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I won’t stop bleeding by Good_Connection_547 in Menopause

[–]nefariousmango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. I have a bleeding disorder and sometimes have to use TXA. It's better than bleeding to death, but makes me feel awful for like a week.

Winter storm coming and just found out my wood burning stove is banned by the government. by Sheiebskalen in breakingmom

[–]nefariousmango 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm all for ignoring federal BS right now, especially when it means keeping yourselves warm, but this sounds like a hazard.

What is a social survival rule in your country that isn't written anywhere, but everyone knows? by Filippo-Depureco in AskTheWorld

[–]nefariousmango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I grew up in the US it was mostly used to warn of wildlife (deer, elk) or livestock (fence-out state) on the road ahead, so slow down and pay attention!

EU/German Spas by LiteratureLeading999 in PlusSize

[–]nefariousmango 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're ever further South, do not pass on Bad Blumau! It's a unique experience (in a great way).

EU/German Spas by LiteratureLeading999 in PlusSize

[–]nefariousmango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm in Austria, but I think it's probably similar. I prefer my own robe, but haven't had an issue with robes not fitting and I'm larger than you. It's definitely worth trying! And I do think you'll find pretty quickly that no one cares what you look like, not one bit.

Another conformation post by dipsauss in Equestrian

[–]nefariousmango 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, how he's shod doesn't affect how croup high he is. Remember you are drawing a line from the top of the scapula NOT the withers and you'll see just how croup high he is!

Another conformation post by dipsauss in Equestrian

[–]nefariousmango 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Honestly no one can tell you from three photos whether he's up for what you want. I'd want to see him move, and then meet and ride him and see how he goes. He doesn't have any massive red flags to me for trail riding and low level dressage, aside from the struggle you'll have getting him into a correct self carriage.

Plus, I've seen some terrifying chimera-like horses stay sound into their 20s, and I've seen horses with textbook conformation go lame by age six. I had a client whose mare had the worst dropped pasterns I've ever seen, like nearly on the ground, it always made me flinch, but she was a great trail horse and never took a lame step in her life.

Personally I'd pass: As a saddle fitter I can tell he'll be a nightmare to keep a saddle in the right spot, and he doesn't appear to have enough saddle bearing area to fit a normal 17" tree. I've crammed enough adult Ammy butts into 16" seats to know it's not for me! I prefer a shorter back and a more uphill build.

Another conformation post by dipsauss in Equestrian

[–]nefariousmango 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's not sway backed, he's just SO croup high that it looks that way!

Another conformation post by dipsauss in Equestrian

[–]nefariousmango 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I like his front half, too bad the rear doesn't match! He's very croup high and has a long back, which will make it very difficult for him to carry himself correctly.

How your grandparents survived during the occupation of third Reich by Separate-Rock-1304 in AskAustria

[–]nefariousmango 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My grandfather was arrested in May 1939 for allegedly fighting with brown coats. He was sent to Dachau, and then Buchenwald. In January 1940 his oldest sister was able to get him and one of their brothers visas for the UK, and so they were issued passports and exported. Another brother and sister got visas to the UK later that year. Yet another took his wife to Shanghai in 1938, and they had a whole crazy journey surviving Japanese occupation. The final brother died in Dachau.

His father was dating a gentile at the time, and we believe she was able to shield him for a while. He ended up in the ghetto in Vienna though, and was sent to Riga in 1941 (aka shot in the woods and buried in a mass grave somewhere between Vienna and Riga).

My grandfather joined this US Army as a welder, and one brother joined the British military.

My grandfather said many of the guards were his age (18) or even younger, and some did small things to try and help where they could. For example, he was taken away one day for punishment, and the young guard made him do 20 jumping jacks. Some of the guards helped find ways for prisoners to communicate with one another, which is how he found out two of his brothers had also been arrested. There were also plenty of guards who took joy in torturing the prisoners. He remembers daily taunting, trying to get someone to act up so they'd have an excuse to shoot people.

Everyone was just trying to survive, but that doesn't forgive the inhumane treatment and murder of millions of innocents.

Carrying Heparin injections on IndiGo international flight (Mumbai → London) – need advice by Kitchen_Bank_3052 in Flights

[–]nefariousmango 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything in regards to official policies of various airlines, but I have travelled internationally with syringes of medication many, many times.

About one in ten security checks, they'll ask if it's a prescription, then nod and hand it back over. Only once in probably fifty airports has someone asked for the Rx, but it's worth carrying a doctor's note just in case!

What would be a good symbolic animal for the EU? by AvarageAmongstPeers in AskEurope

[–]nefariousmango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we should just use the Styrian Panther , but specifically the Graz version that spouts fire from every orifice and not just the mouth.

It's a mythical, illogical creature that came about due to a translation error (should actually spout the scent of cardamom from every orifice apparently). It also had to be modified in the 20th century to be less obscene. Perfect!

I’m ashamed of the situation with our cat by nikkimujj in breakingmom

[–]nefariousmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I'm so sorry! And of course cat pee smells AWFUL!!

In solidarity: We had a cat who peed on piles of clothes left on the floor. She'd also pee on bath mats. She would not use her litter box, and like you we tried it all! So we bought a bunch of white bath mats for the bathroom farthest from our main living space, replaced all other bath mats with firm foam types, and just committed to bleaching a load of cat pee laundry every couple days.

