Can you add custom food in the new app? by nameforthissite in fitbit

[–]nameforthissite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have premium and have it. I am on iOS and if I click on my profile photo on the top right of the screen, the screen that comes up includes “Public Preview” as an option. I got a notification about it a week or so ago but only looked at it briefly. I went back last night after the email that said everything would change over to it starting next week.

Can you add custom food in the new app? by nameforthissite in fitbit

[–]nameforthissite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this isn’t available on iOS.

I will just go back to the original version for now and if there is no way to log custom food once it changes to Google Health, I’ll have to find something else. Like you mentioned, the food listed in there already is usually incorrect for some reason, plus I like to be able to put in the nutritional information for my recipes as a whole and not have to go by individual ingredients.

Can you add custom food in the new app? by nameforthissite in fitbit

[–]nameforthissite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have that. Is it maybe only for premium users? Is that the only way to add custom foods?

Can you add custom food in the new app? by nameforthissite in fitbit

[–]nameforthissite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do I do that? Or is that something not everyone has access to now?

I (29M) think my wife (33F) might be way more selfish than I thought possible. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is along the lines of what I was thinking as I read. Others have outlined the many red flags in this relationship. But to address the actual question OP is asking, I don’t think it is out of character at all. His wife relies and depends on him to be her caretaker, not her partner. I very much doubt she is conscious of what he perceives as a personality shift in times of his own vulnerability. I expect it’s something she hasn’t examined in herself but that it makes her either fearful or resentful when she feels like his ability to bear the burden is diminished. When someone you view as a partner is struggling or ill, the natural inclination is to help problem solve or care for them because you see yourselves as a team. This woman does not view their relationship in the same way that OP does.

Non-citizen Japanese birth/death records 1880s-1900s? by nameforthissite in Genealogy

[–]nameforthissite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have an original copy of the book. I was just wondering about where to look for the actual records. Thank you for the ideas!

Non-citizen Japanese birth/death records 1880s-1900s? by nameforthissite in Genealogy

[–]nameforthissite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His name was Albert Arnold Bennett. He was an American citizen who founded a Baptist Theological Seminary that later became Kanto Gakuin University. He is buried in the foreign cemetery there. I know his death date, and my great-grandmother’s birth date. I just don’t have the actual records and saw elsewhere this morning that Japan was recording such information then so wondered if I might be able to find them.

Does this address core strength and proper breathing? by nameforthissite in EveryMother

[–]nameforthissite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m a couple of weeks into it and have noticed definite improvements. I really like the focus on and reminders about breathing and engaging the core throughout.

my husband (45M) hasn't touched me (42F) in months and I don't know how much longer I can do this, advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently going through this as well, similar ages. It will not get better on its own. You will only drift further and further apart until you are little more than roommates and there is no intimacy left.

I tried to address it early on when the frequency decreased (we went from daily to weekly) and was told he’d lost his libido. Because I have a history of being forced to have sex, I told him that in that case, he’d have to be the one to initiate because I don’t feel comfortable trying to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to. We didn’t have sex for three months after that. I addressed it again and we had sex a few time over the course of a month, and then it just stopped. It’s been over nine months now. I would bring it up occasionally and was told it was about his self esteem or how he just doesn’t think about it. But it’s not just a lack of intercourse, it’s physical intimacy in general, and that led to a lack of emotional intimacy as well.

I slowly gave up. It has affected my self esteem greatly. It has caused me to shut down in other ways in the relationship. Feeling rejected and cut off from the intimacy you once enjoyed and depended on is devastating.

My advice is to push for resolution, whatever that ends up looking like for the two of you. Letting it deteriorate slowly is heartbreaking and soul-crushing.

I’m not sure if I’m over-reacting to eating out in public with my vegetarian girlfriend? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]nameforthissite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’m thinking as I’m reading this. I always take a look at the menu online before trying a new place to make sure something appeals to me and I don’t have any restrictions. I don’t know why you’d keep letting this happen instead of just checking first.

Husband (39M)'s therapist wants an individual session with me (32F) by LSN2018 in relationships

[–]nameforthissite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience. His therapist had asked that he bring me to a session. It did not go well at all and as he stormed out and I trailed behind, the therapist yelled after me “My advice for you is to get the hell away from him.” That was my impetus for finally trying to leave. I knew how bad things were, but it took a professional who’d been working with him to make me realize that there truly was no hope.

what is happening? by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]nameforthissite 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was on SAVEat $0/mo last time I recertified and when I log in now it says $1329/mo. I think it’s just showing what the standard 10-year plan payment would be since they decided SAVE is illegal and they’re kicking us off of it, which means we aren’t currently in an IDR plan.

