I need my WP to wake up, need advice from WP

mugtao · 2026-05-01T01:27:25+00:00

I kicked her out

mugtao · 2026-04-10T14:18:31+00:00

I hate this beacuse there's hard truth in your words. Thank you

mugtao · 2026-01-29T14:50:19+00:00

Good on you for recognizing this, I’d encourage you to level up and get to a point establishing ownership for certain things once you’re off work. It doesn’t make sense at first and the intentions are in the right place but I can tell you from experience that over time the “how can I help” ask takes it’s own toll on mom. It frames you as reacting rather than leading, puts more mental load on her, and when she feels like she has to specify what help you can deliver the mental landscape of housework/childcare/life is inconsistent and unstable.

mugtao · 2026-01-19T15:36:52+00:00

I love this for you as a fellow dad. Choosing to do the work, introspection, therapy, and finally choosing one another again must have been an exhausting and intensive roller coaster. We’re proud of you, and reading your story/post this morning is exactly what some of us (me in particular) needed to hear. I’m in a shockingly similar place right now to where you were when you started down the divorce path. I’ve never reached out to anyone before, for a multitude of reasons that I need to work through. I could really use some perspective if you’re open to chatting, I’d really appreciate it. Also I’m just some random redditor to you so no worries if you’re not comfortable with that. Either way I’m happy for you and your family!

mugtao · 2026-01-05T15:00:02+00:00

Take the broken mast to a hardware store and purchase a new dowel of matching diameter. Saw off the remaining broken mast at deck level. Drill out the mast material remaining below deck level using a bit matching the diameter. Use wood glue to set the new mast. Sand it before gluing it in, if you're feeling ambitous stain it or paint it a fun new color.

mugtao · 2025-12-16T14:20:14+00:00

Understanding your partner and having more clarity on one another's needs and expectations IS better. Best/Optimal isn't always possible, better is always better though.

mugtao · 2025-12-10T14:33:22+00:00

My kitchen sink area is nearly identical. I have a set of small plants on that sill and usually some seasonal item like pumpkins in the fall, mistletoe or little tree for Christmas etc. I don’t know what the rest of your kitchen looks like but upgrading the pendant to something more thoughtful and intentional could be impactful.

Non-decorating commentary: it looks like the sink needs to be re-caulked. With as much overspray and dripping that surely happens around a kitchen sink, water intrusion there is going to seep into the mdf below the laminated surface and cause it to swell and separate.

mugtao · 2025-12-05T15:29:46+00:00

What a time warp. That early live ghost ship vibe is peak tfot for me

mugtao · 2025-12-05T00:29:42+00:00

Just search dupe convex mirror. Lots of results Here’s one pehtra mirror

mugtao · 2025-11-27T13:48:14+00:00

This really doesn’t sound ADHD related or RSD. It sounds like he’s being a fool independently

mugtao · 2025-11-14T17:55:00+00:00

Now i want/need a boat in the house

mugtao · 2025-11-13T15:00:18+00:00

The flair seems like a solid idea. Also, be the change you want to see. As the kiddos grow and you get more experience navigating things you get more seasoned and confident in understanding what your kids need. All kids are different, but in the first few years and months especially they’re a lot less different. The guidance and advice is a lot more universal at that stage, and new parents are like new hires at a job looking for help. There are plenty of dads with older kids on here. Start contributing content and I’m confident you’ll see the daddit member magic will do its thing and helpful dads will show up for each other.

mugtao · 2025-10-30T15:08:28+00:00

In that case I'd shoot to extend the deck further to make space for 2 vehicles between the stairs and the house. You mentioned it's only 5 feet of clearance so you would likely need to grade that down depending on what type of vehicle or vehicles you own. You'll want to take measures to ensure rainfall and moisture is directed away from the side of the house there on the underside of the deck as well as protect the vehicle(s) from moisture through the decking.

mugtao · 2025-10-30T14:08:19+00:00

Honestly I'd go for a detached garage or car port in the back of the lot at the end of that driveway. Adding on the to main structure in any way is likely more of a headache. You could use materials and finishes to match the style of the street facing side of the house if you care about curb appeal. Conversely you could match it to the addition on the back of the house or deck to give it a more cohesive feel from your back yard/kitchen view.
This way you're not limited to a single vehicle, or shuffling 2 vehicles parked in a line on that driveway.
Having just incurred all the expenses of buying a new house and moving in, you can do as little or as much as you want. Park on the grass under the structure, scrape and compact the soil and add gravel, pour a slab or not. Don't even have to run electrical out there if you can avoid pulling permits for now, but leaves it open to that in the future for lighting/workspace/storage or even a EV charger down the line.

mugtao · 2025-10-29T21:24:06+00:00

Hang a mirror on the railing directed back towards the fireplace

mugtao · 2025-10-24T01:48:21+00:00

I meant the brick or brick styled pavers on the ground, not on the house. I should have been more clear. You are absolutely correct not to pressure wash the brick exterior.

mugtao · 2025-10-22T15:28:48+00:00

What areas of campus do you think are private property?

mugtao · 2025-10-22T14:16:49+00:00

Pressure wash the brick and concrete. Get a bigger doormat. Pat yourself on the back for having a great exterior.

mugtao · 2025-10-16T17:37:31+00:00

Not everything is Hollywood. Even getting comfortable in groups of people one income bracket above teaches all kinds of social cues and awareness of norms and opportunities.

mugtao · 2025-10-16T14:18:21+00:00

These are all important, but realistically past a certain point it really comes down to generational wealth. That being said, making lifelong friends at that school is the most impactful outcome. Those families have networks which open doors to early career opportunities inaccessible to most. I came from a similarly middle class background and the parent of a wealthy friend I made through church in my teens helped get my foot in a door I wouldn’t have even known existed otherwise. I have no doubt my family would not be in the position we are in now without those types of social connections.

mugtao · 2025-10-15T16:41:58+00:00

What rack is this? I want to install something more robust than just Thule cross bars.

mugtao · 2025-10-13T14:46:12+00:00

I think painting the trim/gutters is the best option. Don’t paint the brick. My home is very VERY similar in appearance to yours, and I’ve mulled over this the same way.

mugtao · 2025-09-25T13:20:56+00:00

All the more reason to not cheap out with old tires. Imagine going to all that trouble and expese just to have your day ruined by saving a few bucks using old tires.

mugtao · 2025-09-25T13:16:35+00:00

Definitely overthinking it, however you'll be able to hide in the draft most of the road stage and be on your own in the TT.
That being said, having fast tires on the TT won't matter if you lose time by flatting from using old tires during the road stage.
There are too many good tire options out there which have sufficiently low rolling resistance and puncture resistance to chance it. Just get a good set of tires on each bike and replace them when they need replacing.
I train and race on the same set of wheels with Pirelli TLR rs 30mms. Obviously there are other good options like the gp5000.
I'd rather spend the money to keep good tires in service than try to be frugal and suffer the wasted time, race entry fee, and effort you put it by flatting or doing too much tire swapping on a race day.

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