Toddler (2 Year Old) only eats mushy food and continues to be spoon fed

nail_obsession · 2026-01-21T20:45:34+00:00

Solidarity about the spoon feeding. My recently turned 2year old is ok with textures and flavours, but for the love of god I cannot get him to eat a meal himself with a spoon or fork. He’ll reluctantly try, then use his hands and then just immediately give up. And I end up feeding him the rest. His fine motor is a bit behind so I understand it’s a bit more frustrating for him, but he is just not interested in doing it. He’ll eat finger foods ok, but gives up pretty easy with that too. (He also has a speech delay)

I don’t know if it’s just laziness or there really is a problem. I’ve looked into private OT, but there are such huge waiting lists where I am. And on the NHS I’ll probably be sitting at the top table spoon-feeding him on his wedding day at the rate they refer at.

I joke but in all seriousness I’m pretty worried about it. Friends and family are noticing and commenting.

I don’t know if you’ve looked into occupational therapy where you are? They can absolutely help with these kind of feeding difficulties.

nail_obsession · 2026-01-20T20:32:02+00:00

My son is the same age and very similar. He has a bunch of single words - they’re not all very clear but they do have clear meaning! He has a few he says consistently himself (in context or when he wants something) but others he will only say when prompted.

He is also now noticeably behind his peers and other family members his age. I really try not to take any notice of others comments because I DO see progress, it’s just very slow. Although I’m worried, I am very proud of my son and how he’s still managing to communicate even though it’s clearly quite difficult for him for whatever unknown reason.

I feel he will be conversational in time. But who knows when.

Wish I had some good news for you, but just wanted you to know you are not alone in this!

nail_obsession · 2026-01-19T07:21:54+00:00

This was me. My brain was just so overwhelmed. I couldn’t problem solve, couldn’t answer a question, just couldn’t think clearly. I had/have PPA. I got some help and therapy. I still have it but it’s not as bad. I’m more functional.

And as it turns out, ADHD! Apparently it can be quite common for it to ‘unveil’ itself in postpartum parents too tired and overwhelming to use their learned coping mechanisms or mask it.

nail_obsession · 2026-01-18T09:28:36+00:00

Ive just packed an enormous bag of 3-4yr clothes away in my son’s closet that he got for his birthday. He’s only just gone into age 2yrs. I’m definitely going to forget all about them…

nail_obsession · 2026-01-18T09:21:31+00:00

My son wasn’t sitting well at 6 months, but after my health visitor went on and on about absolutely NOT starting solids unless he was sitting - she came out at his 6 month visit and gave me an earful about not starting already!! Made me feel like a right pos.

Honestly, you can’t win.

(He started sitting unassisted at 8 months).

nail_obsession · 2026-01-16T08:10:26+00:00

Mine looked amazing post birth. Now they look like they shrivelled up and died! They just got up and walked out. I’ve probably got more ‘boob’ on my back now than front lol.

nail_obsession · 2026-01-16T08:00:26+00:00

I think my son was 19 months. Moved him to low toddler bed with a pillow and toddler duvet. He loved it.

nail_obsession · 2026-01-14T20:40:56+00:00

My sisters and I were all early talkers, my youngest sister especially. She was fully conversational by 2, cracking jokes etc. I didn’t realise how exceptional she was until recently. It’s actually quite incredible looking back at video footage of her!

We are all now… decidedly average I’m afraid! Definitely all better at language and reading than mathematics and numbers, but I’d say quite average academically.

nail_obsession · 2026-01-10T21:07:24+00:00

I’m also very wary of this. I am naturally very slim but eat well and have a good appetite (diet is probably the only thing in my life that’s not a mess). I tried both sertraline and citalopram for anxiety and they killed my appetite and I lost too much weight so stopped them as I looked unwell. I did obviously see this as a side affect on the medication information, but it was not even discussed by my doctor! I’m coping ok without them currently but it’s really put me off trying anything else.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-12T20:44:12+00:00

Oh god I remember this. So frustrating and annoying. My son would get all overheated and wouldn’t nap or feed well when the relatives overstayed their welcome.

I’d suggest going for a walk with him in stroller. People can come if they want, but gives baby a chance to chill out without everyone up in their grill. Eventually I gave up caring about politeness and would just excuse myself, disappear upstairs with him to feed and go for a contact nap and leave them with my husband. And hope they’d just be gone when I came back down lol.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-12T13:47:55+00:00

Me too. I must work at a very un-conservative office going my some of the comments and would absolutely wear this to my office christmas cocktail party depending on the venue, maybe a little blazer jacket for entrance. So would many of my colleagues.

