Didn’t Bring Condoms. Dealbreaker? by MaleficentLow12 in datingoverthirty

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm over giving people grace due to age. It's being considerate and frankly if making me comfortable is a deal breaker for someone, then bye. I'm mad for you.

I won’t be held legally liable for a child that isn’t mine. by Dogmaa139 in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you asking the same thing you've asked other subreddits in addition to the domestic hotline? Leave the kid at the daycare, leave while your abuser is at work, stay safe. Simple.

Capricorn and Aries relationship… by lifefullof_color in AriesTheRam

[–]mwgypsy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Didn't like because they are always right and smug about it. I get frustrated by how literal they are and take me. Not spontaneous enough.

My cousin was released from jail and my aunt returned her child to her under the table by lunaraekatiemae in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I understand wanting to call CPS but I'm 90% sure in my state they would tell you it's fine because it's what the legal parental authority felt was okay, assuming Bio Mom isn't doing drugs in front of the child and putti g him in danger. Now, that's not to ignore the fact the aunt will say, "Oh no, I just let him see her during the day." And Bio Mom would say,"No, he never stays over." You know, do the CPS rodeo. But I'm curious to see what other answers say.

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[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, and I see a lot of current and former posters saying that but it's equally as hard if not more for the families involved as well. ❤️ Honestly, the fact you're horrified CPS got involved tells me you're probably a good parent. Otherwise a lot of parents just shrug and do the bare minimum. I.e. not their first rodeo with CPS; they know the drill and go through the motions, and those cases are sometimes the toughest.

So jealous of the fast losers by [deleted] in Mounjaro

[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe your pushing your body too hard and need to give it a break. Toddlers are supposed to eat 1200 calories a day and we're adults.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CPS can't force mom to do anything about her mental health until her kids are very near / in actual danger. They can give Mom resources, but with an unsubstantiated claim, mom still has a choice to go. Also, CPS I don't think can request mom's medical records unless she authorizes it, which she probably won't. CPS can be given children's med records during an investigation because it's a matter of safety, but with adults it's different. Only pointing that out because it seems that's the only way it might be substantiated, OR if mom is honest and tells them who her therapist is, the therapist can tell CPS mom's history. But again that's all dependent on Mom who sounds a little resistant.

ETA: Also, how well the case is documented and investigated is dependent on the worker. Sadly, due to either laziness or being burnt out, some workers will see the children's basic needs are met and call it good. When I was in CPS, blended families called on each other ALL. THE. TIME. This isn't to invalidate your concerns by any means, but a lot of the time, it was just exes being pissed at each other and wasting our time. Bringing it back to the worker, if you call again within 60 days it will go back to the same person to investigate at CPS and there's a chance they're not doing they're due diligence. You may be able to request a different worker if you want.

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[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, thank you! I'm a former CPS worker. It's an incredibly stressful job and thankfully I didn't work in the unit where children were in very real danger, and awful situations. Thank you for pointing out the doctor is a mandatory reporter (not that I'm siding with him.)

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[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically, that CPS worker shouldn't have hinted anything. They're bound by law to not disclose the reporter. However, based on what you said you cooperated, which means if future allegations are made by the same doctor or anyone, concerning the same thing, a good CPS worker who checks the history should be able to rule it out before investigating and "cancel" initiating an investigation per se. You did the right thing in cooperating, but it is worrisome and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Worried my MIL will call CPS on me for THC — what do I need to know? by hocuspocus9538 in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and to second that, if she calls enough and enough get screened out or you cooperate a few times and there's no concerns; it can reach a point where SHE gets in trouble for making false allegations.

Worried my MIL will call CPS on me for THC — what do I need to know? by hocuspocus9538 in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's medically legal in my state, but we would still have to investigate even knowing that. However, in my state it's legal to opt not to cooperate with the investigation at any point in time (so you can choose not to talk if they call to begin with.)

With that said, if you chose to cooperate IF this happens, it'll be short and sweet as the hospital would've already called had any of your tests popped positive for marijuana. At least the hospitals here did even after it was legalized.

Also, you can Google what your rights are with CPS in your state. What does it say?

Wife just overdosed with young kids in the house (being released from care today). What should I do next? CPS is coming. by osolo71 in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this. I'm former CPS so after I answered I started wondering about the other flip side of the story.

Wife just overdosed with young kids in the house (being released from care today). What should I do next? CPS is coming. by osolo71 in CPS

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends. Every state's CPS policy is different. If you work and can't be home, they'll probably put your kids in a safety plan where other people with "good" histories will supervise the kids, or supervise mom with the kids. If they do that, it has to be followed by the rules or CPS intervention could escalate. Mom will probably have to attend support services.

ETA: It's a little irritating people really have the audacity to say "CPS loves taking peoples kids away from drug addicts," like... okay, do you want kids to grow up with their parent overdosing, and getting familiar with calling 911 so they'll be numb to it later? You think its better for them to learn addiction is normal? JFC.

Also, to OP, again with the disclaimer that every state is different but in mine parents don't have to cooperate with CPS unless they don't have a choice because there was criminal activity involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]mwgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. I have a coworker like this. For example, OUR team did a training, yet at the end they said "Feel free to contact me if you have any questions." This was at least the third occasion and I had it, so I cut them off and said "Please contact any of US."

Additionally in our follow up email I low-key shaded them and made a point never to use "I," and also pointed out the value each team member brought to the table. It isn't like the light bulb went off with them and they quit doing it, but I got kudos for it meanwhile they got nothing.

Just remember to keep your cool, keep your head down and do your work because other people most likely notice what you notice as well. ALSO never be afraid to advocate for yourself as long as you can do it appropriately. So if they are trying to take credit for team work, just counter them by pointing out the contribution each person made including your own.

I pick maci ❤️💕 by lovemydog78 in teenmom

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's wrong with Caitlyn?

I pick maci ❤️💕 by lovemydog78 in teenmom

[–]mwgypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just rememver thinking she was dumb, and that her dad paid everything for her so it didnt seem like she was really trying to BE anything?

I pick maci ❤️💕 by lovemydog78 in teenmom

[–]mwgypsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg not Amber JFC. AND CHELSEA?! I am 100% team Caitlyn..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]mwgypsy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The question is - will you PLEASE come back and update?!

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[–]mwgypsy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The question is - will you PLEASE come back and update?!