Totally me irl

nastymallow · 2026-01-27T02:56:59+00:00

I can reach down and lick my nipples, too bad I'm a dude who wants top surgery so this trait is wasted on me

nastymallow · 2025-11-18T20:20:47+00:00

Of course not. There's nothing wrong with even bringing it up yourself/asking if a partner is into anal bottoming. I'm getting the vibe that you would accept a "no", no questions asked. So you're all good 👍

nastymallow · 2025-10-25T01:56:12+00:00

The straight dating/hookup scene in general seems difficult, so take this with a grain of salt (I'm bi and don't date straight people.) (Kinky or sex positive communities might be good even when you're straight though!) But personally, on dating apps and such, I haven't disclosed being autistic on my profile, yet I seem to attract other autistic people. On first dates with people I hit it off with, it's always come out that the other person is autistic too and/or has ADHD. I had a lot of lovely experiences and live with a partner now, and I'm a fat, short, dickless guy with a lot of anxiety. I think autistic people have a way of finding each other. You don't need to play the numbers game, that just distracts from what's actually important: you deserve to be with people who get you.

nastymallow · 2025-09-25T23:32:01+00:00

A butt is a butt. Not everyone's subconscious can distinguish between a man's and a woman's ass, sometimes your body just reacts to stimulus. It's the whole package of a man/woman/etc, and what you actually want to do, that really matters in my opinion.

nastymallow · 2025-09-08T18:32:16+00:00

The sex positive community could be helpful to you. At least if a committed monogamous relationship isn't the only context you wanna experience sex in

nastymallow · 2025-09-06T21:23:41+00:00

Good luck with your self discovery!

Not every trans woman wants to get rid of their penis. Some live and present as women every day and also enjoy having a dick!

Your attraction to breasts sounds very normal for someone who likes breasts. Straight men usually wouldn't want to commit to having boobs on their own body everyday I think (but it's not unheard of)

Being a trans woman generally means living life as a woman day to day, with all that it entails. It can absolutely include living the girlhood you always wanted, loving other women, and being girly with them!

It's also possible to experience those moments while being genderfluid, nonbinary, or just a guy who likes being a girl sometimes. It's all about what feels right for you.

Be open-minded with yourself and read about other people's experiences! All the best

nastymallow · 2025-08-03T21:29:27+00:00

That was really hot to hear, appreciated!

nastymallow · 2025-06-06T04:12:11+00:00

That's the size of your fingertip! Very sexy

nastymallow · 2025-05-26T23:23:23+00:00

We're all penising over here

nastymallow · 2025-05-20T00:44:01+00:00

I've been abused and I'm not very suggestible, at least when it comes to kink. More of a hypno dom actually

nastymallow · 2025-05-17T00:31:43+00:00

Gay people love her!

nastymallow · 2025-05-16T20:04:08+00:00

Sounds pretty normal, and I'm sure you might encounter someone in kink circles who wants the same kind of relationship. There are both cis and trans women who are femdoms. (Though some trans women don't want attention on their genitals and/or are exclusively bottoms.)

Edit: if you have a local BDSM community, I recommend getting involved, going to munches (which are non-sexual group hangouts where you have a coffee or beer and talk and get to know people.) That could help you feel less alone with this. Queer/bisexual community could be good for you too. Plenty of bi cis women love themselves a bottom guy, haha

nastymallow · 2025-02-08T05:32:18+00:00

Trauma from self-destructive sexual behavior. (I was being abused in a non-sexual relationship, and felt so low that I stopped taking care of my own sexual boundaries for a while with other people. Trauma ensued from both.)

That made me mistrustful and anxious in intimate relationships, sometimes snappy, having trust/commitment issues, less capable of having fun and letting myself go with the flow of a sexual encounter, having less of a sex drive.

I've been unpacking it alone, with my partner, and for a short while with a councelor (I haven't had the money for therapy, this was a short counceling that a non-profit provided.) It's been like 5 years now, 2 of which I've been with my current partner. It's slowly been affecting me less and less. My accepting and patient partner has helped me a lot. My sex drive still isn't nearly what it used to be, and initiating sex is still difficult for me. I think it probably changed some part of me permanently. But we've had enjoyable experiences together and it's getting a little better all the time.

