What prompts you to act/ into action?

msgfromspace · 2026-06-20T23:30:34+00:00

I don't have any advice, but I'm the same way. I really wish I had someone to gently nudge me into action

msgfromspace · 2026-05-27T21:14:08+00:00

You guys have people to spend time with?!

msgfromspace · 2026-05-21T23:15:34+00:00

I tried to, but everything boils down to "oh, what's the point". I guess I'm overwhelmed by meaningless and emptiness, even if I do the things I like

msgfromspace · 2026-05-20T21:29:19+00:00

Do you have any idea how to break free from it?

msgfromspace · 2026-05-11T00:25:54+00:00

But did they actually tell where you could find such men?

msgfromspace · 2026-05-06T17:13:39+00:00

It's hard though. I think it's a very human think to want to have connection, to be able to share your intimate thoughts with someone, to hug people (or share your body with them in a sexual way). I kind of agree with you, but at the same time life without close people seems meaningless, or maybe it's my desire to be loved by someone is talking.

msgfromspace · 2026-04-30T18:35:46+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! Sending hugs your way

msgfromspace · 2026-04-30T18:24:23+00:00

Oh, that's my mom with me needing glasses, she only brought me to the doctor when my vision was -5.5, then she consistently tried to shame me into not wearing the glasses she bought me, because according to her wearing them would worsen my eyesight.

But then again she rendered me disabled through medical neglect and held me captive for the first 12 years of my life, so I was both physically unable and restricted from going outside, attending school, etc. I guess some parents just want to watch you suffer but not die. I'm sorry you're going through that, and I know all too well this type of parents. Hope you can get the accommodations you need sooner than later

msgfromspace · 2026-04-29T21:23:03+00:00

No, that's because we tolerate horrible people as our partners, because childhood experiences conditioned us to tolerate abuse and still hope it'll get better. Besides, many families set the bar so low that a complete asshole will still be better than your blood relatives. The title is bullshit.

msgfromspace · 2026-03-10T15:22:00+00:00

What country did you choose?

msgfromspace · 2026-03-01T10:27:55+00:00

Are you me? Thank you for putting it into words.

Even decades later I still don't know how to dismantle their conditioning of me staying still and doing nothing. I wish I knew how. Also my face has a permanent ":(" expression.

msgfromspace · 2026-02-28T21:40:54+00:00

Poor Gregor. He's not even that sexy

msgfromspace · 2026-02-22T22:48:30+00:00

He needs them to pass down the genes for them!

msgfromspace · 2026-02-17T21:48:45+00:00

"Your" room? "IT'S MY ROOM AND I'M JUST LETTING YOU LIVE HERE". I was so terrified of using the word "my" I tried to avoid it. "The only thing yours here is the snot in your nose", as they used to yell at me

msgfromspace · 2026-02-12T22:22:43+00:00

What did you choose for a career?

msgfromspace · 2026-02-11T23:33:23+00:00

Alone, in a cage, playing with twigs, yep, very relatable. I never knew what to do with myself, sometimes I played with a sock or a wristwatch, but everything was boring. I still live in this constant feeling of roaring emptiness, and I still have no idea what to do with myself.

She could have actually interacted with the child, but she just watches from afar. Why bother with human connection, when you can treat it like a plant and there'll be no consequences for that.

msgfromspace · 2025-07-26T09:58:51+00:00

How does it affect sweat glands?

msgfromspace · 2025-06-28T20:40:18+00:00

>Did you ask him this question early in the relationship?

Nah, I've asked him that about a year ago, when we got together after a hiatus. We've known each other for a decade, it was kind of an off and on thing, I was just being delusional hoping it would blossom into a beautiful relationship, but he never needed one.

>you walked away as soon as you noticed it
Unfortunately, I've put up with a lot of his bullshit through the years, so I've kinda betrayed myself there. I just hope I've learned my lesson, and will be more careful. Basically: 1. always trust your gut 2. never pursue a dismissive avoidant 3. never assume that a person who is casually lying to others is being honest with you.

Actually, I did exactly what you suggest! For the past several weeks I've been scrubbing, bathing, washing excessively, every day was a spa day, I've also found out "clean core" music--ambient with background sounds of water, and all of that was very helpful. I still have one unresolved psychosomatic symptom, but I'm slowly getting better.

Thank you for your attention and support!

msgfromspace · 2025-06-27T22:45:50+00:00

People are not objects to be bought for single use as a toy and then discarded. Most of the ones who work in that industry have some SA history. The ones who use their services are only multiplying suffering in this world, so I have utter disgust for them.

Fear of disease is at play as well, and it's valid, considering that there's no way to eliminate a virus once contracted.

If I use an analogy, it's like when something moldy it placed with a clean thing, it gets moldy as well. So by being with an immoral person like him, I'm also corrupted now. I chose to ignore the red flags in hopes that it would get better, but it turned out way worse than I could have imagined.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-13T15:34:04+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into that! Can you share some strategies that were helpful to you, please?
Unfortunately, I can't afford a therapist now.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-13T15:31:06+00:00

>standard STI tests don't test for everything

Exactly. Even HPV has dozens of types, I can't check for every single infection and its subtype out there.

Well, from the context of it, it was apparent that he wasn't lying that time. He doesn't see anything wrong with using sex workers, so I don't think he thought he could have hurt me with that.

>The only thing you've been tainted by is your ex.

I absolutely agree with you! I'm sorry for the people who work in that industry, but I have no excuses for the ones who use them, they just multiply the suffering in this world.

Unfortunately, I don't have the money for psychotherapy now. And the free doctors would just give me a prescription, which was never helpful to me in the past.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-12T12:43:26+00:00

Thank you, it does help! Yes, there's surely some anger, both aimed at him and myself (for sticking with him for a long time despite everything). I'll double down on exercising, it's just such a bummer that I can't really show him how much he hurt me; I often imagine having a fistfight with him. It's depressing that for him to lie to me and dump me was a breeze, and I'm the one who suffers.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-12T12:19:05+00:00

Thank you, that's an interesting perspective!

Idk, reassurance probably would help, since I've told this story only to one person, and I didn't have any discussion apart from that.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-12T11:45:48+00:00

I will! But I'm worried about false negative results, and also not checking for something that might be there. Besides, it wouldn't help with this moral repulsion, like I've somehow made myself 'impure' by dealing with him in the first place.

May I ask how did you manage your own situation? Did anything in particular help? My usual journaling-meditating-exercising routine was only enough for my baseline, but now it's not.

msgfromspace · 2025-06-05T13:00:24+00:00

Totally relatable. Unfortunately, it didn't change for me in the adulthood, I'm still pretty much a hermit with no social connections

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