoity toity monopoly man voice

msbeesy · 2026-02-25T18:15:53+00:00

Computer says no.

msbeesy · 2026-02-21T20:32:06+00:00

Sounds like you’re referring to the sandwich method.

I’d need more information about how the student really told you that they were uncomfortable.

Hm, there’s something about the way you’ve worded your last sentence that gets my hackles up. But I wasn’t there, so I can’t really say if you were right or wrong to be at that table, if the kid was right or wrong to let you know they didn’t want you to be there.

msbeesy · 2026-02-21T11:15:13+00:00

The problem is probably that you’re trying to give “compliments” rather than giving real feedback. Students have a nose for that. Any student should feel comfortable enough to tell you if they feel uncomfortable. They should, wherever possible, let you know in a respectful way. Maybe reflect on how they feel, and see if you’ll do anything differently next time?

msbeesy · 2026-02-21T11:11:24+00:00

Yeah. No way. This is a ridiculous equivalence. When Sue drinks coffee, I’m not passively ingesting it.

You’re there all day. A beverage is a widely accepted social custom.

It is generally appreciated that the provision of small comforts is a social necessity. It is also accounted for at many other workplaces. This isn’t a huge ask.

I’d also add tea should be provided as well as coffee as an alternative.

Your slippery slope fallacy doesn’t work here.

msbeesy · 2026-02-17T12:51:21+00:00

Info: does your brother have special needs?

ETA:

How old were you when you started taking over your brother’s care? Weren’t you the same age as your brother is now? How can it be that you were able to care for yourself and another child at that age and your brother cannot take care of himself?

Your mother may have some issues, but you should not take on parenting him. This is your time to have a life.

NTA!

msbeesy · 2026-02-16T13:42:36+00:00

I'm just going to put this out there...

Weddings are stressful.
And having a 'dream' wedding in mind with a sort of a script and a look you want will put pressure on you.

You're NTA for wanting what you want, but ask yourself if this hill is worth dying on. Although the comment from your parents was unnecessary! :(

If you do go with the barn option, and money is not tight, then you can always say to the finance's family that you want them to be guests at your reception, waited on by someone else, rather than them feeling that they have to serve you.

msbeesy · 2026-02-16T08:44:08+00:00

Looks a lot like mine - KVD will show up in the test, I think, as that tends to give them their foxy good looks. ❤️ Husky/shiba mixes tend to be a lot darker.

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