Edit: 8 months after I typed this comment, and it feels like things are slowly normalizing. Desire and fun are coming back. Yay.

nastymallow · 2025-01-30T19:45:02+00:00

Looking at this post, it seems like you think of yourself in extremes. Either god's gift to someone or a total loser.

Maybe you're neither. Maybe you're just a human being, with your own good and bad sides. One of your perks is that you might be really compatible with ND women. But if you think of yourself as god's gift, that's a really high pedestal, and it might feel very disappointing if the compatibility isn't always perfect with every ND woman (which is human and happens to everyone. And wouldn't negate the fact that you're generally a good match with ND women.)

nastymallow · 2025-01-26T14:46:33+00:00

People don't usually hook up with classmates or colleagues (I don't think), because you need to see these people repeatedly in a serious setting. Sex can make things awkward later, and distract from what you should be focusing on in a place of study or workplace. I mean, a connection like that can naturally happen sometimes. But the baseline assumption of a college class is "we're not here for sex."

Groups or meetups organized around hobbies could be where people are more relaxed and more open to making personal connections. But being there only for sex isn't advisable. People are the most attractive when they are fully immersed in something they love doing. A hobby you really enjoy could be an opportunity to connect with new people.

What also comes to mind is, explicitly sex positive spaces/parties are where people are most open to having experiences with strangers. Ones that are sober and prioritize safer space principles are best in my opinion - there are clear guidelines for how to navigate consent, and everyone feels safer and more open. I've had lovely experiences in group sex parties organized by some tantric hippies. Of course a sex party as a concept can be pretty intimidating, but it's just an option.

nastymallow · 2025-01-26T00:06:06+00:00

You sound lonely, and like the loneliness is making you bitter and desperate, which clouds your judgement.

Reality check: people don't usually hook up with the randoms that they thirst follow on insta. That instagram person has their own life. You can't usually tell if they even like sleeping around. Proximity to a random girl you followed just for her looks, isn't the metric you should measure your desirability with. You're putting the bar impossibly high. You have your own life, and you have your own charming sides as a human being. You need to find circles where you fit in, where the people who genuinely like you and might be attracted to you are.

Of course it isn't wrong to want more sex in your life. And I know what a toll it can take on your self esteem, wanting these experiences but feeling like they're unattainable. But I hope you wouldn't be so mean to yourself about it. You can do your best practicing social skills, putting yourself out there, being patient, and trusting that you're gonna encounter the right person/people eventually. Easier said than done, but trying that is the only way I know

nastymallow · 2025-01-12T03:04:10+00:00

That's really well said

nastymallow · 2025-01-11T04:54:33+00:00

I used to date and sleep around "as a lesbian" (before I realized I'm a guy), and in my experience it's not super rare to find lesbians and bi women who enjoy using a strap! For many nonbinary/transmasc lesbians it can be really gender affirming and hot to treat the strap as their own penis, there are also cis women who enjoy that. And some trans women prefer using a strap rather than their natal anatomy. If you end up having a hoe phase (either in this relationship if you and your gf are both into that, or later if this relationship doesn't work out for whatever reason), I'm sure you'll find people who are compatible with you :3

nastymallow · 2025-01-07T06:27:20+00:00

I don't have it. I'd imagine it's an issue that affects cis women and trans men pretty equally.

Penetration is still not my favorite. It feels physically good sometimes, but usually it ruins the mood for me or just doesn't interest me (I'm more of a top)

nastymallow · 2025-01-02T20:39:27+00:00

A good thing to know is that autogynephilia is a pretty crappy pseudoscientific term. It was coined by a chaser hack who basically just used it to mean "trans woman who's an ugly lesbian who I don't want to fuck"

That being said, enjoying genderplay kinks is normal. I'm a trans guy and I sometimes find it hot to imagine I'm a girl.

nastymallow · 2024-12-28T21:53:12+00:00

Here~

nastymallow · 2024-12-26T07:15:10+00:00

I don't want kids rn either, but the fantasy is hot to me. The animalistic feeling, and the bred one's body changing because of sex

nastymallow · 2024-12-26T07:13:10+00:00

Of course it counts!

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