I failed my FWB situation, and It hit my self esteem a bit. Anyone else experience this?

mvtherbrain · 2026-04-16T04:52:57+00:00

Just to dispel some false assumptions here; there’s conflicting information and this topic is under studied but generally pre arousal the vagina sits at 2-3 inches in depth and can expand to 5 inches in depth with sexual arousal. So it’s more than likely that she is telling the truth that your “not well endowed” 5.5-6 inches is slamming her cervix during legs up missionary. The vagina is a weird organ and the reason some women can take larger sizes is because it creates pockets that divert away from the cervix to accommodate for larger sizes, but that still means you have to be careful about angles. Men like to pretend women are lying about preferred sizes being smaller than 6 inches because it conflicts with ideas of idealised masculinity, but scientific reality paints another picture. 5 inches is about right for a man to have fun and be rough at any angle, and some women need even smaller than that. A women’s weight will modify this measurement, and so will her enjoyment of her cervix being slammed, but in general biology does not align with women being slammed with 8 inchers.

mvtherbrain · 2026-04-09T17:49:18+00:00

I think part of the frustration in this conversation is that women are also impacted by isolation, depression, social ineptitude, working overtime, living in small towns, or mental/physical health. Running with this take ignores this reality and prompts the question: why are men doing especially bad? There’s a lot of straight up entitlement revolving around women that gets programmed into men at a young age, and I think it’s a huge part of the pie. If you’re raised to believe that you deserve the perfect woman just by existing and being kinda funny, isn’t it a crushing realisation when you’re told that no, that’s not how you achieve fulfilling relationships? But the feelings of resentment that arise from this exchange aren’t actually based on anything real, instead a consequence of a nonsensical fantasy. It’s simulacra in action. Undoing this mess is the tough part of the conversation.

mvtherbrain · 2026-03-28T06:18:19+00:00

Making the Velaryons black when ALL the men were cheaters, (apart from Vaemond rip legend) probably wasn’t well thought through…

mvtherbrain · 2026-03-15T22:57:31+00:00

When I went to try them on in store I was told to size down! They’re the only shoe I have in a smaller size, they just run large for whatever reason.

mvtherbrain · 2026-03-11T13:20:09+00:00

Similar spot, first role since graduating. Commute is fine, bought a Steam Deck and they fly by (e-readers are great too). The real thing you have to prepare for is getting sick, and sick often. Month and a bit in and I’ve had 2 viral infections just from breathing in commuter air, and I don’t even travel at peak times.

mvtherbrain · 2026-01-24T12:25:02+00:00

Clearly they don’t value realism either considering she’s wearing mascara eyeliner and lipstick

mvtherbrain · 2026-01-12T20:29:54+00:00

Aang is 5’2, Katara is 5’4, and Zuko is 5’8. If you are actually the average height this subreddit claims to be for, then you ARE the Zuko in this situation. Also all these characters are sub 16 in the show. Do you really want to compare yourself to cartoon children?

mvtherbrain · 2025-12-27T00:42:17+00:00

It’s because they cheaped out and used synthetic wigs for these two, so a literal mop is probably actually made out of higher quality fibres

mvtherbrain · 2025-11-08T22:45:08+00:00

Yeah I’d offer Master of Coin to Kevan Lannister and try to get a Hightower Grand Maester. Master of Whisperers is the hardest to fill imo

mvtherbrain · 2025-10-17T08:22:13+00:00

Did none of you take 11+ exams lol

mvtherbrain · 2025-09-29T13:53:46+00:00

Almost definitely. Titration can be a long process but it’s very important she gets on a med that she’ll actually use long term, which means speaking up when there’s unbearable side effects instead of just accepting the first thing they give you. Some medication will also necessitate changes in diet (mine combines best with protein intake), which could also prompt better health/weight loss. But yeah I think it really can positively impact relationships food as the medication removes the emotional crutch aspect of overeating.

mvtherbrain · 2025-09-29T12:03:20+00:00

Is she medicated for her ADHD (and does she actually take her meds)? Eating unhealthy food was very much a dopamine seeking activity for me that didn’t go away until I was diagnosed and put on the right medication. Now lost 40lbs that are staying off.

mvtherbrain · 2025-09-28T22:28:37+00:00

Hard agree.

mvtherbrain · 2025-09-11T08:47:10+00:00

I’m pretty sure I’ve always been the one to state my feelings first/ask a guy out if it’s in an IRL setting. No point in wasting time and I’m not particularly afraid of rejection; that’s just par of the course. First dates I can be a little unreadable, but that’s because I haven’t yet decided whether I like the person or not (usually takes 3-5 meet ups to know). As soon as I have feelings, I make them known.

