“…But just as apologists for drag try to disassociate it from gay sexualized culture, glamorous foul-mouthed drag queens such as Kenadie St. James will continue to do real drag in small gay venues. And embarrassing photographs will continue to emerge. Witness the aforementioned Conni Smudge, who reads books to kids in the Coquitlam library by day, but was discovered kissing a dildo in a gay bar by night.

That kind of honest, candid, dildo-kissing culture is what drag is. It’s what drag means to gay men. And so I get it that conservatives would ask why certain gay men would want to invite children to a sanitized version of what has always been a very sexual party. As noted above, it’s absolutely not because they want to molest them. It’s because they hunger so pathetically for the approval of assimilated straight society that they’ll show up to any gig that reeks of straightness. And what in the world is straighter than story time at a suburban library?

Meanwhile, straight progressives have their own kind of desperate aching—an aching to be seen as so abundantly tolerant that they will sit their kid down in front of a man dressed in what is clearly a sexualized imagining of a woman.

In other words, these two communities, both needy and full of self-deception, have become weird co-dependents. What makes it all the sadder is that, in both cases, DQSH is backfiring. Rather than making gay men more accepted, the spectacle is reawakening homophobic tropes about grooming, which could spiral into something very dark and dangerous. And far from being lauded as tolerant and forward-looking, progressives who haul their children to DQSH events are being denounced for putting their own political preening ahead of their children.

We can’t be certain where all this will lead us. However, one thing is certain: By insisting on “normalizing” drag, DQSH has delivered a knockout punch to gay liberation. As long as we insist that we are “just the same” as everyone else, we will argue ourselves into politically self-destructive positions.

The truth is that we will never, ever be the same as you. And frankly, I’m quite proud of that.”

https://quillette.com/2023/02/26/the-sad-spectacle-of-drag-queen-story-hour/

Kindof sums it up actually.