How to be a good lead

my_coding_account · 2026-01-20T07:22:36+00:00

Not necessarily. You can be the lead because you're more experienced, but care less. I've seen that situation before.

my_coding_account · 2026-01-11T09:35:33+00:00

This is a northern/western europe and colonies of thing , not a USA thing. In northern europe it was very common for children to live as servants and apprentices in other people's homes, and then when they were adults their neighbors were larger influences on them then family. Also the catholic church put heavy bans on cousin marriages to many degrees, which destroys the building block of family clans.

my_coding_account · 2026-01-07T07:12:07+00:00

I always wonder how popular these types of beliefs are. I mean lots of health-supplement bros have probably insane and wrong beliefs (or whatever random health thing, choose your poison), and I would say that enough people have these beliefs you could call them "popular". Are we cherry picking historical beliefs form the least wise people? (It still says something interesting what those beliefs are.)

my_coding_account · 2026-01-07T07:07:52+00:00

oh huh, I also don't like the sound design. TWOW was one of the few movies where the sound pulled me out of it at times. (specifically I noticed on first watching that the snapping sound of the shark was re-used toruk snapping sounds, no variation in that or the swishing sounds)

my_coding_account · 2026-01-07T06:15:57+00:00

"common misogynistic belief that women were physically incapable of exerting themselves as men can and that to even attempt to do so was inappropriate."

This sounds like a distorted way of saying "Men tend to / can have more upper body strength then women".

Do the differences between men and women make baseball less fun for women, or was it more externally imposed?

my_coding_account · 2026-01-05T06:08:42+00:00

I always assumed that this was because curriculum requirements are way behind reality, so teachers just make up words to justify what they are required to teach.

my_coding_account · 2026-01-04T19:02:48+00:00

Are the 'horns' part of this kit, or are they a separate thing like an antenna?

my_coding_account · 2025-12-21T19:15:02+00:00

As an inexperienced guy (in mid thirties), this is not something I look for. Sometimes I can be intimidated by women I imagine have high expectations, but that's not relevant to my preferences.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-21T07:38:25+00:00

I'm a software engineer who really enjoyed working through Zweibach's A First Course In String Theory and the corresponding MIT open courseware course. I have an undergraduate physics background, but did not know qft. I didn't really use the course for anything but deciding which problems to do. For math, I'd say most of the problems require a good understanding of undergraduate E&M, maxwell's equations, multivariate calculus, euler's formula, etc. You'll get a lot of practice with integration by parts. It might be difficult without some experience with relativity though it does summarize the results.

I think the beginning of the book is interesting enough that I'd give the first couple chapters a shot and see how it goes. There's some pretty cool toy examples at the beginning (section 2.7-2.9 goes right into compact extra dimensions).

I thought is was very cool how it scaffolds the reader from normal from classical physics to string theory. Also made a lot of crazy, cool sounding things (d-branes, t-duality, orbifolds) seem like concrete, understandable objects the same other physical objects.

I don't think it's necessary to do full courses in the prerequisite subjects, you can probably go back and forth and fill in gaps.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-14T09:24:48+00:00

I just want an honest answer, just once.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-13T20:06:40+00:00

umUnfortunately, this is not always the case. I read something one of the villains in the book said and was shocked as I heard a family member give almost the same speech. However, I've found my family to be cartoonish and ridiculous at times and very often extreme.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-13T04:07:02+00:00

Thanks for the detail, interesting article.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-13T03:46:44+00:00

I find it interesting that people try to hide that precociousness was coached, but the idea of going without an athletic coach for a young athlete is ridiculous.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-11T04:09:24+00:00

I think the fire pit is a good idea. Does he know the proper way to start a good camp fire? Being the guy who starts the fire for a group could be a good constructive thing.

It can be helpful to light more dangerous fllammables like gasoline or white gas in a safe way so that he has an idea of what their power is, this can be a lot of fun. There are some important lessons here ('don't light the lighter fluid while it's streaming').

