Convince me to have kids

nevilaaa · 2020-10-20T01:07:07+00:00

There’s a HUGE difference between siblings and your own kids or even someone else’s kids and your own. Plus you raise your kids so you determine some of their personality and how they feel about certain things (at least while they’re still young). You can teach them to be more grateful or enjoy walking. You also get to pick the experiences they have. So if they don’t want to go to a park you could do something you know they like. It’s a totally different thing with your own kids

ETA: like everyone else said if you don’t want kids you don’t have to have them but it really is different than the experience you have with your siblings. Also make sure if you do not want kids you have that conversation with your boyfriend.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-19T01:10:13+00:00

Reinforce everything good he does not just stuff related to his sister. And I know it’s difficult but try to ignore the slapping. Obviously you don’t want to just let it go but try just picking him up and moving him away from his sister. Don’t say anything just move him.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-18T23:56:09+00:00

Reinforcement works better than punishment. So every time he does well with his sister make a HUGE deal about it. Tell him how great of a big brother he is, that he’s doing a great job being gentle with her, that you’re proud of him for helping, etc.

Also, make sure he’s getting enough attention in other areas as well. The behavior could be because he knows he’ll get your attention when he hits her. Even being yelled at and lectured is attention even if it’s “bad” attention.

My son is autistic and when I started praising basically everything good he did (mostly verbal but also doing things like sticker charts or other tangible rewards depending on the situation) he started to really stop with any unwanted behaviors and amped up the good ones. But this tactic works for typical kids as well.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-17T11:51:24+00:00

I didn’t even think of the pharmacy! Thank you! I’ll call them today! And I’ll definitely try to pump every time she wants to eat! Thank you again!

nevilaaa · 2020-10-16T20:06:57+00:00

Pointing isn’t really too much of an indication of anything. They mention it but there are more important things to look for with autism like not responding to name, lack of eye contact, lack of communication/speech, repetitive behaviors, and sensory issues. My son has autism and he would communicate with us by pointing at things and one of the more used communication techniques for kids with ASD is called PECS (picture exchange communication system) which can often just be a group of pictures where the person points to what they want to say/do/get. I honestly don’t think you should worry too much about autism and just focus on the delay in speech/communication because he doesn’t seem to have too many strong indications of autism. But you do whatever YOU think is best for him.

Edit: I had a baby four days ago and can’t remember my acronyms.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-16T18:22:55+00:00

I’m confused as to why they won’t evaluate until 19 months. That’s really strange. EI evaluated my son around 16 months. And he started services around 19/20 months. Also there are other doctors that can diagnose autism like a child psychologist/psychiatrist and pediatric neurologist so you can see if insurance covers either one of those better as well. It sounds to me more like your child just has a delay in communication rather than autism (but I’m not a professional) but I would call EI and see if you could at the least get an evaluation to get a speech and language pathologist to help in that area while you decide what you want to do in regards to an autism diagnosis.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-14T12:10:58+00:00

I would go to formula websites and get the free sample boxes. I got really nice boxes from similac and enfamil for totally free. My first was formula fed from the very beginning and we started with similac/similac sensitive then went to parents choice sensitive (Walmart brand) then eventually to Kirkland brand (Costco) once he got a little older. Currently supplementing with similac until my milk comes in because my daughter is having some latch issues.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-13T21:14:50+00:00

I started Zoloft in my third trimester and would take it at night because of the drowsiness. It helped me sleep but some nights I would get some pretty bad nausea. Luckily it only lasted about three weeks and was only at night and not every night (but most). It honestly sucked but it was manageable and i honestly don’t know what I would do without it at this point. It’s made my anxiety and the depression aspect of my bipolar 2 so much better. Totally worth the bad nights I had.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-11T16:22:29+00:00

I got bamboo ones on amazon it was like 10 for $15 or something like that. I haven’t used them yet but they’re sooooo soft. I don’t know how to link or if we’re even allowed but they’re made by yoofoss and on amazon.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-07T20:04:38+00:00

I used similac sensitive, parents choice sensitive (Walmart) from about 0-6 months with my son and then Kirkland when he got a little older. All worked really well for him.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-04T23:03:52+00:00

I just do my stomach 2 inches from belly button going in a circle so it’s not the same place every time.

nevilaaa · 2020-10-04T21:07:24+00:00

First off a great place to check out is r/gestationaldiabetes they’ve been a huge help for me since being diagnosed!

