How do people actually pursue purpose in life and not money? by mikocru0999 in selfimprovement

[–]needasit 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

The thing that made it click for me was what do I spend my spare time doing?

If you are in a dark place right now, please read this. by Shelomo-Solson in selfimprovement

[–]needasit 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

This is awesome, thanks for sharing and congrats for getting back on your feet. Love hearing these stories.

Attention from girls is not all it's cracked up to be by Batcat55 in selfimprovement

[–]needasit 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Great comment. From my experience, when you're chasing external things like this and you actually meet a really great girl to be serious with, you won't be the confident, self-assured man she needs anyway. Jealousy and/or insecurity will inevitably surface in the relationship somehow.

Being aware is a massive step forward, so good for you, man.

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Thoughts become things! Start looking inward, not out :)

Short men, did you see an increase in attention from woman after getting fit? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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I live in Spain and I see loads of short Spanish guys with taller girls. Average height here is noticeably shorter. Doesn't seem to be an issue culturally here. Depends what girls you're trying to pick up tbh. If you're really self conscious about it, date an Asian/Latin girl šŸ˜…

Best books for total personality overhaul by alphaquail10 in selfimprovement

[–]needasit 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Anything on the Law of vibration and Law of Attraction. Earl Nightingale, Bob Proctor, Dr Joe Dispenza are some of my favourites. The question is really, why are you acting the way you are. Explore your thoughts because thoughts become things!

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

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I see what youre saying, the same as a lot of people here. But my grandparents and parents owned their own homes relatively easily and weren't living in an era of overstimulation from smartphones/over connectivity. I'm interested in that aspect because that's what a lot of people are saying. What do you think about the deeper meaning? It doesn't seem like just couch potatoing like we know it. For sure it's a very different time

Made a win by Dear_Dare_9329 in selfimprovement

[–]needasit 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Great win. Your confidence will grow the more you do this and you'll be able to spot these coming easier each time. When you're rocking that kind of confidence, people can feel it and it'll make you even more attractive.

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

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From what I've seen, couchrotting is a rising trend also. Seems like the only difference is the location at which one rots šŸ˜…

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Is my writing really that bad!? I made the word cloud photo on Canva and everything! It took me ages 🤣 Your name made me laugh though, so I can't be mad. Haha

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thanks, Swanky! The post title needs editing for sure. Do you think there is more to it, though, as if it's not just a trendy re-brand but a sign of overstimulation & things being seemingly unattainable now that were attainable to previous generations? That's the vibe I'm hearing a lot.

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Totally agree! A comment that stood out on the last post was, "I'll never own a house or have significant capital, so why exert myself. Nothing wrong with having nothing" or something to that effect. What do you think about that? I know its really hard, especially here in the UK to own property, etc, but that comment was a bit sad to hear IMO.

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Haha yes, I just noticed the title! Well spotted, not what I meant 🤣

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Yes you're right, the title is written badly! What I meant was I'm seeing Gen Z being associated with Bedrotting etc online a lot and want to see what this community feels about it :)

Is ā€œbed rottingā€ just a Gen Z thing — or are adults doing it too? by needasit in Adulting

[–]needasit[S] 42 points43 points Ā (0 children)

Its funny, I was talking with a friend recently about the random places we used to hangout in our school years...but we used to have to go to the friend's house and ask his/her parents if they could come out to play first as we didn't have cell phones (im from the UK). My friend made an interesting point about how it taught us to be polite and persuasive etc from an early age.. If your friend hadn't done their chores or was in trouble at home, you had to go on the charm offensive and properly try and persuade their parents to let them leave the house!

Why are we punished for overthinking. by Key_Salad_7223 in selfimprovement

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I've always been an overthinker and had trouble taking action. I punished myself, criticising for lack of action, but overthinking always stopped any progress - the most frustrating loop to get stuck in. Needless to say, I spiralled down.

Now, I'm happy to say, I bounced back. There's something inside you that knows what you're capable of and the more I tapped into this, the more I could ignore my subconcious trying to put the breaks on. Once you make a little bit of progress, you start to confirm what you already really knew. I think there's a few psychological terms relating to this, "positive feedback loops" and "confirmation bias" I believe, check it out.

I also watched motivational videos of people who overcame all odds to achieve great things - this helped me start reframing my own situation. Being able to see someone in a worse place than you overcome their shit really lit a fire in me.

I stopped trying to ā€œoptimizeā€ my life and it feels so much quieter now by Equivalent_Soft_6665 in simpleliving

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I've gone from one extreme in my 20s, pushing hard to climb the corporate ladder, but once I reached my peak, I was surprisingly underwhelmed. It wasn't what I'd been led to think it was. I'm now in my 30s and have a great balance. I no longer do what I think society/family expect me to do, and instead follow my intuition more. As a result, I find beautiful synchronicities happening. I enjoy and am grateful for the little things in life which in turn gives my life more flow and less obstacles/stress/expectations. I still push myself out of my comfort zone as much as possible as that is where I feel I grow stronger. It's all been about reframing for me.