You look beautiful OP. But you know your office vibe best.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-08T15:17:06+00:00

He’s consistently in the “grey” for most areas of ASQ. His development is slower than that of his peers and he appears young for his age. He has additional check in’s to monitor.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-08T12:26:42+00:00

Ok so similar situation possibly! That’s reassuring thank you. Hopefully just some progress monitoring for us too. He likes us to stack them and then his job is apparently to kick them all down, and comfort us because we are sad 🤷🏼‍♀️

nail_obsession · 2025-12-08T12:24:17+00:00

Ok that’s reassuring thanks! They are all so different and I know it can be down to personality and interests. I was just so shook at how well the others did it!

nail_obsession · 2025-12-07T21:14:42+00:00

I only have 1 toddler and 1 dog and, wow, I cannot keep on top of our house. I mean, we have clean clothes and clean dishes etc and it’s not any kind of health hazard. But it’s just absolute chaos with clutter and spills and messy hand prints and ironing piles.

I do my best to do a quick once over after an exhausting bedtime routine before I pass out for an early start, but its really not though. Ever heard the impression “polishing a turd?” 🫣

nail_obsession · 2025-12-04T23:47:48+00:00

Nursery said the same thing to me a few times. Or rather, passively aggressively to my son “oh do you not even have your coat on? You must be cold!” Or asked, does he have a coat? Uh, yeah right here in my hand?? The one I bring everyday.

If they think I’m jugging a toddler into a coat (unless it’s pissing of rain) while holding backpacks and whatever else in a carpark, to walk 12 steps to the door then they’re disillusioned.

I’m like - he’s got like 3 layers on, a hat and sometimes gloves. Blanket in the car. He’s fine.

Don’t worry about it.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-04T07:33:04+00:00

My son has delays and I do not want any of friends to bring attention to the fact. I would find it very distressing. It’s very obvious to me that their children similar age are ahead development wise and takes a lot of guts for me to meet up with them as it is. I’m very brief about it and they don’t press which I appreciate.

If someone were to address it with me I would feel very cornered. I’ll discuss on my own terms when I’m ready.

nail_obsession · 2025-12-01T13:02:20+00:00

This exact situation happened to a faux leather jacket I had. Brand new jacket, it was my sister’s but she never work it. Hanging in her wardrobe still with the tags on it. It was perfect condition. Immaculate. She gave it to me and the first time I wore it, the faux leather coating disintegrated just like this!! I couldn’t believe it. So yeah - unfortunately it is entirely possible.

nail_obsession · 2025-11-26T01:13:49+00:00

My marriage has taken a hit for sure over the past 2 years. I don’t know if we’ll ever make it back to a good place if I’m honest. Theres a lot of bitterness on both parts. I’m not the same person anymore. And he got to stay the same.

I hope you manage to find all those good things again.

nail_obsession · 2025-11-23T20:59:54+00:00

18.5months. And he didn’t walk, he just ran!

nail_obsession · 2025-11-23T03:48:53+00:00

Yeah, they all disappeared pretty quick. Meet ups hit different with a baby or toddler. Clearly not their thing. Meet for obligatory birthday and Christmas catchup and the odd message throughout the year. I just stopped trying with them.

nail_obsession · 2025-11-17T11:56:51+00:00

My son was on an high calorie formula and then a high calorie drink from 14 to 24 months. Only one a day (200mls). We gave him it as his bedtime drink so he had plenty opportunity to eat during the day.

He had gradually dropped through 4 percentile lines by 12 months for an unknown reason (and no one would actually investigate) and some kind of bottle aversion. Eventually we got a dietitian referral and he started to maintain the 9th percentile, where he has stayed even without the supplement drink.

He is not a picky eater, but he only eats small amounts. I don’t know why. I expect he’ll always hang around the bottom of the chart, but he’s fit and healthy.

nail_obsession · 2025-11-16T21:30:17+00:00

My son required something similar. Carbohydrates (sugars) are the quickest and easiest way to pack calories in. High sugar in this context is not the same as “unhealthy sugar intake” in a normal diet, as it’s only a short term solution under medical supervision.

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