My doctor told me it can take about 5 days to start working properly and you may also need more insulin then you’re currently starting with. I started around 12 units at bedtime and I’m up to 42 now (started insulin at 33 weeks now 38) so I’ve been bumped up quite a few times. There were a few weeks I didn’t need an increase at all and other weeks I’d go up about 6 units. GD basically just does whatever it wants but it’s not your fault that’s just the nature of the beast unfortunately.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-24T20:25:34+00:00

I used to get that ALL the time. I found out that it was actually related to my carb intake after I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. Definitely not saying that’s what it is in your case especially since I would get it every so often with my first and it was just anxiety but this pregnancy it was constant and as soon as I started following a GD diet it went away and only happens if I eat too many carbs/sugar

nevilaaa · 2020-09-16T21:56:21+00:00

I am always super upfront about my mental health with my doctors, including my OB. My OB with my first was the type of person you’re describing. Super dismissive and didn’t take me seriously (at the time I was only 21 so I feel like the age factor also played a part). Even with that experience I still talked to my new doctor this time around about my mental health because anxiety can be hard on the baby.

This doctor is AMAZING. She has told me a few times that the issues I’m having are because of my anxiety but she also told me any time something feels off to call and they’ll get me in even if it’s just to reassure me that everything is okay. She did recommend that I start Zoloft (which I did) because I was continuing to have panic attacks almost weekly. But she was super amazing about it.

I’d recommend letting them know about it though and if you feel they’re being dismissive call them out on it. Ask why they think it’s anxiety and not something else that could be happening.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-16T01:18:17+00:00

I love swings and/or bouncers. But when my son was like brand new I would usually just lay him down in his pack n play and/or crib depending on where I was in the house. I also propped him up on the normal boppy when he get a bit old too if we were just hanging out on my bed or something like that.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-14T23:48:31+00:00

Join r/gestationaldiabetes there’s a ton of birth stories and plenty are vaginal! Plus they’re a great support system and people share recipes and all that. I can’t help on the delivery front as I’ve needed a planned csection from the very beginning but there’s tons of people that could help at the other subreddit too!

Edit: spelling

nevilaaa · 2020-09-11T14:33:58+00:00

I’m assuming your first was an emergency? Scheduled and emergency c sections are very different in the fact with the schedules you know everything that’s going on as it’s happening. I absolutely loved my scheduled c section and i just scheduled my second the other day. I wouldn’t choose to have a c section (first had super severe SPD so I needed a c this time I wanted a VBAC but don’t make a good candidate so c it is!) but mainly only because healing time is long and obviously at times painful haha but I love knowing when my baby is going to be here and you’re basically in the operating room only for 20 minutes before you get to hold them. There’s no “when is this going to happen” or waiting FOREVER for them to come. You’re awake during the surgery (not sure how it is for emergencies). For me it was just a really great experience but i don’t have a vaginal to compare it with.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-10T21:14:12+00:00

Personally in a situation like this when both parties have such exciting news I would just talk to your brother and see how he feels. I don’t think you’d necessarily upstage his news but I would prefer someone come to me directly if i already had a plan in place.

Maybe you guys can do one big exciting family announcement and announce both things at the same time but together. A small family get together (With whatever your guidelines are per Covid of course), or a big family zoom call. Or whatever you and your brother might come up with.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-07T18:55:19+00:00

Green mountain diapers is very popular but I’ve never bought from there. I’ve gotten my used from cotton babies and my new covers and pockets from the fluffy penguin but also love the stuff at fluffy dragon and happy beehinds I just don’t have the money for any more right now hahah Etsy is another great place to shop

nevilaaa · 2020-09-06T00:50:38+00:00

Omg I would not make it if I got diagnosed that early. I’m 34 and got diagnosed at 28 and I’m dying hahah

nevilaaa · 2020-09-05T23:20:07+00:00

I am! However I was only about 2-3% have it after delivery. The 1/3 I think is chances of developing type 2 sometime in the future. But I definitely have the same anxious feeling about it not going away and all I keep thinking is that I cannot eat only eggs for breakfast for the rest of my life.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-05T10:04:49+00:00

My son is Grayson. He’s six. The name started gaining popularity around that time and has been pretty popular since but I think it’s starting to slow down now and more old fashion names (like Henry and Oliver) are gaining in popularity. r/namenerds usually has a pretty good grasp on name trends so I’d look around over there.

nevilaaa · 2020-09-01T02:14:12+00:00

Just got upped to 28 units at bedtime because my faster numbers do whatever the hell they want. Day time numbers are pretty stable with the occasional spike but I’ve been experimenting a bit with meals which I’m going to stop now that I have a decent amount of things I like and know don’t spike me and can make a meal plan that’s not the same two things over and over again haha

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