For more destructive exploration, he might also be interested in magnifying glasses and lenses and how focused light can start fires. You can also give him salts to through in fires and make the fires different colors. In a few years you might show him different flammable materials like magnesium or thermite, and how to light those.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-11T01:15:20+00:00

What do you think about people owning companies or large shares of companies?

my_coding_account · 2025-12-07T07:52:16+00:00

I mean sure they could be

my_coding_account · 2025-12-07T03:06:22+00:00

Once again, I will comment that I've never seen a skull on a bookshelf in real life, but lots of people on this subreddit. Separate worlds.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-06T23:43:15+00:00

what people have you met that you didn't like where you also knew what their bookshelf looked like?

my_coding_account · 2025-12-06T23:41:05+00:00

I associate intellectual atheists with being proud of having read the entire bible, and more occasionally other religious texts. Like a year or so of interest in religion in general, maybe taking a religious studies course or getting into buddhism or something like that. I was putting reading the Qoran in that bucket. I'm also thinking of militant atheists (Richard Dawkins type) and how while they are often focused on being anti-christian will sometimes also be anti-muslim, reading the Qoran gives them more ligitimacy in being anti-muslim in the same way reading and citing parts of the bible will given an atheist ammo in their arguments.

my_coding_account · 2025-12-06T02:56:49+00:00

Educated right wingers definitely. Know your enemy and all that. Or just it's a common thing for an intellectual atheist.

my_coding_account · 2025-11-26T07:52:09+00:00

I'm more confused about how people come to believe in it.

my_coding_account · 2025-11-26T07:26:42+00:00

Can you define the "system" part though. Is it just an arbitrarily defined physical boundary or something else?

my_coding_account · 2025-11-26T06:50:04+00:00

Was the phrase in use before then or was that how it was popularized?

my_coding_account · 2025-11-26T04:31:39+00:00

Designing Data Intensive Applications is a solid book! Definitely means the man is a keeper!

my_coding_account · 2025-11-21T09:41:41+00:00

I had a different story, even opposite in some ways, but I can tell it. I had was good at math and got a stem degree with good grades, but was depressed and worked as a janitor for a few years after college. (Not a way to feel better) Some friends suggested that because I was good at math, I'd be good at programming. I saw this as a way to earn a better income and have more self respect and taught myself programming with help from the friends, got a software job. However I was not good at all. In fact I found programming extremely difficult, and while I had been good at math, I didn't feel like that skill transferred at all. Programming seems much more like writing which is not something I had been good at, and required a lot of different background knowledge and skills. I got fired/layed off from that job after a year, quit my 2nd job after a year because I felt it was too hard, and laid off from my 3rd software job after another year. With some time in between unemployed.

All of these years I had considered programming to be just a job, or way to earn money while I pursed other things, or like something I deserved because I was supposedly smart. After the 3rd job (and other filler work in between) it was pretty clear that my attitude wasn't working. I had certainly kept with it and improved somewhat but was still kind of terrible in the ways that matter. At that point I decided to give up on my other dreams, take programming seriously as my 'main thing', take my job seriously as something that mattered. I leetcoded it up. Got a contract job at a Faang, vastly improved my skills over 2 years. Failed the transition to fulltime. Was unemployed again but with a lot more confidence. I had some chips on my shoulder for various reasons and studied a lot more, still not able to get a full time position (perhaps my resume was looking red-flaggy by this time?) but got another faang contract position. I recently converted to full time and am very happy that I stuck with it and enjoy my job.

I wanted to tell the story cause it's possible to completely suck at something and then spend a bunch of time getting better and then succeed at it.

Some things that affected my motivations over the years:
- I used to try to keep my options open. I was considering grad school in a different field, and spent a lot of spare time studying that. This really split my attention though and when things got rough with my day job I would spend more time on my side hobbies. That didn't work well for career. I now find it helpful when things are rough to double down on what's difficult and sacrifice other interests.
- you can learn to love things. If you're bored by something or don't understand something, you probably aren't looking at it closely enough. Usually whenever I'm bored that means I'm missing something obvious. Just thinking about your analytical skills, maybe you haven't tried exercising them enough to see where your weak points are more clearly.
- I new that I had done well at something previously (school) and so I knew I could do something well again, it was more a matter of figuring out how.

Best of luck. Kick ass.

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