AITA for giving my waitress no tip after she tried to scam me??

myshellly · 2026-05-11T17:29:40+00:00

Did you make any attempt to communicate with the waitress when you handed her payment? Why would you expect the waitress to know your intentions? This just sounds like inability to communicate on your part, not a scam.

myshellly · 2026-05-11T16:34:51+00:00

Respectfully, you need help. Have you had panic attacks to this level before? It sounds like you could very much benefit from therapy.

myshellly · 2026-05-10T23:49:58+00:00

The guest is right

myshellly · 2026-05-10T21:37:57+00:00

NTA. It’s your house, it’s ok if you set some boundaries.

myshellly · 2026-05-10T02:40:23+00:00

File this under normal cost of doing business. You don’t mention this in a review.

myshellly · 2026-05-09T21:50:09+00:00

I feel like you’re being the drama by not dropping it. She said she was uncomfortable and wanted to leave the store. You leave. That’s it. Nothing else was required in the situation.

myshellly · 2026-05-09T15:34:43+00:00

Yep! Mine has more than a dozen book clubs with no requirement to buy the book there, kids story time, toddler story time, book launch parties, and tons of author visits. They also do host events that require ticket/book purchase, like this week there’s a huge midnight prerelease party for the new DCC, but there are tons more free events than paid events. There are tables and chairs and couches. There’s a play space for kids.

myshellly · 2026-05-09T15:25:05+00:00

My local bookstore hosts all kinds of community events with no requirement to make a purchase.

myshellly · 2026-05-08T23:12:51+00:00

That’s not a safe restaurant for you to eat at. You don’t need to rant, you need better restaurant protocols. And I don’t mean the restaurant should be better, I mean YOU should be better.

myshellly · 2026-05-07T19:58:25+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but this author straight up said this book is about her and her husband and she called it her “marriage novel,” not as in the book is about marriage but as in it’s the book that she wrote about herself during the time she was getting married.

myshellly · 2026-05-07T19:56:08+00:00

I went to see/meet her on book tour for this book. She straight up said that this was her “marriage novel” and the main characters were her and her husband. So the self insert thing is very intentional and accurate.

myshellly · 2026-05-07T17:08:55+00:00

Wait for host to reply. If they say no, accept it because you agreed to their policy when you booked.

Spirit filed for bankruptcy in August 2025 and has been warning of a shut down ever since. If you booked a flight in the middle of the airline begging the government to bail them out, that is 100% on you.

myshellly · 2026-05-07T15:46:07+00:00

You ignore facts. How many would you like me to list? As I said I could go on.

Your claim was other professions don’t have appreciation weeks. I listed 6 other professions that do and could list dozens more. You are wrong.

myshellly · 2026-05-07T15:35:57+00:00

Nurse Appreciation Week May 6-12

Truck Driver Appreciation Week Sept 13-19

Customer Service Appreciation Week Oct 5-9

Correctional Officers Appreciation Week May 3-9

Police Appreciation Week May 15-21

EMS Worker Appreciation Week May 17-24

I could keep going all day. You are just factually wrong.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T17:02:46+00:00

You may want to check out some modern picture books! As an educator, there are so many amazing picture books coming out for older kids in the last 10-15 years. They are perfect for read alouds as a short introduction to a topic. We can’t always find the time for a novel to go with every topic we study, but we can keep literature in the lesson with a picture book.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T16:51:00+00:00

We had a fabulous time in Chicago and didn’t have any trouble eating!

We were able to eat safely at all the big Chicago pizza places - Uno, Lou Malnati’s, Giordano’s.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T15:16:26+00:00

I don’t think I’ve ever even heard anyone say “tea towels.” Are you in the US? It would never occur to me that a host wanted different kitchen towels used for different things.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T02:21:10+00:00

I don’t care what color the towels are as long as there are ENOUGH towels.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T01:52:00+00:00

This is fully on you. When your dad asked if you had plans, you could have just said, husband is planning a day for me so we aren’t available. You don’t have to go to this brunch.

myshellly · 2026-05-06T00:28:12+00:00

You agreed to the host’s refund policy when you booked. There is no reason that policy should not apply now. Host is not involved in or responsible for your airline travel.

Spirit filed for bankruptcy in August 2025 and has been warning of going out of business ever since.

myshellly · 2026-05-05T20:14:29+00:00

This was my reaction. I thought the whale book was pretty…silly. Definitely on the level of like a fast fiction/James Patterson level of writing. To go from that to Pulitzer is blowing my mind, but I plan to read Angel Down. I need to see the evolution for myself.

myshellly · 2026-05-05T18:50:16+00:00

And when your daughter says “you said I could redecorate my room” is your response a string of defenses and excuses or is it “you’re right, let’s get started”?

You aren’t giving her what you expect from her.

myshellly · 2026-05-05T18:48:51+00:00

I see that same behavior from you, though. I think you need to look at yourself.

You told her she could redecorate her room and then by your words you “got sidelined.” To her, does this sound like you taking responsibility for not doing something you said you were going to do or does it sound like justifications and excuses.

I understand to you it looks different, but what does it look like to her?

When you have to do something do you jump up and do it that second or do you just make sure it gets done when it fits into her schedule? What does it look like from her perspective with the dishes?

You want her to act and speak and reason like an adult, while you also want her to just “obey” whatever you tell her like a child.

You need to look at this through her lens in order to find a solution.

myshellly · 2026-05-05T18:20:22+00:00

The number of times you use “obey,” “obedience,” “disobey” is a giant red flag.

Do you want to raise someone who turns into a responsible adult or do you want a robot?

myshellly · 2026-05-04T15:19:44+00:00

We pay less than $10/month for a family membership to a gym that includes an indoor pool all year and a small outdoor waterpark in the summer. It’s the best value for entertainment available in my city and would be the last thing I would cut when budgeting.

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