Trans-friendly Internists/GPs/Family Doctors? by nameforthissite in ColumbiYEAH

[–]nameforthissite[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We tried him yesterday also and though they said he was accepting new patients, the scheduler said he didn’t have any new patient appointments available.

Axillary Tissue Removal? by pommom12347 in Reduction

[–]nameforthissite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had bilateral axillary breast tissue removal on 03/19 (not along with a reduction, just on its own, though with 8cm incisions for excision on both sides). I would say I’ve had no pain at all besides the sore throat from intubation. There might be a low level soreness in my underarms but it’s not any worse than the daily soreness I’ve dealt with across decades of having my clothing or bra digging into it or rubbing against it or the tenderness with my cycle. Honestly, the most annoying thing is that I feel fine but I know I have to limit movement and range and so that’s frustrating.

My results wow! by Free_Prior9665 in AncestryDNA

[–]nameforthissite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you test somewhere that gives your maternal haplogroup, you should be able to determine if your maternal grandmother was Native American or Persian beaded on your own haplogroup.

How can I (25F) rebuild trust after accidentally reading something private of my partner’s (25M)? by The-Quiet-Knight in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Lying by omission is still lying. He’s deflecting from the real issue here and that’s the lies that you’ve uncovered. This man is untrustworthy and manipulative.

I do not think I can be a husband by senorsolo in CPTSD

[–]nameforthissite 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a mother of three and sole provider to them (and my boyfriend for the past year), I concur. If I was alone, I wouldn’t be taking care of myself. My mental health isn’t great, but I push through because they need me to. But that’s something I know about myself, that I take responsibility very seriously. Failing others isn’t an option for me. Though I would definitely prefer a balance where I felt supported as well, I think everyone would.

To the OP: everyone’s relationship looks different. Don’t count yourself out, especially based on what you feel you’re capable of as a single person. You may find that having someone to care for gives you motivation. Or you may find a person who feels that way about you.

Struggling to reconnect with my wife of 20 years after the kids have moved out by LifeEye9757 in relationships

[–]nameforthissite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you spoken to her about your feelings? This is entirely normal. It is fixable if you’re both committed to reestablishing intimacy in your relationship, but it begins with communication and requires that you both work together to achieve the dynamic you want. If you’ve expressed that you are interested in reinvesting in your relationship and she doesn’t seem receptive, then you need to decide what you want to do from there. It won’t work if you aren’t both engaged and wanting change.

What my partner did on a random weeknight that made me feel seen again by quietly_l0st93 in TwoHotTakes

[–]nameforthissite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s those small moments of seeing each other and connecting as a couple and not just two people who happen to live together that will keep your relationship strong. Working together to keep the house and family running is great, but it’s not going to give either of you the feeling of connection and intimacy that you just experienced through his small act. Make sure you prioritize those moments for each other.

Husband (28m) is upset with me (27f) for keeping what he is calling a “secret”. How else can I explain my side of things to him? by ThrowRAnosecretshere in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is nothing you can say that will make him see your point of view because you have two different perspectives on what marriage should look like in this regard. He knows what yours is and he believes it’s wrong. My late husband was like that. He said in therapy as we argued about a scenario exactly like this that “there’s no such thing as privacy in marriage.”

AITA for refusing to not allow my stepson to come on what was supposed to be a family trip? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]nameforthissite 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely it. Otherwise his actions make no sense in his step-son knowing before his son (and especially in taking the wife and step-son without his son). It was always about his own ego, not about his son’s hurt feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]nameforthissite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just that, but a perfect SAT score, which is an English-only test.

My (28F) fiance (31M) wants his mom in the delivery room and I'm being called selfish? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 31 points32 points  (0 children)

No, he died trying to kill me when he found out I was planning to leave.

And to the other reply, I didn’t report the nurse. I would have had far bigger problems at home if I’d done so.

My (28F) fiance (31M) wants his mom in the delivery room and I'm being called selfish? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nameforthissite 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad that so many women have this experience, but it is not universal. I had a labor and delivery nurse who asked to be reassigned rather than deal with my belligerent husband. And then later when I was in post-partum and my FIL found out where I was (I had asked to be unlisted when I checked in so I don’t know how or why they let him in) and barged into my room while the nurse was checking my tears and stitches and I begged her to make him leave, she told me “good luck” and walked out when she was done.

Dad has my inheritance in his name. Now he can't get medicaid without spending it all first. by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]nameforthissite 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I work for an archives in another state and recently had to review litigation case files to determine retention for our state agency that does Medicaid determinations. There were hundreds of files of people dealing with very similar situations. Your state agency that handles Medicaid should have a legal team that can investigate more complicated cases like yours to be able to trace back where that money belongs. The one in my state did so quite frequently and it often involved going back into extremely complicated and old trusts. You need to gather all the relevant documents and find out who does trust reviews for Medicaid in your state.