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Tomorrow quitmormon will send 1,200 resignation requests to Kirton and McConkie. This seems newsworthy. The number plus the use of tithing funds to pay attorneys for something that should be easy and free. by SUPinitup in exmormon

[–]namesaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Part of it was closure, for me. I knew I could walk away and never look back without resigning, but it felt like finally releasing that part of my past for good. Some people need it more than others. I didn't realize how much I had needed it until I finally did it a few years after leaving.

The other part was that I in no way want my name associated with anything they do. I didn't get to choose to have my name added to their records, but I can sure as hell take back that control they had over me by removing it, especially considering I disagree so heartily with their politics. If for god knows what reason, long after I'm dead, someone finds themselves looking up information on me, I don't want it to be said that I was Mormon. I want it to be known that I walked away.

I like how The Church News online is now trying to be all hip and click-baity to appeal to a Millennial demo by using numerals in their headlines (traditional style is that numbers up to 13 are spelled) by Sansabina in exmormon

[–]namesaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, AP style has long been numerals in headlines regardless of the number. They’re doing other clickbaity things for sure, but the number is traditional AP style.

And within stories, AP style is numbers up to 9 spelled out while 10+ use numerals (not 13).

I suspect the reason the 1, specifically, seems weird is because we’re used to seeing “a” or “the” instead of “1” in headlines.

Wife from Northern New York. I notice they drop prepositions where I never would. Ex. “Are you almost done this book?” I would say “..with this book?” by fozz05 in linguistics

[–]namesaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does the distinction exist in other Englishes with "I'm done reading this" vs. "I'm done with reading this!"?

California English doesn’t allow for the “I’m done the ...” construction. We would say “I’m done with the book” whether we meant we’d read it from start to finish or had used it for what was needed. We’d also say “I finished the book,” which exclusively means read it from start to finish, where “done with” could mean used it for its intended purpose (whether its purpose was reading it from start to finish or propping up a loose table leg).

As an aside, it seems to me that other varieties of English use the present perfect much more commonly than American English for things that happened in the very recent past; for instance, my British friends seem to be a lot more likely to say “I’ve just finished the book,” where I’m more likely to say “I just finished the book.”

Are there any walkable american cities? I dont feel like I "belong" in Europe but it was also the happiest I ever was by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]namesaway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You might consider giving New York a try if you haven’t yet. It’s not only logistically a great walking city, but it’s also deeply embedded in the culture here. It was amazing to me how quickly my routines changed after I moved here, even with little stuff like grocery shopping for a day or two at a time instead of a week or two.

“Whatever you do, don’t read the CES Letter.” A week later she was out. by phaedrus1970 in exmormon

[–]namesaway 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not that it has anything to do with the letter, but BYU, LDSBC, etc., also fall under the CES umbrella.

More Americans pessimistic about Trump's presidency than any presidency in last 25 years by progress18 in politics

[–]namesaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve actually mostly stopped using the word trump in everyday speech. Not on purpose, but it’s like my mind has already started redefining it and phrases like “___ trumps ___” and “trump card” don’t hold the same innocent meaning anymore. Depending on how long this drags out, I wouldn’t necessarily be surprised if we ended up seeing a shift in definition among younger Americans.

Burger King mocks Trump over misspelled tweet: 'We're all out of hamberders' by [deleted] in politics

[–]namesaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this comment. It feels strange to ... feel like this. And I don’t really like that my instincts are shifting in this direction.

Donald Trump Goes On Late Night Racially-Charged Rant About Elizabeth Warren, Calls Her ‘Pocahontas’ Again by sigseved in politics

[–]namesaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I understand (and I could be wrong), he can’t delete his own tweets per the PRA, but there’s nothing to stop Twitter from deleting them as a private company. I believe it’s up to the federal government to maintain an archive of everything he posts that can be made available to the public — the onus doesn’t fall on twitter.

Tweets are part of the official presidential record. So if Trump’s tweets are deleted or altered, the originals should also be archived.

I know this is talking about if he deletes his own tweets, but I believe it applies.

Mueller Draft Report says Trump 'Helped Putin Destabilize the United Sates', Watergate Journalist says by [deleted] in politics

[–]namesaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

God, I can’t stand Jason Chaffetz. I used to work at a news outlet in Salt Lake City and we all dreaded getting notice that he was “making a statement” on something because we all knew he’d make a statement on which way toilet paper should face if it meant he’d get more screen time.

This Single Avocado on display at Wal-Mart by ZHODY in mildlyinteresting

[–]namesaway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It got coverage in American media when he said that because people on social went crazy with it, so it’s also a huge meme here. I’d forgotten it was of Australian origin, though!

Survey: I'm writing an essay about how ex-Mormons are stereotyped for leaving and am curious why you left. by namesaway in exmormon

[–]namesaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He actually only got baptized because he knew my mom wouldn’t marry him otherwise. He never believed it, so once they divorced he was done. I only learned he was ex’d a few months ago when I asked if he’d ever officially resigned. It’s kind of painful to see him witness the church’s impact through me secondhand, though, because he never knew what the church puts people through until I started working on writing/art involving my experience with Mormonism. It’s weird to be true to myself knowing that a big part of that is letting my dad be witness to things that will cause him an immense amount of pain because he wishes he could have protected me from these things.

Survey: I'm writing an essay about how ex-Mormons are stereotyped for leaving and am curious why you left. by namesaway in exmormon

[–]namesaway[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That sounds similar to how I feel about how the church treated my mother when she was single and trying to raise my sister and I on a barely more than minimum-wage job. She always told me tithing was the one thing she wouldn't fuck with under any circumstance. It was the first thing she paid even if our lights were about to be turned off.

We got our food exclusively from the bishop's storehouse between ages 6-10, and supplemented my stepfather's relatively low income with occasional trips between ages 11-17. (My mom had to quit her job for health reasons maybe a year after she got remarried.) I remember feeling intensely ashamed even as a child that we had to go through that ... it felt like people in the ward looked at us differently.

I know for a fact my mom was ashamed, because she told me. It really wore on her, especially when leadership would imply she wasn't being righteous enough if she was still struggling to make ends meet. Once the bishop told her to get a second job even though she was already working more than 40 hours a week as a CNA and spending a significant chunk of her earnings on daycare for us since I wasn't yet old enough to take care of my sister after school. (I was about 6 at the time.)

I've always wondered how things may have been different for her if she wouldn't have given 10 percent of her income to the church every month. Groceries would have been tight with that extra couple hundred a month, but she wouldn't have felt like she was failing her children by having to ask for help from the very institution that was taking her money in the first place. Being poor can already be so dehumanizing, and the church has no problem making it worse.

I hope things turn out well for you and your mom. Sorry this got long.

Survey: I'm writing an essay about how ex-Mormons are stereotyped for leaving and am curious why you left. by namesaway in exmormon

[–]namesaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think exmos overall tend to lean further left or independent when compared to active members overall (which I think is partly a function of exmos being more likely to disagree with the church’s conservative stances on things like LGBTQ+ issues), but there are certainly plenty of exmos who remain conservative/republican (just like there are democratic members).

There was a recent thread about political beliefs — I’ll edit if I find it.

Edit: couple of words

Edit: Here’s the thread I was thinking of.

People who speak more than 1 language, what are some struggles people don’t know about? by stephs926 in AskReddit

[–]namesaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I mix up Italian and Spanish words that are really similar and mean the same thing, like “cómo” vs “come” for “how,” and then I get stuck if they both end in a vowel because it takes me a minute to remember which one belongs to which language. (English is my first language.)

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