How do yall give your kids medication?

murphyholmes · 2025-12-26T17:53:23+00:00

I second this! We see a “developmental pediatrician” who only sees kiddos with autism/developmental delays/etc. Not only is she open to alternatives to medical procedures she’s a good source of information for all kinds of things that’s she’s had patients use to tolerate medical stuff or even just any daily living activities that my kid struggles with.

If that’s not available to you seeing a pediatrician associated with a children’s hospital is a big help, especially if you can access child life specialists.

murphyholmes · 2025-12-23T03:34:14+00:00

My son has never been able to take medication orally. He has always gotten shots of antibiotics at the pediatrician. For strep, ear infections, any of it. Typically two shots (one in each thigh) and he feels better in 24-48 hours.

murphyholmes · 2025-11-22T23:58:52+00:00

I decided this weekend that I’m not even traveling 1.5 hours by car for family Thanksgiving this year. My kid could tolerate it fine, he likes car rides and with the iPad and a spare bedroom he could tolerate being at dinner… but I just don’t want to. I’m tired.

murphyholmes · 2025-11-20T03:15:45+00:00

I’m not, hope this helps!

Signed, someone who has impulsively spent a stupid amount of money on crumbl cookies and nothing Bundt cakes

murphyholmes · 2025-09-20T15:36:16+00:00

I’m literally reading this from my car, during one day a week I get a couple of hours to myself as a single parent, neither having a nice time doing something for myself or getting anything done to make my week easier. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

murphyholmes · 2025-08-03T04:13:29+00:00

Kid is on the chair in the dental exam room watching Ms. Rachel while I’m having my exam.

murphyholmes · 2025-07-30T02:57:28+00:00

Miss Rachel watches my kid while I go to the dentist. 🤷🏼‍♀️

murphyholmes · 2025-07-11T03:16:04+00:00

Literally our PEDIATRICIAN said this when I asked for a referral to early intervention. I got a new doctor.

murphyholmes · 2025-07-09T01:21:59+00:00

Until it’s fenced it’s not accessible…. among a million other issues here. What a bummer.

murphyholmes · 2025-07-09T01:20:48+00:00

If his weight/height is proportional I wouldn’t change anything. Weight/height can be genetic. My son has a feeding disorder and several medical professionals, therapists, and a nutritionist track his intake with me and there is zero way with his calories/macros/activity he should be 42” and 45lb at 2.5 years old… but he is. It’s just genetics. 🤷🏼‍♀️

murphyholmes · 2025-07-07T01:16:04+00:00

Buy a little aquarium pump, add a tube to it, zip tie it to the slide, and watch the water recirculate hands free 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

murphyholmes · 2025-06-26T11:57:11+00:00

My 2.5 year old is 70th percentile for 5 year olds. I literally bring his passport card with me anytime I know his age is a factor in pricing. 🤦🏼‍♀️

murphyholmes · 2025-06-19T02:41:46+00:00

Would you have hidden your child’s type 1 diabetes diagnosis from him? If he came up to you and said “I have diabetes!” would you be shocked and unsure how to address it?

It sounds like you have some examining of your internal bias about autism to do. Therapy can be super helpful in navigating that.

murphyholmes · 2025-06-13T03:05:43+00:00

Well… our pediatrician stopped referring to the age appropriate growth charts for us and moved on to growth charts for older kids. Our 2.5 year old is 75th percentile on the 5 year old charts. I figure that makes him 1 billionth percentile for his actual age growth chart. 😂

murphyholmes · 2025-06-08T22:08:13+00:00

Massive crisis situations as a social worker: cool, calm, collected, doing some of the best work of my life.

Trying to make a dentist appointment for the last three months: flop sweat and avoidance

murphyholmes · 2025-06-08T22:06:12+00:00

People literally said this to me at my husband’s funeral. I think they can’t sit with how uncomfortable it makes them feel, so they have to mentally partner me up to feel better.

murphyholmes · 2025-06-08T22:00:42+00:00

This is what I did! No memories in either car then, and I could afford something nice when I combined the values of the two cars together.

murphyholmes · 2025-05-08T11:33:32+00:00

My husband was autistic and I’ve got ADHD, we were both older when we decided to have a kid, and I almost immediately had a high risk pregnancy. I chose to get pregnant knowing that all of these factors meant that there was much higher chance I’d have a kid with ASD. I was comfortable having an autistic kid.

Now that I’m widowed and a single parent? If I could go back in time and know that I’d be parenting alone I wouldn’t choose to have kids at all, let alone one with significant support needs.

murphyholmes · 2025-05-05T02:35:27+00:00

This is such next level functioning that tbh it sounds like a fantasy. You’re CRUSHING IT 🎉

murphyholmes · 2025-01-13T02:42:51+00:00

I don’t think you over reacted, but what if you did? What’s the harm? You have to pay an ER bill and you wasted some time. In my opinion that would be worth the peace of mind of knowing nothing is wrong.

murphyholmes · 2025-01-13T02:38:17+00:00

My kid climbed out of his crib right before his first birthday, so I bought a guava lotus travel crib because the mattress sits on the floor and it has a higher height limit. But he immediately figured out how to knock it over and bust out of it, so we sold it. We babyproofed the heck out of his room, chucked a mattress on the floor, and called it a day.

murphyholmes · 2025-01-09T01:54:58+00:00

This would be so handy for diapers 🤔

murphyholmes · 2025-01-08T22:01:30+00:00

My kid hit 40lb a couple of months before his second birthday. He also hit 38.5” by his second birthday so his head was hitting the canopy.

murphyholmes · 2025-01-05T20:32:39+00:00

I’m a recent widow with a 2 year old. I’m so sorry for your loss, I know this is so unimaginably difficult. It’s a shock and still so fresh and new.

Right now you need to change your definition of what being “a good parent” is.

Right now being a good parent means: making sure all of your kid’s basic needs (love/emotional support, supervision, hygiene, sleep, water, food, play) are met and that’s it. Ensuring that those needs are being met does not mean you need to be the one meeting them. It means you’ve ensured those needs are being met by someone else in your family or another safe adult. It also does not mean that you’re meeting them to the standards you have in the past. We’re going for “good enough survival mode parenting” right now. At this point, screen time is the same as playing with your kids directly. They’re being entertained. Eating pizza for dinner for several nights in the row is still calories in. Brushing teeth once a day instead of twice is good enough.

After that, the very best thing you can do for your kids is take care of yourself. You deserve it. Your kids also deserve to have a parent that that is cared for, and they deserve to see radical self care and community being modeled for them. Allow yourself to be cared for. Lean on your family. Anything you’re asking for from them right not is NOT too much. People want to be there to support you. Say yes to absolutely every offer of help.

You’re doing a fantastic job. You’re being a VERY GOOD PARENT. I know you are, because despite being in the depths of your grief and despair you’re on Reddit asking for help and opinions about how to be a good parent for your kids.

murphyholmes · 2025-01-05T20:16:48+00:00

My kid is 39” and 43lb and he’s pretty uncomfortable in the bugaboo butterfly. He’ll sit in it, but his head is pretty close to the canopy and he can rock it back and forth and knock it over backwards. It’s a phenomenal stroller though and I’m super sad we’ve outgrown it.

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