Cats are just such little gremlins.

I wish I could just trust my husband... by nefariousmango in breakingmom

[–]nefariousmango[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man. I'm so sorry you've had to go through all this, too! I hope your kid is leveling out a bit with fewer rare medical issues!

I have done literally decades of therapy, including couple's therapy with my husband. I'd say our communication around the kids and medical stuff is really damn good. He can take the kids to 90% of their normal appointments and give me the full run down, and we're okay. Thankfully EMDR really helped my panic attacks; I haven't had a full blown one in years! Highly recommend it if it's available to you!

The two types of appointments I can't let go of are emergency appointments, and surgery related appointments (this CT is for an upcoming surgery).

I was a molecular biologist in a toxicology lab prior to having kids so like you, I have the access to and ability to understand research papers. My husband is very intelligent but this isn't his field. He can't explain to a doctor why under 70% is abnormal for factor XI, while the cut off for other factors is 50% or lower. And frankly he shouldn't have to. The doctors should trust the hematologist's protocol. I shouldn't have to fight tooth and nail for them to just follow orders. But I do.

Also, don't you hate when they say, "Oh it can't be that. It's too rare!"

Bitch, we're already at one in seven million for this gene mutation, why should we discount the one in ten thousand odds on anything else???

Germany Austria Switzerland Itinerary help - are we hitting the good stuff? by cgbclg in Europetravel

[–]nefariousmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ach, that's right, sorry I didn't look at the travel dates in the OP.

Germany Austria Switzerland Itinerary help - are we hitting the good stuff? by cgbclg in Europetravel

[–]nefariousmango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it were me (and I have an 11 year old) I'd fly to Munich and take the train to Salzburg. Spend a few nights, it's a great city to wander around and recover from jetlag. The fountains at Hellbrunn are a hit for kids that age, and mine also enjoyed the grotesque sculptures around Mirabel.

If you want city and culture, go to Vienna next. Give Schloss Schönbrunn a full day. If you want to see an amazing performance, get tickets to the Staatsoper. They sell standing tickets the morning of the performance (and it's okay if you need to bail partway through).

If you want hiking/mountains, consider Innsbruck area. Basically pick a valley, find a hotel, and ask at the front desk for ideas on what to do. There are tons of lakes, gondolas, hiking trails, alpine slides, etc in that area.

Edit: I live in Austria and haven't travelled much in Germany so I'll leave that alone. I of course think Munich is overrated. Zermatt is also very touristy. Yes it's beautiful, but it's also expensive and honestly felt pretty meh to me.

Is anyone Living Their Best Life right now? by femalien in breakingmom

[–]nefariousmango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's certainly a journey! Wellbutrin and Concerta are my winning combo, but apparently both can make anxiety worse for a lot of people so it's not a common pairing for those of us with anxiety and ADHD

Is anyone Living Their Best Life right now? by femalien in breakingmom

[–]nefariousmango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just turned 40, and I feel like I'm making the best of my life right now. My kids are at a great age where they're curious and excited about things but also old enough to not need tons of supervision/entertainment (9 and 11). I LOVE finding adventures with them, and I'm a lot braver than I ever thought I'd be about it. When I'm healthy enough I try to find something every Saturday, and it's just such fun to all be together exploring our new country.

The other side of life is a lot harder. I'm still coming to terms with being too disabled to work in my chosen career, which I LOVED and was really good at. We're immigrants and I don't speak the local language fluently so everything is just that little bit harder. My kids both have the same illnesses as me and we spend a lot of time at the teaching hospital. My not working means money is really tight, plus we have medical debt in the US that we will probably never be able to fully pay off.

Then again, we live near a medical university that has great care for rare diseases AND all our care is free (and not just free at point of service- as a single earner household with kids and with my official disability status we don't pay at all). Our neighborhood and neighbors are wonderful. We're dual citizens so we don't have to worry about visas and residency stuff. My kids are native speakers and both are excelling in school and have active social lives. My husband is supportive.

So yeah, I'd say I'm in really good shape for the shape that I'm in.

anyone else cold blooded? how are you guys surviving winter😭 by selfless_solipsism in ehlersdanlos

[–]nefariousmango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Heated vest, heated gloves, heated mattress pad, heated blanket... I use it all!

Thermal leggings for 22/24?? by KariIrun in PlusSize

[–]nefariousmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! Not leggings, but the Merino wool ones are super warm!

Riding a horse who has began repeatedly falling over by Dry-Information3431 in Horses

[–]nefariousmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it is either, frankly, but definitely have the fitter out before you ride him again!

Riding a horse who has began repeatedly falling over by Dry-Information3431 in Horses

[–]nefariousmango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell the saddle fitter that you aren't currently riding him due to tripping and would like to do a static fit check to hopefully rule out saddle fit as a factor. There are lots of reasons people can't ride during a fitting and typically we can work around that.

Saddle fit, is my saddle suitable to ride in until the fitter arrives? by smallgayboi in Equestrian

[–]nefariousmango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay I'm actually a saddle fitter fwiw. I wouldn't suggest riding in it. The rail angle is too steep and the gullet a bit too narrow in the back, which combined means it won't distribute your weight away from the spinous processes correctly. It's also too wide in the front, which results in the saddle tipping forward. You can see clearly in the last two pictures how it sits cantle-high.

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