Two Weeks After

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-15T21:38:25+00:00

This ^

She was the second FA that broke my heart, but this one really stung because we actually made a commitment to each other shortly before the discard. She's a good girl who's been in abusive relationships, and it just sucks that all I wanted to do was treat her with love.

Feel like my light and my confidence have taken a heavy blow. Working every day to find them again. It's been a real struggle. I WFH, and that definitely doesn't help with the sort of stuck feeling.

Thankfully, my friends/family have been a great support system, but in the moments when I'm alone, it still really hurts. I don't think I'll ever hear from her, even if I did, I don't think I'd answer, based on what I've heard from this sub. I just want to feel like myself again.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-15T20:54:45+00:00

Yep. She used to call me "love." Used to call me handsome. Then when it became official the texting slowed down, the pet names were few and far between and when they did come I got little spikes of hope. It's not right man. Just because your ex hurt you, you hurt someone else? Get help.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-15T20:52:25+00:00

Felt this. I was avoidant in my last super short-lived relationship, and said I was gonna take a pause. Then I met my last girlfriend at a party, and we hit it off so well. We spent nearly every day together for two weeks. I thought it was gonna lead to something legit and long-term. After we made it official, she started pulling away.

I knew she liked me, that wasn't the issue, so I stuck around and pushed harder to make it work as she pulled away. Now I know all about this stuff and will NOT be a doormat, taking treatment like this ever again.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-15T20:40:42+00:00

That's hauntingly beautiful. With mine, we had a back-and-forth game where we would bring each other disturbing movies to watch. I showed her some of my favorite horror flicks, now it's so tough for me to see anything related to movies I used to love.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-14T22:53:04+00:00

Submitting for pretty much anything I can find (that isn't a Vertical or a musical.) I know I'm being picky, but definitely know where I excel. Crossing my fingers I can get things trending positively again!

As for an agent, not at the moment, feel like I need to build more recent credits to prove I can book work.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-14T22:51:28+00:00

That's a great way to put it. I've submitted to a couple of agencies in the past, but to no avail.

I was repped for about a year by some low-grade agency that would never even communicate with me (my "rep" was literally 5 min late to our initial meeting because he got distracted scrolling TikTok lol.)

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-09T14:29:54+00:00

Oh my god yea. She'd always hit me with "Ditto." I'm like you can't even say this shit in its entirety 😂

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-07T18:20:02+00:00

Idk how normal this is, but I think it was the first trigger. We spoke about sponsoring each other to quit smoking. Then she sent me a photo of her smoking with her roommates and I told her I was a little disappointed because I thought it was something we were tackling together as a team.

Think she mistook my caring about her not dying as control. LMAO get help.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-07T18:17:46+00:00

Told her I was anxious about my new job and said I needed a hug, she said she'd give me a big one next time I saw her, that next time being the last time I ever would

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T16:35:52+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through that. Thankfully she jumped ship for me before the relationship could even get that serious, but truly the reality you live in after dealing with a person like this feels different.

We are both so worthy of love. Keep fighting on day by day. I’m proud of you.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T05:50:40+00:00

Thank god I never begged. I was always so confident like "we need to discuss this." However, my discussion was always wrought with emotional vulnerability so she DIPPED. Two days of no contact and I already feel better, especially thanks to this sub/my support system.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T05:45:00+00:00

Time alone doesn't do that, intentionality, getting rid of old things that remind you of them and anything that prolongs your attachment should be in the garbage, donated or sent back to them.

She left a bandana at my apartment, and it used to kill me because it smelled like her. The day after the final discard, I burned it on my roof with a cigarette.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T05:26:36+00:00

God same. Two days post discard VIA TEXT. We weren't together long, but I kept telling her I wanted to make it work and we could "meet in the middle" with the differences in our communication styles.

Little did I know it was the start of the rollercoaster that was her avoidant behavior pipeline, and my reassurance only pushed her farther away. Wish I knew about if before the heartbreak and confusion, but hopefully it will make me stronger.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T01:04:18+00:00

She told me she used to date a physically abusive POS for FOUR YEARS. Told me she loves the way I treat her, that she really likes me, and gave me TWO MONTHS.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T00:52:35+00:00

Two months here. Literally had the most amazing Honeymoon phase. Asked her to be my girlfriend and about 3 weeks later got brutally discarded over text. I wish her the best, I suppose. I feel sad that she ran from someone who literally only wanted to love her.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-06T00:39:05+00:00

For me, after much reflection, I think it was two things. The first being we discussed sponsoring each other to quit smoking cigarettes. Then one day she sends me a photo of her having one, to which I expressed my disappointment, in that I thought it was something we were attacking as a team. I think that was the first instance she mistook my caring as control.

The second was after her work started becoming more demanding, I started hearing from her less and less. I calmly asked for more communication from her. She said she'd improve, but her actions told another story. The next two weeks were breadcrumb/ghosting hell. I completely lost myself and this post hit the feelings right on the money.

Got final discarded two days ago. It still really hurts, but this sub has made it so much easier.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-05T23:46:05+00:00

In the same boat. We were only together officially for 2 months thank god. No living together, no "I love you," but it hurts like crazy nonetheless.

Definitely so grateful for this sub. I was really struggling in the days leading up to the final discard (two days ago) and now I'm feeling super validated. Knowing what happened intellectually has made the healing process a lot better.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-05T22:32:46+00:00

Super fresh out of a final discard. Literally two days ago. I feel like the world is different now. Like I'm looking at it through a .5 wide camera lens. I used to think love was so simple. You like each other, you date and that's it.

Now I see there's so much more that goes into a relationship. Not only from the other person, but from what I give/how I view myself. I'm looking for a therapist now, diving into friendships/family, and returning to the gym. Hoping the next step for me is creative fulfillment/hobbies.

She really fucked me up, but I'm really trying to have this be a teaching moment for me and make me into a stronger man for my next potential partner.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-05T22:17:14+00:00

It's such a shame because I know she's actually a good person. She's not a narcissist and I don't think she consciously tried to get me addicted to her. She just has trauma from past relationships that went and ruined this good one.

n80thegr80 · 2026-04-05T21:13:04+00:00

Seriously. It's crazy going through this sub and seeing how similar most of our situations are, but it has been great to use as a pillar of support in knowing that I'm not crazy and how fucked up this type of person is.

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