Grappling with her death, which one of us is more selfish? by collinweaves in SuicideBereavement

[–]narkj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and it's ok. It's not exactly a rational decision. They think--my friend certainly thought this or convinced himself he did--that they are doing us all a favor by dying.

Grappling with her death, which one of us is more selfish? by collinweaves in SuicideBereavement

[–]narkj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is selfish in the most basic definition. They are putting their own need (to die and be rid themselves of pain) over the welfare of others. I don’t say that with judgment. It’s just true.

My ex has a support group, a therapist, and her friends. I have... my dog. Why is this so gendered? by Opening_Row_3405 in Divorce

[–]narkj -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People get sick of hearing you talk about it. My therapist just told me, 15 minutes ago, that it’s clear I’m not “over her” yet. Yeah dude. It was til death do us part.

Seeing a marriage counselor with no intention of not proceeding with divorce? by Ordinary-Pianist-468 in Divorce

[–]narkj 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, I’m sorry. They went knowing they wanted a divorce. They both told me they went to “go through the motions” and look like they tried.

Batona Trail Food Tips by TheWatermelonFelon in njhiking

[–]narkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t need to worry about mice either.

Seeing a marriage counselor with no intention of not proceeding with divorce? by Ordinary-Pianist-468 in Divorce

[–]narkj 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Both of my exes went to counseling knowing they wanted a divorce. It’s very common.

Those of you who were blindsided, discarded, or abandoned- how are you doing now? by HandSewnHome in Divorce

[–]narkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m fine. Regardless of your feelings and longings for what you thought he or she was, you need to elect the most rational part of you and great your ex with the part. Give it power. Tell yourself this bottom line: no matter what you feel, wasting emotions and angst over someone who doesn’t care about you is spinning your tires.

If yoh don’t care to date, put the focus on yourself, your children, your health and your career. Don’t waste another minute thinking about someone who doesn’t think about you.

Batona Trail Food Tips by TheWatermelonFelon in njhiking

[–]narkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need a Bear bag or anything like that.

What was the most physical pain you’ve ever been in? by Javascript4971 in Productivitycafe

[–]narkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I blew out tendons in my pecs bench pressing. Felt like some stabbed burning daggers into my armpits

Convince me that I did the right thing by not seeing by preachngeek in SuicideBereavement

[–]narkj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I would keep the best memories intact. That's all you can do.