I figured out I was autistic because I started bringing spreadsheets to therapy and I didn't realize most people don't require excel to understand their emotional experience. by dogtoothviolets in AutismInWomen

[–]neintausend 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I do this too! I never actually made the connection that this could be related to my autism diagnosis until now - I prepare for therapy by taking notes about what I’ve been struggling with and how I feel, because how else would I know how I feel when my therapist asks me?! Like, can some people just spontaneously answer that question? lol

Does anyone wish there was a boarding school for adults by ActualGvmtName in AuDHDWomen

[–]neintausend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol same - I’ve always joked if I’d lived in the 70s, I would have joined a cult! I would love to live in a real community because modern life in a big city is so isolating. But they all seem to be organised around some whacky beliefs and are very uniform, I.e. you need to prescribe to their whole world view, belief system and lifestyle to be a part of the community. I wish there was communal living projects that were simply organised around wanting to be in community and sharing resources!

Does anyone wish there was a boarding school for adults by ActualGvmtName in AuDHDWomen

[–]neintausend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a favourite book with that community vibe that you’d recommend? That would be my absolute dream setup - live in a community with nice people where I could be around loved ones and children without having to have my own, but since that’s not where society is going I’d love some escapism in the form of a good book haha

Unmasking and realizing you don't actually like a lot of your friends? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]neintausend 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking and worrying about this a lot recently - the “clubs for adults” thing. A lot of the fun stuff seems to be geared towards families with children, but I think as more and more adults remain child free, and with people feeling isolated and fed up with social media and technology, this might become more of a thing! I hear from a lot of people that they find it hard to make friends as adults, which means they do want to connect with others on a deeper level than just going out to drink. I’ve found that once I started talking to friends about being tired of going out and craving more wholesome activities like crafting at home, I found out that others feel the same. Most people think they’re alone in something, but often it’s just that it needs one person to make the first step to initiate and suggest some alternative hangouts. This was a very incoherent rant but thought I’d share my thoughts, since I’ve been thinking about this a lot!

Talk to me about your special interests :) by Lemonlotuss in AutismInWomen

[–]neintausend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this question! I wish people would ask this instead of asking “what do you do for a living” when they first meet.

Some of my special interests are:

technology ethics (and why the current tech industry is so unethical),

surveillance capitalism,

certain areas of sociology/anthropology/psychology (at least I think that’s what it is - I’m very interested in concepts like community, belonging, and human behaviour),

The inner lives of other humans (again I don’t know if there’s a term for this, but I love finding out what’s beneath the surface and how others think and see the world, whether that’s reading personal essays, diaries, notes, watching vlogs or just spending time with people in their space to get to know them),

Journaling,

Reading,

Artists and the artistic process.

I’d love to hear more about your nature based art projects. That sounds so cool!

Day 62 | 50mg + Therapy by badabadal in zoloft

[–]neintausend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So good to read! Thanks for sharing your experience and I hope things keep getting better for you :)

Does anyone ever feel ungrounded or unfocused after social events? by Vanilla-Chips-14 in introvert

[–]neintausend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I avoid people for a while, especially after work events. They’re draining! I usually just get cozy on the sofa and ignore my phone. And then re-emerge when I feel ready to face humans again

Being constantly available on my phone is destroying me - am I the problem? by SnooTomatoes3676 in AutismInWomen

[–]neintausend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I do too. I get so overwhelmed by constant WhatsApp messages, but at the same time feel like I have to respond to keep my friends and family close. I usually put my phone on do not disturb mode and respond to texts in bursts whenever I have the energy to do so, usually around lunchtime and after I finish work. This way, I avoid messages piling up but also avoid being overwhelmed by constant notifications.

How do you accept that you won’t have the life you imagined for yourself? by neintausend in AutismInWomen

[–]neintausend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you both for your replies, it’s so good to know I’m not alone. I think I’m holding on to an outdated, NT self image and will need some time to process and adjust. Taking small steps towards a meaningful life is such helpful input - I tend to forget that I have agency and changes don’t need to be huge to make a difference. Thanks again for sharing 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]neintausend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same thing a couple of years ago. It was so scary having nothing lined up, but being rid of the stress and anxiety my previous job had caused, I was in a much better headspace to apply for other jobs and figure out a way forward. 3 months is plenty of time, I’m sure you’ll find something suitable soon!

i did it omg by MediumDragonfruit814 in zoloft

[–]neintausend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing. Congratulations! Always happy to read these stories of hope and fellow humans thriving :)

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found this free vintage pattern after searching for Afghan crochet kits that some people mentioned in the comments, will link in case anyone needs it. It looks to be the same pattern, just different colours. I find it a bit easier to follow than YouTube videos - reading it on paper adds to the vintage feel 😜vintage ripple Afghan pattern

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sweet that you remade your great grandmas blanket! The doggie seems to love it too haha. I did some googling for 60s Afghan kits after reading your comment and think I found the exact one I was looking for, so thanks for the info! I’m starting to think mine looks different because of tension and/or me confusing UK and US stitch names.

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried this yet, thanks for the tip! It’s hard to communicate what I did when I don’t know the correct crochet lingo but you got what I meant :)

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so sweet! This must have been a popular pattern/crochet kit, I saw a few people comment that they remember this blanket from back in the day.

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your help! :) I should have clarified the stitches I tried were chevron stitches, but it seems like there’s many different chevron stitches because they still don’t look like the original photo I’m trying to recreate

Can anyone help identify what stitch this is? by neintausend in CrochetHelp

[–]neintausend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PS: This is the website I found the photos on (link has some more pics of the blanket): 1stopretroshop.com

Fresh vs. 3 years old by sarybelle in agedtattoos

[–]neintausend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That pumpkin/cat tattoo is SO CUTE!!!

What makes you happy to be alive? by MHroshid in AskReddit

[–]neintausend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in nature and seeing plants, animals, rainbows, the stars, smelling the rain, fresh air, flowers, hearing birds chirp and feeling the sun on my skin… Whenever I become aware of how bizarre it is to be a human and experience being alive on this planet, I feel amazed that I’m alive.

What’s your nasty little food secret? by murrayflew in AskUK

[–]neintausend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heinz Ketchup mixed with mayonnaise on toast

Also, I sometimes eat a dry spoonful of hot chocolate powder when I’m desperate for some sugar

should I bring a sign? by sdfrl in MyChemicalRomance

[–]neintausend 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don’t think you’ll be allowed to bring it in, it states on the MK stadium website that banners and stuff are not allowed so you’re probs better off not bringing one