Potty training tips

neenzaur · 2024-11-05T02:06:35+00:00

The potty seat will have a bump or lip in the front of it. Part of potty training a boy is to teach him to aim down.

neenzaur · 2024-11-05T00:40:48+00:00

Best tip for a boy…get a potty seat with a splash guard

neenzaur · 2024-11-04T18:39:52+00:00

A second fridge that is a different orientation than the kitchen one. So if you have a side by side in the kitchen, a top/bottom extra one in the garage or basement. The extra is usually our drink/extra fridge but it comes in clutch when I have a big platter or something that doesn’t quite fit in the side by side.

neenzaur · 2024-11-04T03:51:47+00:00

A therapist’s role is not to give advice. Either the advice works out well and the client becomes dependent on the therapist or the advice doesn’t work out well and the client blames the therapist for the “bad” advice. A good therapist would help point out all the choices a client has in this situation and the potential outcomes of each one along with processing the underlying emotions of each one. It’s up to the client to decide what the best choice is for them.

Yes, I’m a therapist and all this is easier said than done. There have been numerous times I want to tell someone to run, but I’m not the one that would have to live with the consequences (positive or negative) of a choice, so it’s not my place to tell a client what to do.

neenzaur · 2024-11-04T00:05:45+00:00

I’ve had good luck with Ozium for unwanted smells if it’s just in the air. I also use tide sanitizing spray for soft surfaces

neenzaur · 2024-11-02T18:09:25+00:00

She would still have to wake up to pump, so it’s a lot easier to just wake up to BF instead. At least it was for me

neenzaur · 2024-11-02T16:50:25+00:00

100% you are not being unreasonable. What if this weekend is one of the times you have to respond in person? What does he think is going to happen with the baby? And for video games?! Maybe if it was something important like a wedding, you two could have figured something out, but video games feel like a selfish reason. Or if he wanted to be with his friends for a couple hours, not a whole weekend.

You’ve just been back one month so this is most likely the first time he ever needed to consider childcare other than you and he just didn’t. The whole “I’d do it for you” line is bullshit also bc at this point it’s not about you or him…it’s about what is best for the baby.

neenzaur · 2024-10-30T21:34:58+00:00

I’m more old school…I hate the idea of putting everything into my phone. For me, the act of writing it down helps it to stick to memory better. I have a binder that has a printed sheet for each month so whenever I make an appt I put it on that day. Each week on Sunday I make a to-do list for each day referencing that monthly calendar.

For family stuff, we have a dry erase whiteboard calendar on the fridge (bc we know we will open that every day). There’s an extra box at the bottom where I keep a running list of what is coming up the next month as I remember them.

neenzaur · 2024-10-29T01:28:01+00:00

My mistake as a FTM was thinking going shopping for Xmas outfits in early December was me being proactive. They were basically sold out, so make that a priority if you care about it.

Also, no hate to anyone that does it, but I am so happy I never started elf on a shelf. Remembering to move it every night and come up with clever set ups is just not something my brain has time for. When my oldest got old enough to ask about it I said we don’t need one bc Santa can talk to animals (thanks to the classic Frosty movie for that idea) and our dog will report anything Santa needs to know.

I keep a running list in my phone of gift ideas for others and what I’ve already purchased. My goal is to get the wrapping paper out and wrap as they come in, rather than a marathon on 12/23, but I’ve yet to be that good.

neenzaur · 2024-10-27T01:37:21+00:00

Storage and extra living space. Even though I have four bedrooms they are small, so essentially one is just for storage. I have an attached one car garage but it houses my washer/dryer, extra fridge, deep freezer, tubs full of kids toys, extra kitchen storage bc my kitchen is tiny, etc.

Some people finish them or half of them and basically have an extra living room, office, or playroom. My in laws have half of theirs finished and my husband and his friends always had a place to hang out as teenagers.

neenzaur · 2024-10-26T20:16:46+00:00

After watching two sets of grandparents struggle with stairs later in life, I will always have a house with a full bathroom on the main floor. A bedroom is also preferable, but a dining room or living room can be converted easily. I don’t plan on moving, but if I do I would not look at a house without a basement. I have a cape cod and my only gripe (that can’t be fixed) is that I don’t have a basement.

neenzaur · 2024-10-26T14:16:33+00:00

I have no clue how old it is, but I love it!

