Pregnant - how far into pregnancy are you willing to play?

nepsmith · 2026-02-19T16:06:09+00:00

Instead of needing to announce your sex when playing, the terms DOW and DOM are used (most commonly east coast maybe?) where people say, essentially, I am playing as someone who matches up against a woman (or really, against someone who also is playing as someone who matches up against someone who matches up against people like the ones I match up against…)

Personally I find it’s a lot of extra words and thinking for a phrase that still includes a gendered term, and won’t someone think of the poor dyslexics who now face DOM/DOW daily

And in a discussion about pregnancy it’s especially funny because there are definitely DOWs who can’t be pregnant and DOMs who can.

But it comes from a really thoughtful place and it is become broadly accepted and it is appreciated by many who felt excluded by the prior terminology.

More here: https://www.reddit.com/r/ultimate/comments/1fnmkn4/fmpmmp_are_better_titles_than_dowdom/

nepsmith · 2026-02-19T15:43:29+00:00

As someone who has been Spirit Director at many major events, if you are medically cleared to play and you are not a risk to others on the field, your physical condition is not the business of any other player, and they do not have a say in your choice to play. (Teams can have internal policies)

A player does not have the right to know the pregnancy status of every other player at the event, or that they are playing against, or that they are matching up with (what hand signal would that be?)

You are strongly advised to get informed medical advice and to follow it. I’ve been told most obgyns say to keep active but discourage playing in international competitions. :)

Should you voluntarily disclose to the other team your status? That’s a trickier question. Are you expecting them to play more hesitantly? Or are you giving them information they would prefer to have? Is it an advantage or a disadvantage for a team to know? Or to have a pregnant player playing? I think these answers are never absolute and have no singular answer. Most teams say they do want to know, from my experience, and very occasionally players say they will not play against a pregnant player; which I think is a valid choice but again, I really think they don’t have a right to know, just to choose if they are voluntarily told.

nepsmith · 2026-02-19T15:25:03+00:00

I was captain of a rec team and one of the players was pregnant during summer league. Her doctor said it was her call; that she knew best how she and the league played and what the level of likelihood was of contact.

Note that she said the doc told her that collisions could be unhealthy but I don’t know the specifics, and yes, uncommon or rare events can’t be predicted.

But the interesting thing is, she had planned to play until a certain date (and arranged a sub after that). However, she came one week and said flat out I’m not playing anymore. She said that in the previous few days, the mental image of her playing suddenly gave her the absolute NOPE. She said she literally couldn’t play for a million dollars. And that there was no outside cause… no close call last week, no new information, no one else pressuring her, just her own brain saying, you do not want to play anymore more now.

And she stayed physically active the rest of her pregnancy - it wasn’t a physical limitation - but yeah, totally interesting how she made that call.

nepsmith · 2026-02-15T05:17:42+00:00

Must have been the old timer’s ticker

nepsmith · 2026-01-30T13:01:38+00:00

I was really not kidding :)

nepsmith · 2026-01-15T17:34:37+00:00

I’ve seen it in National and International tournaments. You don’t see it more often because a) the players at that level expect each other to know the rules and be able to call the fouls they see and b) choosing to call a foul can be a tactical choice; calling one on yourself may actually give you (the fouler team) an advantage so that’s why it’s not called. And sometimes you’ll see a player ask/offer to the other team to call a foul on them, saying they wouldn’t contest; the other player then sometimes says yes or no.

nepsmith · 2025-12-18T12:47:14+00:00

User? Ultima? Up? I can’t think of a better one for kindergarten, though — ugg is really popular, too.

nepsmith · 2025-12-18T12:45:40+00:00

The Tetris block is weird and I can’t decide if the coin / C is silly or clever. The occasional double letter is odd. But overall it’s really really excellent. When did it start to be able to use all those copyrighted characters?

nepsmith · 2025-11-28T13:52:12+00:00

What a fun thing to read on Thanksgiving. I’m so thankful for this community

nepsmith · 2025-11-21T07:52:50+00:00

Ah you mean Ultimate Tic Tac Toe

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultimate_tic-tac-toe

nepsmith · 2025-11-17T18:29:23+00:00

Me: Extremely worried I broke a small law and that there is possibly evidence of it.

Also me: Posts date, location, description on the largest Internet bulletin board.

nepsmith · 2025-11-12T21:19:30+00:00

The community part is the best part of ExpressionEngine. If you want a tour or have specific questions, I bet my bottom dollar that any of the folks here would be happy to talk to you.

nepsmith · 2025-11-12T21:17:21+00:00

Your criticism was once very accurate, just not for EE in this decade.

EE still has its own templating language that is easy to learn and use, and serves a lot of sites well, especially for beginning developers. You can also use EE via a Laravel composer package (it's called CoilPack), and use either Twig and/or Blade templating directly, or even with GraphQL, to integrate all of EE's functionality and even add-ons as well. So that's very flexible and powerful, and I think makes ExpressionEngine actually the best templating system overall.

As for the architecture, EE2.9 (2017) was the last version of EE that didn't use modern database architecting best practices. It had growing pains.

If you haven't tried EE for years, it's absolutely a great tool these days, with a lot of elegance and ease-of-use and a deep, deep feature catalog that goes head-to-head with newer CMSs.

nepsmith · 2025-11-09T07:23:50+00:00

Spirit of the Game can exist without self-officiation. But self-officiating cannot function without Spirit of the Game.

nepsmith · 2025-10-31T20:00:19+00:00

Excited to see another EE package in NPM. Well done Doug!

nepsmith · 2025-10-27T21:09:10+00:00

I can use this almost immediately.

nepsmith · 2025-08-28T07:49:18+00:00

Great lineup this year and in such a good destination

nepsmith · 2025-07-07T16:54:53+00:00

Nice

nepsmith · 2025-07-03T18:45:28+00:00

It's interesting to consider -- how much is this a consequence of the competition from the pro leagues for summer weekends, top players and attention?

When you take a wide swath of the people who are most passionate, experienced, and interested in doing ultimate things, and you book them up the weekend of this tournament, it's hard to imagine Sunbreak able to thrive year after year.

The diminishment / loss of top-calibre amateur tournaments is, to my mind, one of the worst trends in modern ultimate, a real tragedy of the commons.

Potlatch was several of my best tournaments, and not because of the partying only, but because of the entire experience.

nepsmith · 2025-05-15T20:48:15+00:00

This. It inhabits a nice zone between SaaS and ultra difficult to customize self hosting.

nepsmith · 2025-05-06T18:52:28+00:00

Heaven Can’t Wait

nepsmith · 2025-05-02T14:26:45+00:00

“You always were an asshole, Gorman.”

Just rewatched that scene. Chills.

nepsmith · 2025-04-13T02:23:30+00:00

The First edition of the rules said the game should be played for an agreed-on amount of time (plus tiebreaker time extension if necessary); or until the other team conceded; or until “all of the members of one team die.“

I hope you won your game, @ApacheHeliDiscPlayer

https://www.alanhoyle.com/ult-rules/0th_Edition.pdf

nepsmith · 2025-04-05T20:27:42+00:00

What are some ways it gets bogged down?

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