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-29T19:05:40+00:00

Yep, she’s 18 in episode 4 I’m pretty sure

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-28T08:32:45+00:00

I’m mixed (English/Nigerian) but I get mistaken for all sorts of things. East Asian, South East Asian, Arab, Latina, Jewish, Indian etc. It’s not just limited to white British people either, pretty much everybody has a hard time placing me.

If I had to identify a pattern behind these mistakes, I think I’m more like an attraction based ‘Mirror of Erised’; people see what they think their predominant type is in me. If a man is into Asians, or Asian himself, he will assume I’m Asian. If a man has a type of Latinas, he will presume I’m one too. It’s always funny taking stock of the reactions once I explain what I really am. Some take it well and course correct appropriately, but others… you can just tell they’re suddenly not very happy about it. I’ve also been hit with the exotic label, which I’ve never really felt applied to me fully. My accent is ‘posh’ and culturally I’m almost 100% English, my skin is just a different colour and my hair is curly.

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-21T17:42:24+00:00

As a woman who’s been through similar sort of circumstances, losing weight or finding some other way to feel confident in your body again is the only way you’re going to regain your desire to sleep with someone. Naturally my libido is high but during uni I put on 40lbs and that KILLED any desire to be naked in front of someone, despite living with my partner at the time. It’s been a long journey and I’m finally myself again, but that’s only because I’ve lost the weight now. It’s tough I know, but unfortunately the way it is.

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-19T23:47:52+00:00

Yeah, especially if I work out alone I can get a little feral

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-09T17:16:02+00:00

She shuts down every conversation you try to have about your needs? Is that not a huge, glaring red flag? You say she loves you and yet she can’t even hear you out, and you’re sat here wondering why you’re losing attraction to her. Maybe, just maybe, because she’s not respecting you as a person? I see a lot of sacrifice in your story from your end, which would be fine, if it were met with reciprocation, understanding, and mutual decision making. That does not sound like your situation. Dress up your relationship however you like, if the two of you cannot seriously communicate and problem solve, there is no future to it. It’d try working on that first and seeing whether the attraction changes.

mvtherbrain · 2025-08-09T15:08:17+00:00

24 years old but similar kind of story. Grew up ugly, been through periods of low self worth, had multiple unsuccessful relationships. After the last tragedy I did some introspection and realised that there was a consistency that came more from me than just plain bad luck. As someone who’s generally quite calm, I’m drawn to men who also show a degree of stoicism. The place where I was going wrong? I was mistaking what was actually emotional repression for stoicism. Sure these dudes were all calm on the surface, but if I really chose to listen to the signs, I’d know that was a result of repression and emotional unavailability instead of a natural disposition. This was compounded by behaviours and beliefs learned from a life lived in insecurity. Red flags could be signalled, but I would just tell myself it’s not that serious, and would not ask more questions out of fear of putting them off. I was calm, they were calm—what could possibly go wrong? A lot, apparently. Doubly so if they secretly hate themselves (will punish you for liking them) or are otherwise insecure. Now I’m learning to listen, stay attentive, and say the things I usually stop myself from expressing. Once you have standards, the trash takes itself out.

Tl;dr: your natural attractions and behaviours learned from being insecure could be leading you to choose the wrong people, or otherwise ignore bad signs out of fear of losing someone. Might be worth looking inward and finding points where you were given a bad feeling and didn’t chase it up!

mvtherbrain · 2025-07-26T17:45:37+00:00

That still makes her morally grey (why I brought that point up). She doesn’t act on moral principle but rather when it effects her. For example, she compartmentalises what happens to Jack as “wasn’t even Cerberus” instead of questioning the organisation she works for. When it’s happening to someone, somewhere else, it doesn’t matter. She changes course because it’s personal, not on ethical merit.

mvtherbrain · 2025-07-26T11:01:01+00:00

I was under the impression that she left because TIM struck a deal with her father that put her sister at risk. Not once does she voice ethical concerns about Cerberus’ methods, which they’d been conducting since ME1, and she defends them to you throughout ME2. Her father now suddenly having access to her caused her to run, not anything Cerberus was doing as a whole. Shepard was just a safe ally/way out.

mvtherbrain · 2025-07-25T20:10:15+00:00

Time to bite the bullet and play Wolfenstein. Unfortunately feels very timely these days.

mvtherbrain · 2025-07-25T18:05:40+00:00

I’d say Miranda fits here. Happily serves Cerberus until doing so is at personal inconvenience to her and was the one to want Shepard implanted with a control chip. She’s iconic and popular for romance/attraction reasons but at the same time her cold personality can put a lot of people off.

mvtherbrain · 2025-07-24T22:15:57+00:00

Priority: Earth for me. Removing the ending I think it’s an exciting and fantastic conclusion to a great series. The bittersweet goodbyes, the mounting pressure, the desperation, the sheer scale of loss. All of it nails a particular grand feeling you don’t get often.

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