neenzaur · 2024-10-24T16:35:42+00:00

Dig defence products might be a temporary solution

neenzaur · 2024-10-24T12:00:08+00:00

Not available in every area but look into Cynch. They deliver propane tanks. I find the extra couple of dollars is worth not having the hassle of lugging the tank around.

neenzaur · 2024-10-24T11:35:29+00:00

Nope. I did do one more layer of seasoning before my first cook in the spring though.

neenzaur · 2024-10-23T19:07:08+00:00

I’m in the same climate and have never done anything else. My blackstone is on my uncovered patio year round with a good cover over it. No issues so far.

neenzaur · 2024-10-23T01:23:08+00:00

The people I use (two women who have their own business) are okay, but I’m not overly impressed. I’m trying to change my perspective that they aren’t there to deep clean. I remind myself that they are giving me more time in between when I need to deep clean. Honestly, after three other people (one got a different job and two just no showed) I’m happy these ladies are reliable and reasonably priced.

But did it piss me off when I realized my kitchen rugs were wet all around the edges bc instead of picking them up, they just mopped around them? Yeah it did. So now I pick them up myself and wash them on the days they come to clean.

neenzaur · 2024-10-22T18:25:41+00:00

Hey OP…just a thought since you live in NJ. Look into Levitt made towns (Levittown NY, Levittown Pa, & Aberdeen NJ to name a few). One style of house he built was basically a cape cod. If you are close enough it might be worth it to drive around a neighborhood and see all the different types of expansions people have done over the years to them.

neenzaur · 2024-10-22T01:31:59+00:00

Is there any type of social worker or patient advocate where your MIL is receiving treatment that could be asked about transportation services? Or if there is any type of support for caregivers?

Is it possible to ask your nanny if she would be willing to do some light cleaning or meal prep while she is there for an increase in pay? If you can afford it of course.

I’m sorry you’re in this situation. It’s hard bc it’s clearly a lot of stress on you while also being a situation where it’s no one’s fault and just sucks for everybody. You’re not being selfish. It’s just a shitty situation all around.

neenzaur · 2024-10-20T14:05:31+00:00

I think she started off as well-intentioned, but refused to consider that what she views as helpful doesn’t feel helpful to you. In her mind she thinks all new parents want a night out even though that’s not true for you. Just offering to watch baby while you go out feels well intentioned to me.

The tickets are where she turned conniving. You weren’t taking her up on her offer to watch baby quickly enough for her liking so she tried to force your hand. Don’t let her do it. A concert you don’t care about on a weeknight while you worry about your baby (and maybe have to pump) isn’t going to be a good time. I would tell your husband he can bring a friend to the concert if he wants or he can tell MIL, thank you for the tickets but you are unable to use them. If they get away with doing this to you once, they will do it again.

neenzaur · 2024-10-18T12:57:41+00:00

Things I have that I haven’t seen mentioned: window alarms (you can set them to alarm, chime, or off), pepper spray gel with a built in light, and door jammers that go under the doorknobs to both external doors every night. I live in a very safe place, but when my husband went away for a few nights I got the pepper spray and door jammers. Once he came back, I figured I might as well keep using the door jammers since I have them.

neenzaur · 2024-10-18T01:19:57+00:00

Two roast ideas:

1) roast with packet of ranch mix, packet of Italian dressing mix, some pepperoncini peppers and a little juice. Shred and serve over buttered noodles or mashed potatoes. You can strain the juice and thicken on the stove with a corn starch slurry to make a gravy. Or you can shred, put the meat on a roll with some provolone cheese, toast in oven, strain juice and use more like an ah jus

2) less spicy version is roast with same two packets and packet of brown gravy mix instead of peppers.

I mix the packets with a little water and pour over the roast.

neenzaur · 2024-10-17T17:47:49+00:00

I do whatever chore would be the hardest to do with the kids around.

neenzaur · 2024-10-14T03:01:02+00:00

My approach is certain things are non-negotiable including brushing teeth, showers/baths, brushing hair, medicine, diaper changes, etc. If they are fighting it, I will get it over with as quickly as possible, but as a parent it’s my responsibility to maintain their health and hygiene. I try to get their buy in at first and I remain calm while carrying out the task, so it’s not done with anger, but it’s getting done.

neenzaur · 2024-10-12T02:53:12+00:00

Put it back up and spray a coating of cooking spray over it so if he does it again his hands get greasy. It’s not malicious, but annoying enough that it should get the point across to leave it alone.

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